he is fuming & broke up with me

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My partner has just broken up with me. I can understand why he is annoyed but to break up with me?

He owed his cousin £50 from earlier today (it's not that he didn't have money they were out together and he forgot his wallet at home) this cousin of his and i do not get along what's so ever. We haven't spoke in years, she makes my blood boil and I know I make hers boil too. We had a run in years ago and she attacked me , long story short she's an animal. His cousin and him are very close , he would class her more as a sister.

ANYWAY, dp had asked me if he gave me her bank details would i bank her £50 and he would give me it cash as his online banking was down , I said no 1000x as i hate her too much I don't want my name on her transactions. I'm well aware I sound petty but I'm sure she would hate to see my name also. I gave in but I popped in the reference as "forced transaction" and sent the money, DP was absolutely furious, shouted at me that were done and stormed off too bed.

I'm well aware this all sounds childish and petty. But he knows we can't stand each other. The transaction wasn't exactly forced but if I hadn't of done it I would of had to of listen to dp cry 🙄 the "forced translation" was definitely me being smart as I just can't with this woman, I can't be bitter enough.

I just hope the bank doesn't pick up the reference it won't look to good...

How old are you?! Unless you’re a teenager this is ridiculous

Sounds like he got out while he could. Your sound absolutely pathetic

Really? Sorry but teenagers aren’t this dramatic 🤦‍♀️yes very petty & all of you could do with growing up. Sorry

Whereas he sounds like an absolute prince??

Have to say that none of you sound very classy. Your bank may well query the transaction so be prepared for the ensuing sh*t show.

Are you all in high school?

You’re right, he shouldn’t have, but you didn’t have to do the transaction. What you did was immature and stupid. I’d be surprised if the bank don’t contact you given the amount of genuine forced transactions exploiting people, that they have to deal with. I don’t think they will be very happy with your explanation. It’s possible you will have your account closed!

Grow up the lot of you

I would be interested to know if there is any follow-up by the bank. Are these things actually read, other than by computer?

Pathetic for being upset about physical assault while pregnant? Do you honestly stand by that?

No, it isn't - it goes back to the 1860s. (Your described acronym is is arecent(ish) invention for a 19 th century word)

Council Housed and Violent is more bacronym than acronym. It's a retrospective explanation.

This

Sounds like you're better off?!?!?

No it isn't. As someone has already explained, it's of Romany origin.

https://www.birmingham.ac.uk/accessibility/transcripts/dr-joe-bennett-chav#:~:text=Joe%3A%20It%20comes%20from%20a,things%2C%20it's%20sort%20of%20spread.

I can't believe people are still using this slur in 2024. But it seems this thread was doomed from the start when the snobby mean girls descended and set the tone.

Agreed. Sounds like a low budget Jerry Springer episode.

Be glad your out of it

Imagine years on..you get engaged / married and have to attend loads a family functions were his cousin will be there also .
A recipe for toxicness

Anyone else getting Burberry ads alongside the thread with an argument about the word "chavs" 😂

She physically attacked you?

Why were you still with this man after he continued a relationship with someone who assaulted you?

Be glad your not with him. To me it doesn't sound Petty at all I'm 32 years old and if I had this type of drama in my life my anxiety would be through the roof.

Hi all,

Just hoping to get some advice on raising twins i am due July!

Any helpful tips are greatly appreciated

Thank you all in advance

I am always here for pettiness, it made me laugh because I'd of done something simular. It could of waited till his banking was back up, He could of gave her it in cash, didn't need to get you involved.

This woman attacked you. Yes it's his cousin but you are his partner and you've been together for a long time by the sounds of it. Personally I'd be out of there, see ya. You deserve better. I've cut my partners family off for things they did and he backed me up and doesn't speak to them either. We'd been together 3 years then, we've been together. 15 years now. He should at least understand how you feel and why. Even if he doesn't agree... the fact she went and told him aswell.

If he was going to end it surley he'd of packed his bags and gone. But he's just kicked off by the sounds of it. But it does need a conversation because he should be at least understanding of the situation.

Edit* just read you've kids together, he let her attack you when you were pregnant and he thinks that's ok? Then he wants to end it over a forced transaction. Think he needs to get his priorities correct. You and the kids should come first. Sounds like a weird relationship with them tbh.

If he wants to end it let him, let him have his weird cousin because she'll never let him be happy with anyone, she'd always ruin any relationship he had. He needs to get a grip and stand up for his family X

Thanks for this. I think the slur is disgusting which is why I objected to it. It’s cheap, nasty and an easy put down.

Wouldnt worry about the title on the transaction. Im pretty sure banks have seen much worse, they dont actually give guidance on what to put and its more of an aide memoire for the customer. As for reaction of partner, hes a muppet who deserves binning and clearly doesnt give a shit about you.

My sil had twins and when my dil had them 2.5 yrs ago her advice was always have a 2nd person on hand to assist as much as pos. Id say try and get a routine going asap and dont have too many expectations. The 1st 2yrs are the hardest