His best friend pointing out my nipples on a photo

[northernmamax]

Went out tonight with my fiancé, I've been close with his best friend since I met him.

I posted a picture of myself on Facebook tonight and you could see my nipple through my top. The top wasn't see through it was just the marking of the nipple on the top I was wearing.

The caption of my post was "dissertation has been submitted, celebrating with a few drinks"

I'm a student and have just submitted my dissertation.

His "best friend" comments "nipples" and then "I mean well done"

He'd also messaged my partner a screenshot of the photo I'd posted and said "your missus looks well"

I said to my partner I'm not comfortable with this and would be absolutely fuming if he'd done this to another woman as this guy actually has a wife who I'm really good friends with.

I'm really upset with my partner for not being bothered about this.. I feel objectified. I should be able to post a photo with my nipples slightly showing through my top without all of this nonsense

Am I being dramatic?!?

🤣🤣🤣

Why should she delete her photo? She was fine with the photo. The man needs to delete his creepy comments designed to make a woman feel uncomfortable.

So many MN doormats pandering to men. Let me guess, you think a wolf whistle is a compliment?

Ugh this is horrible. Plus the sharing of screenshot photos. I’d be worried other stuff being shared

I’m not that fragile I’d burst into tears over it.

So if a man posted a pic of himself in tight swimming shorts and you could see his bulge, would you be saying this? So women should vet every pic of themselves to check it doesn't violate some kind of standard? You're as bad as the creepy friend.

PS. Women have nipples. Some women have very prominent nipples that show even through a bra and top, especially if it's cold. No woman needs to be ashamed of that or censor herself.

Yep thought so.

nobody is talking about bursting into tears. It is about having standards and expectations of men not to be sexist. I am sorry that you are still stuck in the 1970s.

I'm sorry this happened OP, it's horrible and you're jot overreacting. Congratulations on your dissertation - you're worth 10 of that twat

People do comment on men with their "bulge" visible though - happens quite a lot on social media and in the comments section in videos.

Yes I think the thick bit is absolutely accurate.

@HeraSyndulla yay!! Go me! I've been waiting to join the peak mn crew for so long now. I just never thought it would happen for me!! You've made my day 🤣🤣🤣

This

The only time I have EVER seen this is on the photo of Isla Bryson wearing tight hot pink leggings.

But this isn’t a photo posted on a website that’s been commented on by random saddos, it’s someone she knows personally. Christ.

This is why I have always worn soft padded t-shirt bras, rather than pretty underwear. I worked in a misogynistic office in the 90s as a late teen, early 20s, and would often get shamed by colleagues commenting on Chapel Hat Pegs. I'm annoyed with my younger self that I was shamed into thinking there was something wrong with my body, so please ignore anyone who asked why you posted the picture.

Not on the accounts I follow.

People do comment on men with their "bulge" visible though - happens quite a lot on social media and in the comments section in videos

Wasn’t Teds Cruz bulge a thing recently? 🤢

I’m sorry you’re stuck in the 1950’s.

I bet you’re one of these women who feel personally slighted when guys take their T shirts off in the summer to kick a ball around in the park.

@tomago I don’t understand your reply to my post? Where have I said the friend was right?

Can you go on his Facebook and just comment "Penis"

I really hate it when other women condone and laugh off this behaviour and blame the women involved. It makes it so much harder for the rest of us to fight sexism.

This kind of thing was the norm when I was in my 20s. Now I am in my 50s it is time for this to stop. Luckily my 18 and 21-year-old son and daughter not stand for this. I hope things will change but then again my kids had me and my husband as role models. Not everybody has progressive attitudes at home as we can see from this thread.

It wouldn’t bother you that your partner’s friend was making leery comments about you?

The fact that he doubled down with the screenshot would ensure I called him out and blocked him on all SM.

I'd get rid of a boyfriend who can't see the issue, too. He sees you as a trophy for others to fap one out over.

It's all grim.

Which post? Sorry its early and I'm befuddled

Do you know anything about the 1950s? Guess what, it wasn’t a time of equality for women.

You need to do better. For your kids if not yourself.

Some women have very very low standards. It’s sad.