Hiding from uninvited guests

[CrazyCatMom]

My mom texted me today to let me know that her sister and brother-in-law (my aunt and uncle) are visiting today (they live approx. 3hrs away) as it is Mother’s Day tomorrow and they want to see my Grandmother.

I live round the corner from mom, and she said they are likely to want to “pop in” and say hello to me too.

Context: I am 39 weeks pregnant, husband is at work and I have a blissful day planned of playing videogames and eating my weight in custard creams.

So I have moved my car off the drive (to a nearby side road), closed the curtains and locked the doors and will be pretending to be “out” until I am sure they have left!

This would not stop my relatives

Sounds amazing and I hope you’re playing FF7 Rebirth and loving it!

Its really not batshit…

I have the kind of family you could openly text back and say not feeling upto it today and that would be enough. No questions asked and they would be put off from popping round.

Some people have extremely pushy families and dont except that a 39 week pregnant Mum might be wanting a lazy day and no visitors. Its a shame OP had to go to that effort as ‘no’ is all that should be needed.

Exactly. I'm guessing that OP's relatives are the latter type. I call those kinds Sacksville Bagginses and they are a menace.

Only in mn world is this normal behaviour.
The aunt and uncle live three hours away so it's not likely they will be popping in all the time.
They may have had a present for the baby?
Moving the car is nuts as well.

Mumsnet is full of real women with differing opinions. The same women you see in real life, not separate women. This is a website real women use. See how a few of you on this thread are on one side and a few on the other? Differing!

I was just thinking this! It's so odd

I’m in the real world right now and this would be my behaviour. I’m also typing on the internet. Amazing.

They can post the present then, can't they?

Yes, sure they could. Who spends a small fortune on postage when they can just drop it round? Absolutely batshit.

Post it with the op hides from them.
The entitlement is real.

Giggling at all these people getting their knickers in a twist about you being rude.

Absolutely not rude to not want your peace invaded at an unspecified time in a day you were looking forward to relaxing on. It’s kinder to avoid them than to let them in and resent them.

I would send a message saying ‘sorry to miss you but I’m busy for the day, I’ll catch you next time’ - but otherwise enjoy you biscuits + peace.

I dunno, they just want to wish you well, they’ve probably bought a present for the baby. They haven’t just popped round, your Mum has given you warning. Could you not just say ‘I’m only in between 2pm and 3.30pm’. Then play games and eat custard either side of that slot.

Did she ask for a present? And we don't even know that they bought one, it is speculation.

Exactly right

Not at all we does she need to prioritise the feelings of others

The intrinsic nature of presents is that the recipient doesn’t ask. 🙄

She's pregnant not seriously ill. Ridiculous and rude behaviour. More fool them for being bothered about their niece.

Good grief the poor OP just wants a day to relax.

Does anyone seriously think she would have gone to so much effort to hide if she could simply have said she had plans for the day and would catch them on the next visit?

Do people here really just call on people without an invitation and expect to be entertained? Don't you feel rude and entitled about expecting to be welcomed when you've turned up unannounced?

My friends are welcome by invitation, in an emergency and at short notice but not without notice. I wouldn't keep company with anyone who couldn't accept a short notice refusal.

If they were that bothered, why not actually talk to OP and ask?

It is her home after all that they want to “pop” by, not her mum’s.

If they were actually close, they would contact her themselves, would they not?

The problem with replying to say that you’re not up to visitors is it risks all your family going “Oh wow! She must be in labour!!!”

Jesus. Just say it's not convenient.

I can ...and it's no problem. Everyone to their own.

OP doesn't want them to drop round. She is 39 weeks pregnant and has other plans. They could just leave the imaginary present with OPs parents.

I don’t, I think it’s batshit.