MIL wants to attend funeral but is supposed to be my childcare

[tinatsarina]

So my MIL has the kids for me next Monday while I have 3 job interviews that afternoon. she's now told me she has to attend her sister in laws, brothers funeral. My parents both work so can't cover my childcare (half-term here). Told my partner to tell his mum she can't go but he said she's entitled to and people don't owe me anything. He's now potentially taking the day off even though she had already agreed to the childcare first AIBU to be annoyed that they are prioritising this funeral over the childcare?

Yes, this

Of course you’re being unreasonable. Get over yourself.

Wow. You wanted to tell her she couldn’t go to pay her respects at a funeral to care for your children. Yabvu.
plans change and when you rely on favours from family/friends you must be aware of this.
Your response when someone says that they cannot care for your children anymore because of a change in plans/illness etc. is to say “of course, no problem. Thank you “ and then sort something out yourself.

Shocking. She wants to make her own choices and not be there for you when DP can take to day off and care for his own DC.

I'm not surprised DP refused to tell his DM to succumb to your demands.

Sorry but she has the right to go to a funeral. Have a little empathy.

YABVU

DH is taking the day off so where’s the problem?

You are being massively unreasonable and self-centered.

Do you seriously think you can dictate whether or not people can go to funerals?

Maybe try and show a better attitude during those interviews...

FFS, it's a funeral! We can't plan for these. And you shouldn't be "telling" her anything, OP. If I were your MIL, I would be withdrawing my services for any and all childcare.

Jesus Christ! I hope this is a joke because you are bored.

if true, then if I were your MIL and I knew about this, I would be stopping the massive favour of providing you child care altogether.

Your H can cover it. You have no problem. Learn some gratitude for what MIL is doing for you.

Surely this can't be real?! If it is you need to give your head a wobble.

She hasn't seen the deceased for years, he is trying to arrange time off but it's difficult as he's recently got time off for her scheduling a trip that she only gave us a week's notice for.

You told your partner to tell his mum that she can't go to a funeral?! Hahaha!!!

YABU

It’s a funeral that couldn’t have been anticipated. She’s not ditching babysitting to go to a pre-organised party or stage show. How ridiculous. Your DH can take the day off ffs.

PSA

It is half term, I approach every thread with a jaundiced eye.

Well yes this.

Your DH should certainly be taking the day off rather than expecting MIL to miss the funeral.

It's a funeral. The lack of empathy you're showing is appalling. Is there a history? You seem to hate her but happy to accept regular free childcare. Your husband needs to facilitate this one.

She doesn't need to give you more than a week's notice! She's not your employee! They're your bloody kids!

When she last saw him is completely irrelevant and none of your business

If you feel your MIL isn't providing reliable childcare there are alternatives. Creche, childminder..
You sound so entitled OP.

The fact you asked your husband to tell her she can't go depicts exactly how entitled you think you are.

She can visit the family after. It's not easy for him to take time off. If she was employed they wouldn't give her the time off.

How inconvenient that somebody chose to die and disrupt your free childcare so they could have a funeral.