he is fuming & broke up with me

[AIBUfolk]

My partner has just broken up with me. I can understand why he is annoyed but to break up with me?

He owed his cousin £50 from earlier today (it's not that he didn't have money they were out together and he forgot his wallet at home) this cousin of his and i do not get along what's so ever. We haven't spoke in years, she makes my blood boil and I know I make hers boil too. We had a run in years ago and she attacked me , long story short she's an animal. His cousin and him are very close , he would class her more as a sister.

ANYWAY, dp had asked me if he gave me her bank details would i bank her £50 and he would give me it cash as his online banking was down , I said no 1000x as i hate her too much I don't want my name on her transactions. I'm well aware I sound petty but I'm sure she would hate to see my name also. I gave in but I popped in the reference as "forced transaction" and sent the money, DP was absolutely furious, shouted at me that were done and stormed off too bed.

I'm well aware this all sounds childish and petty. But he knows we can't stand each other. The transaction wasn't exactly forced but if I hadn't of done it I would of had to of listen to dp cry 🙄 the "forced translation" was definitely me being smart as I just can't with this woman, I can't be bitter enough.

I just hope the bank doesn't pick up the reference it won't look to good...

I would do the same, I'm not hypocrite, if he was demanding for that favor knowing you can't stand her, what he was expecting? Little hearts? I thought was quite funny actually, people are too sensitive this days, if he did broke up because of that, he is a ridiculous man, move on.. I bet he didn't was just making a position or something. But yeah people with " strong" personality have hard times 😂 good for you 💖

Jeremy Kyle fodder.

Puerile.

You honestly believe it's puerile for OP to be upset about being a victim of physical assault when he was pregnant? If your username is accurate, Dublin really has gone to the dogs.

Why could he have not given her the cash? Seems like she is local. This all sounds pathetic as if he wanted to provke a row to have an excuse to break up. Grow up.

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Banking apps usually are updated at unsociable hours to minimise disruption.
If it goes down unplanned it's usually an hour or so max or it would make the news!
Either way forced transaction sounds pathetic.
You're all better off out of it

It's a bit weird that your partner is very close to someone who you say attacked you, but the way you acted sounds in isolation very childish. There was zero need to put 'forced transaction' on it, surely just send the money and be done with it without getting petty jibes in

I was thinking this!

OP I think most on here are giving you too hard a time. As far as I'm aware the reference on a transaction is for yours and the recipient's info and the bank computer would likely not flag it up.

The cousin sounds horrific and it's bound to cause trouble when your DP hangs out with a woman that attacked you. Does he always have such little respect for you? I think you're well shot of him and his awful family.

Also it's a flimsy excuse for ending a relationship, sounds like he was looking for any old reason and something else is going on behind the scenes.

You two sound 13 and frankly too young to be in a relationship. Haven't read something this ridiculous in a long time.

Now it doesn't sounds as childish

She is also his family. And their kids... family isn't just blood!

Childish and pathetic - yes

But the question is why are you with someone who's cousin has attacked you and her children have shouted abuse at you? They sound awful.

How old are you?? 🤯

It's your husband who's being petty about money. It's for spending and it's yours to do as you please will it. Wish you all the best dear.

Throughout your life, you'll probably meet people that you don't get on with and in rare and extreme cases, absolutely loathe. As an adult, you can choose to just get on with it, be civil, and not be petty. In this instance, it's fine to not have any contact with someone if you dislike them, however, sending some money over as a favour to your partner doesn't require any direct contact with that person and it's silly to not do it.

You need to understand that your partner has family. Despite how much you may hate some family members, you still just have to get on with it and not lower yourself to their levels (referencing her/her kids shouting abuse at you). If that's what she is like, she sounds like hard work. But to not do your own partner a favour just because you don't want to see her name is ridiculous.

Conclusion. She sounds like a piece of work, you sound petty, and it sounds like your partner is stuck in the middle and, assuming it's not the first time he's heard both of you complain to him about each other rentlentlessly, was probably just done with it all. He's not going to give up his sister-like cousin, so it had to be you.

How old are you? 12? Grow up. I understand hating someone but to be so childish as to write a transaction like that? Seriously?

Sounds like breaking up is actually for the best, I understand being angry over your now ex choosing to stay close to his cousin (I left my child's father over this when his sister attacked me for saying I'd parent my child how I chose and she could do the same for her children) but I do not understand the need to continue being venomous, be the bigger person. The whole relationship ship sounds toxic for both ends.

Take it as a blessing and move o .

Your too immature to be in a relationship

The ‘how old are you?’ questions are getting a little tiresome now.

OP it doesn’t sound like it was worth provoking her.

To me it sounds like your idiot boyfriend wanted you to pay her, lied about his online banking not working and then has done a ‘runner’ so you won’t get the cash back from him.

And the idea that he would cry is just weird.

Omg really good course for