MIL wants to attend funeral but is supposed to be my childcare

[tinatsarina]

So my MIL has the kids for me next Monday while I have 3 job interviews that afternoon. she's now told me she has to attend her sister in laws, brothers funeral. My parents both work so can't cover my childcare (half-term here). