Mothers Day should be banned

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Thread after thread on here with Mothers Day drama and grief

Partners who haven't made any plans
Partners whose plans aren't WOW enough
Mothers v MILs
Mothers v Mothers and MILS
Partner isn't making plans for mother of unborn baby
Blended family dramas
The list goes on and on

Post Mothers Day will have the threads

He forgot
It was rubbish compared to the elaborate day he got for Fathers Day
MIL spoiled it
Etc

Its not worth it. It seems to be make so many people unhappy and angry and we'd be better off without.

YABU: its a cherished and important day, how dare you even ask
YANBU: ban it and save us all from the grief and drama

Full disclosure: I celebrate it to the extent that my kids will serve me tea and (burnt) toast in bed. Otherwise its a normal day. And of course I know it won't actually be banned. Its just a discussion.

I love mothers day. I get to spoil my mum and my partner gets me chocolates and a funny card from our cats 😂

I would like to say we are not really a Christian country. More people state they follow no religion than Christianity and only about 6% of people regularly go to church. Also Easter was nicked from the Pagans (see also All souls day and Christmas).
I will accept that MD has come from Christianity but not sure that they intended it to be quite so pressured.

Agree the expectations are crazy. I think if someone is so hung up on such a minor thing for one day if the year, they clearly don’t feel valued the rest of the year.

So they have bigger fish to fry than forcing they partner to give them a lavish day of laying on the sofa, doing absolutely nothing but awaiting their perfectly cooked roast while they devour chocolates and read the expertly written poem in their handmade card. All while wanting a husband who is this thoughtful but also dislikes his own mother is much as his wife does.

Mother's day is the 4th Sunday of lent when traditionally you went home to your home church.

It got commercialised as time went on.

So no you can't ban mother's day.

I got a homemade card and lots of cuddles, DH got us a takeaway and we enjoyed a lively family game of Mario Kart. Perfect 👌

Check out the thread as there are lots of explanations of the origin of Mothering Sunday in the UK. It is a Christian Festival…people returned to their Mother Church, where they were baptised. People in service were given the day off to do that, and visited their families often taking a cake. The cake is a Simnel cake (Simnel means fine flour). These cakes may have 11 marzipan balls on the top representing the 11 disciples (Judas was left out). The cakes are more often associated with Easter these days. All eventually hijacked by commercialism just like everything else. Customs change over generations but the roots are in the past and judging by the comments on this thread completely forgotten.

Thank you. Yes, someone else explained about the Mother Church - which I didn’t know about 😊

My step father died yesterday. Just afterwards, me and my mum sat downstairs and just said, “Happy fucking Mother’s Day”. I didn’t really see my own kids.

I don’t think Mother’s Day needs to be gotten rid of. I think the attitude of, “It’s all about meeee” needs to go. The whining posts are from people who make bridezillas because of this attitude. We don’t need to cancel weddings - we just need to chill the f out about times we think we should be the centre of attention and sulk if we arent.

Aren't over worked, undervalued mums allowed one day for themselves?

Some day your child might give you something nice. My mam was a sort of lone parent (her parents helped a lot). I sent her a card, covered in pics of me/her and my DS, and a very nice coffee cup for mothers day.

My son is 1.5yrs old he made me a card at nursery and got some daffodils in the garden (yes he did have help 😂) he was very proud of his little card though and I love it

You're right though some of the absolute and upper crap posts I saw in SM would make you roll your eyes

ladyvimes · 08/03/2024 12:33

It’s a Christian ‘festival’ and we’re a Christian country so if we ban Mother’s Day then might as well ban all the other things too: Christmas, Easter, Shrove Tuesday, etc.
Good luck with that”

Is it? I thought it was invented by a Victorian greetings card manufacturer?

“Christmas” and “Easter” festivals are far older than Christianity.

Read some of the previous pages of this thread. This has already been answered/explained several times over. It does have links to Christianity as the day where you’d ’return to your mother church’. Also in the uk, it’s held on the 4th sunday of lent, which explains why the day it’s held in the uk moves around between march/april.

