Mothers Day should be banned

[DinnaeFashYersel]

Thread after thread on here with Mothers Day drama and grief

Partners who haven't made any plans
Partners whose plans aren't WOW enough
Mothers v MILs
Mothers v Mothers and MILS
Partner isn't making plans for mother of unborn baby
Blended family dramas
The list goes on and on

Post Mothers Day will have the threads

He forgot
It was rubbish compared to the elaborate day he got for Fathers Day
MIL spoiled it
Etc

Its not worth it. It seems to be make so many people unhappy and angry and we'd be better off without.

YABU: its a cherished and important day, how dare you even ask
YANBU: ban it and save us all from the grief and drama

Full disclosure: I celebrate it to the extent that my kids will serve me tea and (burnt) toast in bed. Otherwise its a normal day. And of course I know it won't actually be banned. Its just a discussion.

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I'm all for doing away with a Hallmark holiday if the same goes for Father's Day too. Scrap them both. Completely unnecessary. Show that you like your parents in every day things. Take them out for a meal every now and again and let's ditch both Mother's and Father's Days.

I mean of course yabu because it's the same with literally any event including birthdays etc...
Valentines day, Christmas... whatever.. people be on mumsnet with the drama of it.
End of the day if you ban all these events CFs and fuckwit husbands, and uptights ILs and the general public just taking major offense over nothing will still find some other outlet for it...
I mean are we going to ban weddings? Meals out? Any scenario in which family drama might rear its head?
Deal with the twats making things shit as they appear. Don't bother trying to get rid of festivals and occasions just to try and shelter yourself.

Don’t be ridiculous. It’s Mothering Sunday - a long standing English tradition whereby young people in service were allowed a special Sunday to go home and visit their mother and their mother church.

This is the third post I have read about people making 'drama".
I have yet to see any "drama".
Everyone I know gets a cup.of tea and a card and maybe the family goes to dinner.
There is no drama in real life.

I'm surprised there isn't a thread about, he forgot to buy me something for International women's day... unless ofcourse I have missed it.

I think the issue is like many things it just gets bigger and bigger which leads to more space for worry and argument. Like many things it needs to be a song and dance now rather than just a nice little gesture.

I've sent my mil a card from my dc as she's an hour away and we won't see her on Sunday however we did see her last week and DH will facetime her. I'll see my mum and gran and will give them a card as they live close to us.

All I care about is a card my kids have made at school. My husband can visit his mum, I'll visit mine both the day before. But yes I wish it was banned

Card, pocket money gift, and lunch out. Me, my mum, ds, dh. MiL doesn't celebrate, never did, and is in a care home 5h away.
Job done.
No need for drama or bans. MN is all about the drama

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^This

It’s become a pita. We have school drama too, we have to gather Mother’s Day (new) and send them in. Then we get to send money and buy the tat back YAY!!!!! 🤣🤦🏼‍♀️

I started doing this as soon as DD was old enough. It's been a good lesson in remembering important days for both of them. I'm not a martyr if they forget though - and they are nice enough on other days to still make it all worthwhile.

Thats why it is earlier or later each year, as it is the 4th Sunday in Lent, and 3 Sundays before Easter.
It's not made up for commercialism (likefathers day)

YABU

The day is what you make of it.

Posters moan on here about every celebration day, especially Valentine’s Day.

We shouldn’t cancel an entire day because they can’t be happy.

I believe women have mothers too.

I would be happy with a handmade card from my DS. Unfortunately, his dad hates my guts so he wouldn't bother. After a few years of fathers day gifts, birthday and xmas etc, I just stopped also.

This year, I have booked myself a night away, paid for by my own money and will let his dad have him for the night. A gift from me to me 😂

If only!

People put far too much on to it! When my mother was alive it was a card and breakfast in bed. Similar for me or maybe lunch out. That's it. Now it's a card (I'm a widow and my kids are late teens and they don't have money to spend). Totally happy with that.

YANBU

The reason Christmas and Mother's Day cause so much drama is because they're both days that cause women to reflect on how unappreciated they feel. Christmas because we tend to do the leg work with little thanks and Mother's day because we tend to, again, not get the thanks we feel we deserve.

It's a year long problem which culminates in tension on those dates

I'm not keen on MD - my mum wasn't a great mum and I have to buy her card etc because she believes she was a great mum and I'm crap daughter. So, I buy a card and send it as to not hurt her feelings.

As a mum, I don't believe in mothers day but it is up to my children if they wish to celebrate/acknowledge it. This year due to nearly losing a child I am celebrating having children who have grown into wonderful people who I am proud of and will celebrate on any day I choose.

My lovely dad, used to say: I know you love me, it doesn't need a day.

When my DC were small all I wanted was home made cards from them and to not enter the kitchen (cooking prepping washing up etc) ALL day.

They have all flown the nest and DH said I am not his mother therefore we can now ignore Mother’s Day!

I pointed out that I will abide by the no cooking tradition and he will reluctantly sort it out.

Yes
It's returning to your mother church - I was always told the flowers for your mother tradition comes from the girls in service being allowed to walk across the fields home to go to their mother church - they picked flowers on the way & gave them to their mothers.

Days off to visit home would have been rare.

I'm pretty sure the majority of people have a nice, drama free Mother's Day... there's just no point making a thread to say so.

Because that's not a thing people do.