he is fuming & broke up with me

[AIBUfolk]

My partner has just broken up with me. I can understand why he is annoyed but to break up with me?

He owed his cousin £50 from earlier today (it's not that he didn't have money they were out together and he forgot his wallet at home) this cousin of his and i do not get along what's so ever. We haven't spoke in years, she makes my blood boil and I know I make hers boil too. We had a run in years ago and she attacked me , long story short she's an animal. His cousin and him are very close , he would class her more as a sister.

ANYWAY, dp had asked me if he gave me her bank details would i bank her £50 and he would give me it cash as his online banking was down , I said no 1000x as i hate her too much I don't want my name on her transactions. I'm well aware I sound petty but I'm sure she would hate to see my name also. I gave in but I popped in the reference as "forced transaction" and sent the money, DP was absolutely furious, shouted at me that were done and stormed off too bed.

I'm well aware this all sounds childish and petty. But he knows we can't stand each other. The transaction wasn't exactly forced but if I hadn't of done it I would of had to of listen to dp cry 🙄 the "forced translation" was definitely me being smart as I just can't with this woman, I can't be bitter enough.

I just hope the bank doesn't pick up the reference it won't look to good...

You're with someone who prioritises the person who attacked you while you were pregnant?

Bigger issue than a temporary loan of £50.

Oh crikey, just noticed there's a child. The only one I feel sorry for.

Feel better now?

What's the saying - rough as a robbers dog? 😁

you all sound as rough as badgers backsides.

Testina · Yesterday 23:16

I’d love it if you bank contacted you and you had to explain you were a dick.

😂😂

By god what's wrong with this ejit you mean? I didn't think I was being funny whatsoever, the OP has a partner who has a cousin who he classes more as a sister who the OP and all her friends think is shagging his cousin who he thinks of as a sister. 100% Jeremy Kyle material. No need to quote what everyone has said.

She assaulted you while you were pregnant. Is he your child's father?

She insults you in public and teaches her children to do the same. Does he do anything at all to protect and defend you and deal with his cousin's behaviour?

Yesterday, Mothers’ Day he was out - not with you, but with her. What were they doing?

There is suspicion he may be her child's father.

She lends him £50. What was that for?

He's forgotten his wallet / his banking was down … any other excuses?

He begs you to transfer it to her NOW. Or he’ll cry???

What else did he say/threaten to get you to do this, OP?

You've been in this toxic soup so long you can't see what's happening in front of you, what's obvious to us all.

Their relationship isn't cousinly, or brother/sisterly.

Be aware that your ‘forced transaction’ note may trigger consequences and further investigations.

Awful though it feels right now, being free of them all may be the best thing for you and your child.

This all sounds really unhealthy. Why did he not cut contact with her when she attacked you? How do you have a run in with your partner’s relative in the first place. Why did you react in the most childish way possible and in a way that means your bank may contact you. This all sounds too unhealthy for words and like you should try and get some hobbies and better yourself, and meet nicer people. It sounds like they are in Jeremy Kyle and you’d be better off out of it.

Well it's not about banking drama, is it? It was a shitty abusive relationship that came with a side helping of extra toxicity and assault. What on earth was there to save? Even if he would have been ideal without his cousin, he does have his cousin, so this is what he is and what you get with him. You can't think he enhances your life?

Chav is not racist. Where is the legislation which determines Chav as a protected group?

Her son looking like him I suppose can be explained away because they are blood related. However My guess is he’s banging her like a hammer

Is their surname Dingle ?

Chav is acronym for Council housed and violent.

I agree and good wording

Did you start gossiping about how she might be sleeping with him before or after she turned nasty? Because if it was before her response is not entirely surprising.

Also op please call your bank and say your partner made you do it and ask for it back - may as well finish the pettiness you started!

In a tawdry tale of childish behaviour you just ramped up the pettiness by 100%.

You should have stuck to your guns and refused to do it, or do it quietly and with all the dignity you could muster.

Also, if his online banking was down he could have taken it round to her in cash once he got his wallet back. Being that they are so close and everything, this story sounds like a crock of shit. I suspect he just didn't have the money and wanted to go out on the lash anyway.

And if she really did physically attack you through absolutely no fault of your own and he continues to be close to her and socialise with her knowing what she did, then frankly you are best off out of the whole thing.

I agree - although I can be this disorganized too despite having money in my account as I usually use Apple Pay for everything so I could quite easily have a day like the ex boyf

Truly awful to have assaulted you whilst you were pregnant- even though you share a child i think you're better off not in this relationship and you can be happier single or with a new man who prioritizes your physical and emotional safety

No, it isn't.
English dictionary
Chav - noun
British informal, derogatory - a young working-class person whose tastes, although sometimes expensive, are considered vulgar by some

But he knows we can't stand each other. The transaction wasn't exactly forced but if I hadn't of done it I would of had to of listen to dp cry 🙄

Seriously? he would cry rather than just drop her the cash the next day?

He definitely doesn't have that 50 quid in his account does he? Be honest.

If she walks past your house then it sounds like she lives close enough for him to lift cash and bring it round to her.

😂Of course it does.

Fuck me, I've heard it all now.

Nobody behaved well here. You were more or less forced to transfer money and you didn't want to which is understandable. Then you did a petty thing.