Which is preferable - weekday wedding or child free wedding?

[overgrowngrass]

We are currently planning our wedding and shocked at how much everything costs. At the moment it looks like we might opt for either a weekday wedding to save costs, or have the wedding on a Saturday but without inviting children. The wedding will be in school holidays, if a weekday, as we have close family who are teachers.

As a parent, which is preferable?

YANBU - child free weekend wedding is preferable
YABU - I like to bring my kids, have it on a weekday

Weekday weddings, much like destination weddings, always push the hassle (and costs) off the hosts and onto the guests. Very rude.

It’s your wedding, your day, only the opinion of the couple matters. I’m a teacher. Hubby isn’t. We had a weekday (school holiday) wedding with only children who were members of our family invited. No non-family kids. We only invited family and proper, true friends so it was a lovely, intimate, friendly day. Don’t try to please anyone but yourselves!

We have a wedding this summer that has only invited family children, could that be an option for you?

It doesn't need to be either/or.

Have a wedding within budget at the weekend with family children invited. It is the people you invite, the shared experience and memories that make your wedding special not the short lived expensive frills of the wedding industry.

Child-free weddings are GREAT however when you are told child free then rock up to find about 15 kids there it's a bit annoying! (Although I prefer to let loose at a wedding so have never been that offended tbh).

Why should they rethink their plans, they’ve got 2 options which presumably they can afford otherwise they wouldn’t be options. Just because a guest receives an invite doesn’t mean they are forced to accept, if someone doesn’t want to use babysitters or annual leave then they decline the invite. You could also say stop being selfish and put a holiday day in at work (which sounds ridiculous)… I won’t say that though because no one in this situation is selfish they all just have a choice