MIL wants to attend funeral but is supposed to be my childcare

[tinatsarina]

So my MIL has the kids for me next Monday while I have 3 job interviews that afternoon. she's now told me she has to attend her sister in laws, brothers funeral. My parents both work so can't cover my childcare (half-term here). Told my partner to tell his mum she can't go but he said she's entitled to and people don't owe me anything. He's now potentially taking the day off even though she had already agreed to the childcare first AIBU to be annoyed that they are prioritising this funeral over the childcare?

No. No it doesn't. It could be someone MIL bumped into once down Tesco and STILL op would be unreasonable because MIL is not the hired help and is doing a favour in the first place. In MILs position I'd be withdrawing the offer of free childcare as it seems to have now become an expectation.

I'll humour you (because I hope no one is really that self centered and don't really believe the 3 interviews, that's pushing it)

It's a FUNERAL

Doesn't matter if she's been out of touch for a while, maybe she regrets it and the funeral is to make things right for her. Or she's going to support someone grieving.

She's doing you a favour and you are being super entitled.

It's ok I don't think you'll get offered the three jobs anyways.

Shocking post. I’m guessing you don’t pay her, but you expect her to behave like an employee and ask for approval before she takes time “off”? What a joke. If I were your MIL I would seriously be considering stopping the free childcare. Don’t bite the hand that feeds you.

Surely mother in law can attend the funeral and take the children too.

Three job interviews in one afternoon?

This is a wind up. Half term?

'Tell her she can't....'

Is absolutely gobsmacking utterly ridiculous

Seriously though how did you get three interviews in the same day - are they with three different companies?

She's not employed though is she? That's kinda the point. They do say "no good deed goes unpunished".

Don’t worry about it. Cancel the interviews, you won’t get any jobs with an attitude like yours.

I am truly aghast at your lack of empathy.

You’re an entitled, spoilt brat. Who the hell do you think you are to tell her she can’t go? Do you think you’re her boss? They’re YOUR kids, YOU are the one who signed up to care for them when you decided to have them, no one else except their father.

We can always rely on MN for broadening the horizons of people's entitlement.
It's really educational.

It's a funeral. She's not your employee. YABU.

Sorry I think you’re being unreasonable. It’s a funeral,
so not a fun day out and seems like she’s going to be support for someone too.
If your partner can get the day off then it’s not an issue.

You’re a selfish and heartless person.

You need to pay for childcare if your MIL taking 'time off' is such as problem for you.

It's a funeral, your husband can take time off.

I've recently been to the funeral of someone I met once, a good few years ago. I didn't go for him, I went in support of his wife.

This absolutely has to be a reverse. I just cannot believe that there are actually people that would really think this is a normal way to behave

PAY FOR REAL CHILDCARE THEN.

Wow. You are being unreasonable. How long has she known her sister in law for?

This has to be a reverse. Also she's going for her sister in law and (I assume) brother. God almighty. The cheek of her prioritising her grieving family over your job interviews.

The fact that my brother in laws sister is like my sisters other sister and vice versa I'm close to my sister in law and she knows my sister very well (we even go on holiday together sometimes)
Then yes!
Going to that funeral would be very, important to me!

Haha just when you think you’ve seen the most self-centred unreasonable person ever on Mumsnet……….. along comes another one that’s even worse to take the crown.

(PS for clarification OP just in case you are too self-absorbed to understand - I’m talking about you, not your poor MIL!)

Have you ever been to a funeral? Sounds as though your life revolves around yourself and you don’t have much life experience. Just read your other posts. Revolting self justification.

Reverse.
Has to be.

Taking time away from looking after your children. Outrageous. Tell her she can go but it'll be unpaid leave and you'll take it from her salary. Oh wait........