To explode at family pressuring to see newborn?

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I have a newborn and not had the best birth and have been quite poorly.

I have explained to family several times now when I am ready I will let them know.
Quite a few of family members have complained of fevers, flu etc so for obvious reasons im keeping my distance.

Nobody seems to be respecting what I am saying and keep bombarding me with texts, like let me enjoy my baby!

I feel ready to explode, I didnt do this when they had babies and left them to it until they were ready and just want the same respect.

How old is your baby? And congratulations!

Can you temporarily block after a message saying ‘I’m not well and I need some rest/time/space. I’ll be in touch soon’?

Has it been days, weeks or months.

Having said that you've sent your reply, turn your phone off and all further enquiries can go through DP. Perhaps those with practical offers of help with pass through

No need to explode. Just stop checking your messages until you are ready/have your partner communicate on your behalf.

Send a statement text that is obviously to everyone saying you are still recovering and will let them know when you are ready so please stop asking/bugging you - say it's on advice from GP or midwife if that will help.

Can OH not get on to them?

How old is your baby?

Just ignore the texts. Honestly.

Well it does rather depend on how new the baby is. Days old totally fine to want some time to adjust but if its been a few weeks then it's a little unreasonable. They are just naturally excited to meet the newest member of the family.

How newborn? My kids love the stories about how all of their relatives dropped everything to meet them. They know how loved they are by everyone. Personally, I think all this "enjoy my little family" is a bit precious and PFB

Of course it's your decision, but how old is your baby?

They're excited to meet your baby. Heaven forbid. Maybe they want to see you, too, and see how you are?

Maybe they’re worried about you. Are you recovering well?

Which family? Your parents and siblings or random 2nd cousins once removed?
How Old? Days? Ok then fine, they can wait a bit. Weeks? Unless you’re really unwell I’d be pretty sad that I’d not been allowed to visit if I was close family.
Months? Then you’re being a bit unreasonable and I’d be worried about how you were coping with motherhood. You want your baby to be part of a wider family? Be loved and supported by them? It has to start some time.

PFB?

Precious First Born - it means behaving in a way which is rather over protective and precious.

You'll be on in a couple of years complaining that your DC's grandparents and uncles and aunts aren't interested in the DC and barely bother visiting, a precedent that you are setting now.

Congratulations 🥳 and sorry they’re not respecting your boundaries, can your partner take your phone calls/messages perhaps for some peace and quite baby time 💖

How old is your baby and what do you mean about flu/ high temperature etc? Have any of your family met your baby yet ?
I personally couldn’t wait to introduce my babies to friends and family 🤷‍♀️They all mucked in with food and general help.

Agree with most. Without more information, it is perfectly possible YABU.
It is also possible YANBU.

We just don't know, on the information you've put in the OP.

Are you a single parent? I don't understand why husband / partner can't introduce baby to their family if you're ill.

Also how many family members are ill? Yes fine don't give new baby illness but how many people actually have an illness and how much is you just being difficult? Most people will be well enough I'd have thought.

Family usually want to see baby.

I agree depends how newborn they are but if there is one time in your life should be allowed to but a bit precious it's this

My doctor recommend giving yourselves 6-8 weeks to adjust before accepting visitors. Both as a doctor and a Mum of 3 herself

Your partner can take the baby to his relatives or whoever it is not all about you

Have grandparents met baby yet?
I think it quite sad if they haven't 😞

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