His best friend pointing out my nipples on a photo

[northernmamax]

Went out tonight with my fiancé, I've been close with his best friend since I met him.

I posted a picture of myself on Facebook tonight and you could see my nipple through my top. The top wasn't see through it was just the marking of the nipple on the top I was wearing.

The caption of my post was "dissertation has been submitted, celebrating with a few drinks"

I'm a student and have just submitted my dissertation.

His "best friend" comments "nipples" and then "I mean well done"

He'd also messaged my partner a screenshot of the photo I'd posted and said "your missus looks well"

I said to my partner I'm not comfortable with this and would be absolutely fuming if he'd done this to another woman as this guy actually has a wife who I'm really good friends with.

I'm really upset with my partner for not being bothered about this.. I feel objectified. I should be able to post a photo with my nipples slightly showing through my top without all of this nonsense

Am I being dramatic?!?

@EveSix I don’t really understand your post about the real world & working class?

@northernmamax how old are you all?

Or said to her ‘look at the packet on that’ I mean you just wouldn’t would you!

@lemmefinish I'm 28, they are 35.

This! If your nipples were visible why are you concerned people may comment

What a creep

This has really made me 🤣🤣

@HeraSyndulla

Overreaction you say?

So you OK with idea of yourself and other women 🤔 being objectified in a sexual way in a photo like that then?

it's also inappropriate immature comment on her nipple,

at least @northernmamax it's highlighted how quite creepy these people are

YANBU, he’s a creep. And the wife’s a creep too if she’s well donning him.

PLEASE delete both off your social media.

And have a think about your fiancé showing himself as a misogynist.

This is spot on.

I have a really jokey relationship with my DPs mate so if he posted that, or if he posted a pic wearing really tight jeans so you could see his nuts I could see me (and DP) posting somthing like "gonads!"

But if you don't have that sort of relationship then that's pretty strange and yea, pervy and I'd be upset if DP wasn't annoyed about it.

Yanbu.

’She was asking her for it’ is really fucking old now. Grow up.

You are not being dramatic. Women have put up with this shit for too long. It’s ok to feel grossed out and let down. Your partner should be bothered by his creepy friend objectifying you.

Because it was an accident. An inadvertent nipple shape visible.

The point of the post was to say she had done her dissertation. That is the crying shame. Yet again a woman is just about her looks not achievements.

Delete the pair off social media. And block.

Take a stand . And see your fiancé’s reaction.

YANBU. Proceed carefully with your partner and keep your eyes open.

I'd ask husband to message him saying, "Girlfriend doesn't like your comment about the nipples. Please delete it, otherwise she'll block you." If you don't see it removed, I'd actually block him.

I would be a bit concerned that he didn't care that his wife would see the comment. He's obviously 'trained her well' to put up and shut up, she probably doesn't care because she's learned not to. People to avoid IMHO. How long have you been with fiancée, and perhaps you have outgrown him now even if he's older than you?

And another even more sinister thought: possibly he was putting yourself in your place because you've handed in your dissertation. You're doing well. Does he have a degree/ masters/ whatever qualification you're going to get? Does he feel the need to put you down so you don't get 'too big for your boots'. A woman doing better than him!

It definitely doesn't just happen to public figures.

I'm talking about posts that have gone viral etc. or people in the background of photos of famous people.

It is a thing that happens to both sexes.

I'm not saying it's okay or acceptable but I don't think it's helpful to pretend it's a sexist issue.

Putting YOU in your place that should say

We've been together 7 years and two young children together 2 and 5.

So makes it even worse I'm the mother of his children too and he's not bothered about people talking about me in that way 🙄

😂😂

@Niknakk & @Catlover77
Grow up we aren't teenagers back in the day..

I agree with @carelesser comments

Why is it 🤔 such a revelation that women possess nipples tits at all?

That creepy trio feel the need to point 👉 it out too,

It's the same Pevy attitudes behind the The Sun newspapers page three girls idea back in the day..

No wonder Muslim women feel a need to cover up at times...

He sounds creepy.

Next time he posts a photo of himself is comment on how his trousers make his legs look so puny.