MIL wants to attend funeral but is supposed to be my childcare

[tinatsarina]

So my MIL has the kids for me next Monday while I have 3 job interviews that afternoon. she's now told me she has to attend her sister in laws, brothers funeral. My parents both work so can't cover my childcare (half-term here). Told my partner to tell his mum she can't go but he said she's entitled to and people don't owe me anything. He's now potentially taking the day off even though she had already agreed to the childcare first AIBU to be annoyed that they are prioritising this funeral over the childcare?

YABU - she is attending a funeral that day so is not available for your childcare

Yes YABU! Your dh can have the kids so that she can show up for her family.

YABU your husband has taken a day off.

You are so entitled.

I can’t believe people with your attitude get on in the world.

At the interviews if they ask you a situation you’ve had to deal with lately and how it made you feel relay this one to them. I’m sure they’ll snap you up on the spot.

YAB very U

Kin hellll are you for real?! Yabvu. Shocking!

It’s a funeral. Your partner is taking the day off so you can still go to your interviews.

Nobody goes to a funeral for fun. YABU.

YABU. If your husband can take leave that should be your first option.

YABU. Funeral!!!!

Is this a reverse?

You can't be serious OP?

Oh don't be silly.

Seriously the most U thing I've read on here. You want to tell her she CAN'T go?! I've heard it all.

I think it depends on how close she was to the deceased. If its someone she knew well then and its relatively easy for your dh to book a day off then I don't think its unreasonable. If she hasn't seen the deceased for years and your dh is putting his job at risk taking time off then it is unreasonable

Yes YABU, she's totally entitled to attend a family funeral is she wants to. These things aren't movable and often you don't get much notice. Your DH can do the childcare instead.

Wow op, I'm sure you are not but this is making you sound very selfish and entitled. It's a funeral for goodness sake, YABVVU, how can you tell someone not to go to a funeral because you need child care!!

Your partner is taking a day off.

This is a non issue.

FYI if you don’t appreciate your MIL saving looking after your children start paying for it - then you won’t have this issue again.

My parents look after our children so we can work. When they have to go to a funeral, there is no question - we make other childcare arrangements. YABVU.

YABU it's a funeral, she's not meeting friends for lunch.

YABVU!

I'm actually speechless that you even need to ask if YABU. Of course you bloody well are!

YABU.
Funeral takes precedence over a favour to you.
Especially as your DP is available to do childcare.

Told my partner to tell his mum she can't go
Tell me you didn’t actually say this?! You’re being completely unreasonable.

I'm not sure why, but it still surprises me to come across people like this.