It certainly pre-dates card manufacturing but as to being stolen from pagan festivals is anyone’s guess.

With the very greatest respect, sincerely, motherhood in the western world is generally a choice. Whereas childlessness often isn't.
Absolutely mothers should be valued immensely; but so should all women. Mothers don't have the monopoly on being overworked, or indeed undervalued.
I just think International Womens Day is a better one, as it unites rather than divides. Also, it doesn't trigger acute anguish in those who've recently lost their mums, as Mothers Day does.
I had a Romanian friend who said International Womens Day is the more celebrated day there, and I hope we follow suite; and leave the archaic Mothering Sunday in the past.
Unchosen childlessness is utter agony at times, and Mothers Day is one such time. Please spare a thought for those who've not enjoyed the same blessings you have.

It's not really "mothers day" in school anymore, it's your "special grown up" as not to offend anyone. I've no problem with it, I get the reason for it, not everyone has their mum, my DH always says it's sad father's day is never a thing in school as a very hands on father I get he feels like Dads are the second class parent but he gets it again, not everyone has a Dad.

I think it's pretty commercialised and too much strain for some financially but it's nice for some of us, I personally love it but I'd give it up if it meant others who are missing their mum could feel a little less s* that day, although I can imagine it's not really going to change much for them if we abolish it completely. We will always miss those we've lost. X

If we went that way, there would be no holidays or events. Truth is, people who have family drama have it most of the time not just on holidays. And unhappy people post online more often than happy people.

My view (if anyone gets to page 17!) is that most of these posts are about shit partners, nothing to do with Mother’s Day. If you have a good partner and you get wound up about Mother’s Day you should have a word with yourself (imo). If you don’t have a good partner, get rid.

Love this, problem is everyone has to post the amazing day they had on socials and everyone obsesses about everyone else’s day because it looks better. We are moving soon so we cleared out the shed then ate things from the freezer as we want to defrost it before we move so three different meals for 4 of us 😂😂😂. It has become way too commercial a homemade card and a cup of tea in bed makes a nice change to normal.

Got to agree, my mum barely acknowledged my existence when I was growing up, unless she wanted me to do something or to complain that my cleaning wasn't good enough. Yet here I am wasting money on getting her a gift because I feel guilted into it because she has no one else (the golden child emigrated to nz and barely speaks to her) and I spend more on her than is spent on me and she will likely not appreciate it because everything I have got her in my life she later decides she no longer likes or is now allergic to it (jewellery, smellies, thing for house that she already collects, candles, plants, books, clothes) and will only ever except books or puzzles from me without drama, which then disappear into the masses she already has.

I dont even remember Mothers day when I was a child !!!!
Prob It was a normal day , with mum in the kitchen cooking a Sunday Roast with all the trimmings, and dad Down '; the Lane,' then club.

I think it’s fine not to celebrate it.
my neighbours are JW so don’t celebrate Christmas, Easter, mothers/Father’s Day etc…
I also think it’s fine for others to celebrate it. i saw a
post on Facebook which at first glance confused me… it said “My husbands wife bought me X for Mother’s Day, it’s exactly what I wanted in the size I wanted!”…… I think if women have expectations but don’t have partners or children that bother then they treat themselves! And return the favour on Father’s Day / birthdays etc

It’s not really up to you to agree or not, the King is the head of state and head of the Church of England, ergo it’s a Christian country. I’m always amazed that people don’t seem to know this!

I am always amazed at the number of mums who think Mother’s Day is all about them - and get upset when their kids and partners don’t do loads of stuff for them.

Mother’s Day is about YOUR OWN MOTHER - you should be buying her flowers and taking her for lunch. And be happy if your kids made you a card at school or thought to buy you a pressie when they’re a bit older. But it’s not for your partner to set you up a whole day when you and he should be doing something nice for your own mums!

I spent all weekend in hospital, not what I was planning on but at least I got breakfast in bed!

Going by your logic you would have to ban Christmas and Birthdays or any family get together because they’re all full of drama and disappointment.

Surely the other 364 days in the year are just as important?