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he is fuming & broke up with me

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AIBUfolk · 10/03/2024 23:03

My partner has just broken up with me. I can understand why he is annoyed but to break up with me?

He owed his cousin £50 from earlier today (it's not that he didn't have money they were out together and he forgot his wallet at home) this cousin of his and i do not get along what's so ever. We haven't spoke in years, she makes my blood boil and I know I make hers boil too. We had a run in years ago and she attacked me , long story short she's an animal. His cousin and him are very close , he would class her more as a sister.

ANYWAY, dp had asked me if he gave me her bank details would i bank her £50 and he would give me it cash as his online banking was down , I said no 1000x as i hate her too much I don't want my name on her transactions. I'm well aware I sound petty but I'm sure she would hate to see my name also. I gave in but I popped in the reference as "forced transaction" and sent the money, DP was absolutely furious, shouted at me that were done and stormed off too bed.

I'm well aware this all sounds childish and petty. But he knows we can't stand each other. The transaction wasn't exactly forced but if I hadn't of done it I would of had to of listen to dp cry 🙄 the "forced translation" was definitely me being smart as I just can't with this woman, I can't be bitter enough.

I just hope the bank doesn't pick up the reference it won't look to good...

OP posts:
Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 11/03/2024 08:17

Valencia8 · 11/03/2024 01:31

By god what’s wrong with ejits that think they’re so funny “what in the Jeremy Kyle is this” by Billiee and “it did, thats why it’s here instead” by MonsteraMama, that’s why you’re here I guess MonsteraMama?, you guys are the type of people that make things into a Jeremy Kyle situation. Either be nice or don’t comment, pretty simple mate. Shout out to all those people who commented something hurtful or witty, you all come across as people who have nothing better to do than to make drama.

But it does sound very Kyle like in terms of drama. Made in Chelsea have their own upper class version of this drama 🤣

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 11/03/2024 08:18

PSEnny · 11/03/2024 07:14

This is one of the most chavvy posts I have ever read. His online banking was down? What bollocks, you simply open your banking app and make a transaction.
You sound much better off without either of them in your life. They sound gross.

Chavvy is a racist insult. Don’t use it.

StopTheBusINeedAWeeWeeAWeeWeeBagOChips · 11/03/2024 08:21

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 11/03/2024 08:18

Chavvy is a racist insult. Don’t use it.

How is it racist? 🤨

SpringtimeBunny · 11/03/2024 08:23

Bank her?

MorningSunshineSparkles · 11/03/2024 08:24

Jesus wept.

Maddy70 · 11/03/2024 08:24

I would have dumped you too. You sound incredibly petty. Who has the energy for all that drama

thepastinsidethepresent · 11/03/2024 08:25

Some vile class snobbery on this thread.

Pottedpalm · 11/03/2024 08:26

Sounds like your life is one big East Enders style drama.

NotStayingIn · 11/03/2024 08:37

I really wish you had dumped him instead of doing the transfer.

This set up, with him being best friends with someone who attacked you, was never going to end well for you. Add to that him bullying you into something you don’t want to do, that he should have known would cause more drama, is also bad news.

Focus on being happy that you’re rid of this guy!

PablosTescoBar · 11/03/2024 08:39

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 11/03/2024 08:18

Chavvy is a racist insult. Don’t use it.

Which part of the world does the race of the Chav originate from? Please enlighten us 🙄.

Paisley19 · 11/03/2024 08:42

@PablosTescoBar 😂

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 11/03/2024 08:42

PablosTescoBar · 11/03/2024 08:39

Which part of the world does the race of the Chav originate from? Please enlighten us 🙄.

I thought chav related to Romany and I’ve just googled and it is a Romany word.

Ilovelifeverymuch · 11/03/2024 08:43

TwylaSands · 10/03/2024 23:06

Be glad the relationship is over. Start a new relationship with someone who wont prioritise a cousin who attacked you. they sound rough as toast.

Edited

Sorry but OP sounds childish as well, frankly they all are and should all move on.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 11/03/2024 08:44

StopTheBusINeedAWeeWeeAWeeWeeBagOChips · 11/03/2024 08:21

How is it racist? 🤨

Wiki calls it social racism.

Ilovelifeverymuch · 11/03/2024 08:44

AIBUfolk · 10/03/2024 23:09

I 100% see why this is childish and pathetic but I live my life pretending this woman doesn't exist , I've seen her in public lots of times I walk straight past as if I've never seen her in my life, she gets her children to shout abuse at me... we're different. Dp is well aware I pretend she doesn't exist so he shouldn't even bother asking me to bank her money.

Move on, there's no point being in an relationship with someone who is close to someone you hate so much.

nosleepforme · 11/03/2024 08:45

No this is so wrong. I’d be devastated if sky dp did that!
that’s not to mean you have to like her or have a relationship but that crosses the line of disrespect in your relationship with dp!

Peekaboobo · 11/03/2024 08:45

DrJoanAllenby · 11/03/2024 00:04

linky no worky

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 11/03/2024 08:47

Of course the bank will pick up the transaction and you're right it won't look good.What the hell are they meant to think when they see forced transaction!!! Also they may not even let it go through.

To be honest I think he's probably been wanting to break up with you for a while and this has given him his "excuse". You're well rid though TBH.

Also please don't call her an animal. That's a damn insult to animals.

StopStartStop · 11/03/2024 08:47

Well worth £50 to see the back of him.

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 11/03/2024 08:50

So many red flags - I too would be fuming and dump you

Peekaboobo · 11/03/2024 08:50

What was the £50 for? Thats a lot of money for lunch or breakfast out.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 11/03/2024 08:50

AIBUfolk · 10/03/2024 23:03

My partner has just broken up with me. I can understand why he is annoyed but to break up with me?

He owed his cousin £50 from earlier today (it's not that he didn't have money they were out together and he forgot his wallet at home) this cousin of his and i do not get along what's so ever. We haven't spoke in years, she makes my blood boil and I know I make hers boil too. We had a run in years ago and she attacked me , long story short she's an animal. His cousin and him are very close , he would class her more as a sister.

ANYWAY, dp had asked me if he gave me her bank details would i bank her £50 and he would give me it cash as his online banking was down , I said no 1000x as i hate her too much I don't want my name on her transactions. I'm well aware I sound petty but I'm sure she would hate to see my name also. I gave in but I popped in the reference as "forced transaction" and sent the money, DP was absolutely furious, shouted at me that were done and stormed off too bed.

I'm well aware this all sounds childish and petty. But he knows we can't stand each other. The transaction wasn't exactly forced but if I hadn't of done it I would of had to of listen to dp cry 🙄 the "forced translation" was definitely me being smart as I just can't with this woman, I can't be bitter enough.

I just hope the bank doesn't pick up the reference it won't look to good...

He'd have cried if you hadn't gave his cousin money. Thats full on weird.

betterangels · 11/03/2024 08:55

You think he's shagging his cousin? Why in the hell were you even with him? Complete dumpster fire.

DriftingDora · 11/03/2024 08:57

You all sound about 10, and immature with it. And your penultimate paragraph makes no sense at all.

PumpkinsAndCoconuts · 11/03/2024 08:58

& yes. Assaulted me physically, WHILST pregnant. I choose to ignore her, she is obsessed with me. When I see her in public she gives me the middle fingers and gets her children to shout abuse.

And he´s still close to her?

There is either some massive backstory. Or he´s absolutely awful and should have stood up for his pregnant partner!
Why are you still with him? Time to get yourself as far away as possible from this man and his abusive and violent family!!

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