Mothers Day should be banned

[DinnaeFashYersel]

Thread after thread on here with Mothers Day drama and grief

Partners who haven't made any plans
Partners whose plans aren't WOW enough
Mothers v MILs
Mothers v Mothers and MILS
Partner isn't making plans for mother of unborn baby
Blended family dramas
The list goes on and on

Post Mothers Day will have the threads

He forgot
It was rubbish compared to the elaborate day he got for Fathers Day
MIL spoiled it
Etc

Its not worth it. It seems to be make so many people unhappy and angry and we'd be better off without.

YABU: its a cherished and important day, how dare you even ask
YANBU: ban it and save us all from the grief and drama

Full disclosure: I celebrate it to the extent that my kids will serve me tea and (burnt) toast in bed. Otherwise its a normal day. And of course I know it won't actually be banned. Its just a discussion.

If we are banning things that cause drama on mumsnet, there will very little left. 😅

It’s another expense isn’t it and you feel obliged to do something nice. It’s not even a month (or a payday!) for some people after Valentine’s Day, then there’s birthdays and Christmas.

😂 very true

I'm with you op. Dp is not my child. If the dc 10 and 12 want to call a shop on the way home from school for a card and a chocolate bar they can with pleasure. If they don't? Well it won't faze me in the slightest.

All the threads are mental!!

I've got my mum a card and some stuff for her garden. I've got dps mum a card, but he can decide what he wants to get her.

Its totally commercialised and pants. Like everything else really

No of course it should t. Banning stuff because a few people are taking it out of proportion is in itself and out of proportion response.

Mother's Day here means DD will make me a card, get me a token of affection and make me a bad breakfast with good intentions.

Then I'll take her to a birthday party she's been invited to and hang around in the cold for a couple of hours while she has fun.

It doesn't have to be a huge bells and whistles debacle and people turning it into one are setting themselves up for failure.

Quite 🤣

The threads should be banned. Not MD itself 😉

Guess we've had our last Christmas too...

It’s a Christian ‘festival’ and we’re a Christian country so if we ban Mother’s Day then might as well ban all the other things too: Christmas, Easter, Shrove Tuesday, etc.
Good luck with that!

Can’t believe how bothered people are about Mother’s Day and it’s not just MN it’s all if we Facebook. Try being a lone parent I will get fuck all on Mother’s Day and really couldn’t care less, seem to be the only one that doesn’t care about it though.

I'd love to see it just stripped back to what I was when I was a kid , I made a card at school ,gave my mum some flowers I picked and a chocolate bar .

I'll get absolutely flamed for this but social media has a lot to do with how much upset there is . So many posts of over the top mothers days will be on there that other posters get upset that their mothers say isn't as good . Its become competitive and lost some of its meaning

I enjoy Mother's Day.
My DD does too.
My MIL (now deceased) did and my SM does.

No one in our family creates drama around it. No high expectations. No row about where to spend it.

We enjoy the day, celebrate our respective mother roles and then move on.

No need to ban it.

I've never been bothered. If they do something then that's nice. I prefer being appreciated year round rather than on one day, which my kids do. I don't need a day.

That's to do with dickheads on SM though. Valentine's Day was the same. We ended up cooking DD a steak dinner as she wanted what we were having. Nothing got posted on SM by me or DH because we aren't dicks

It's a Christian Festival, Mothering Sunday, where people return to their 'Mother Church'. It's far too commercialised and causes too much drama now!

There's a heavy whiff of martyrdom on most of the Mother's Day threads. "I sacrifice for you constantly, and I resent it deeply, so it's your job to make it up to me by making a huge fuss on Mother's Day."

I became a mother because I wanted to. A card is nice, and I also get breakfast in bed, but my DC don't owe me some extravaganza because I chose to have them for my own fulfilment. And DH's relationship with his DM is between him and her. There is no need for it to be such a drama.

We should be expecting men to do better not sacrificing our day

Is MD really a Christian Festival? Hadn't heard that one before.

PS - don't agree we are a Christian country but that's another debate (runs away and hides behind the sofa 😂)

😂😂😂 First post nailed it.

I came on to post my own drama. To remind DH or not. I’m trying to step back from the mental load and not hold it all. I’m pretty sure he’s completely forgotten. He’s not busy. I might just let him fail. But DS will feel bad. But then he will also learn that remembering such dates takes a modicum of effort.

Try telling my mother it should banned. She doesn't speak to me if I forget to get her a card

What we should really be doing is putting all of the energy that gets wasted on hand wringing over days like this into teaching adults to have adult relationships where they communicate their needs to each other and respect each other. Too many broken people have broken relationships with broken people to try and fix themselves and each other.

This x 1000!

I agree OP. I would be quite happy if Mothers’ Day and Fathers’ Day just ceased to be a thing. They are so pointless. Same with Valentine’s Day. My mum is really precious about it and I just don’t understand why. I couldn’t care less. My kids will make me something at school. That’s more than enough.

Similar situation here. Forgetting to acknowledge it would be criminal. It’s so pathetic.

Hahahaha no it isn't. It was created by Hallmark.