he is fuming & broke up with me

[AIBUfolk]

My partner has just broken up with me. I can understand why he is annoyed but to break up with me?

He owed his cousin £50 from earlier today (it's not that he didn't have money they were out together and he forgot his wallet at home) this cousin of his and i do not get along what's so ever. We haven't spoke in years, she makes my blood boil and I know I make hers boil too. We had a run in years ago and she attacked me , long story short she's an animal. His cousin and him are very close , he would class her more as a sister.

ANYWAY, dp had asked me if he gave me her bank details would i bank her £50 and he would give me it cash as his online banking was down , I said no 1000x as i hate her too much I don't want my name on her transactions. I'm well aware I sound petty but I'm sure she would hate to see my name also. I gave in but I popped in the reference as "forced transaction" and sent the money, DP was absolutely furious, shouted at me that were done and stormed off too bed.

I'm well aware this all sounds childish and petty. But he knows we can't stand each other. The transaction wasn't exactly forced but if I hadn't of done it I would of had to of listen to dp cry 🙄 the "forced translation" was definitely me being smart as I just can't with this woman, I can't be bitter enough.

I just hope the bank doesn't pick up the reference it won't look to good...

He's entitled to break up with you for whatever reason. Just be done with him.

I hope you get your £50 back from him.

He forgot his money AND his internet banking was down. I'd be suspicious about that tbh.

She refused repeatedly. He pressured her into it. He said his banking app was down. Unlikely and even if true, why couldnt the cousin wait fifteen mins for him to pay? I doubt op will see that money again. So absolutely a forced transaction.

op, does he owe you any money at all?

I would have just refused and said it's between him and his cousin, nothing to do with me.

If pushed I'd have said he's essentially asking me to do her a favour, not just him, and maybe she should treat people with respect if she wants favours.

And I wouldn't discuss it anymore. If he didn't have you he'd have to find another solution.

You were petty though, and now you've given both him and her something to bite on about how "crazy" you are.

“Forced transaction”. 😂

Absolutely fucking ridiculous.

He shouldn't have asked you to get involved knowing you don't like her, and really your response should have been, Oh Hell No, figure something else out that doesn't involve me.

I just think he should of left it when I said no, I wasn't banking the money. Only he literally begged me so I was like okay "forced transaction" completely understand it's so petty. But DP knows fine rightly this woman doesn't exist to me so why am I sending her money?

& yes. Assaulted me physically, WHILST pregnant. I choose to ignore her, she is obsessed with me. When I see her in public she gives me the middle fingers and gets her children to shout abuse.

And for the poster who said are you sure their not shagging 🤣 I've thought this before even my friends have asked me this. Funny enough someone asked me was her son my partners son 😳 I'll say no more

None in this story sounds old enough to actually have a bank account in their own name.

All of you are wrong in multiple ways.

A dose of maturity wouldn't go astray.

This is on you for getting in with a roughneck family. Cancel the transaction if its at all possible. & take a step back and work on your self-esteem as saying yes in the 1st place shouldn't even have been an option. I bet he comes crawling back after a while if he thinks you're an easy touch anyway

I think this relationship being over sounds the best thing all round for everyone.

What a load of nonsense. Either it is made up or you are all beyond stupid.

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I can't make out if he's upset because (1) it's awkward for him that you hate/ignore his cousin and he doesn't think your reasons are legitimate (in which case this may be a "straw that broke the camel's back" thing) or (2) your reluctance/unwillingness to help him out with (what he thinks should be) a simple favour partners would naturally do for each other has made him question the relationship and/or (3) he's literally upset just because you wrote "forced transaction" on the reference?

If it's 1, aren't you also somewhat resentful that he is still seeing this cousin after what she has done to you? At the least, it seems like he should honour your request not to mention her name, assuming he can avoid it without your asking too many questions.

If it's 2, I guess it depends how urgently she needed the money - could it not have waited until his bank was back online, or until he saw her in person to give her cash, or asked a friend/colleague to help in the morning?

If it's 3, he's being unreasonable. Did he ask you to put a specific reference and you put your own instead? If he didn't, you can put whatever you like; it's for your reference. I suppose if the money transfer was really urgent and he had no other way you could have logged him into your account and had him send the trx with a reference saying "this is James - thanks for the loan today", but is it really that big a deal? She got the money.

Anyway, he no longer wants to be in the relationship, so he has every right to end it. Do you really want it to continue/resume?

What a weird family dynamic. She hates you, you hate her, he goes out with her to socialise, her kids give you the middle finger and she’s attacked you - yet you’re still with him? It’s like a real life Corrie or Eastenders story line. Raise your bar OP.

You all sound rough and childish.

You all sound unreasonable and childish quite frankly, what a ridiculous set of circumstances to create drama about. It doesn't sound like a relationship with solid foundations

Classy.

I thought Jeremy Kyle got axed years ago?

Forced transaction 😂😂😂

There’s me thinking this forum was purely based on children..
However, if someone wants to express their views on here to let off a bit of steam then they shouldn’t have to be confronted by comments such as “ All sounds pathetic….” By ExtraOnions and “ what a load of nonsense. Either it is made up or you are all beyond stupid” By Cyclealong and “ I thought Jeremy Kyle got axed years ago?” By WhateverMate
If you don’t think it’s worth your time reading this then surely it’s not worth your time to comment!
If any of you are parents then I’m truly surprised by your hurtful comments.

What in the Jeremy Kyle is this?

It did, that's why they're here instead.

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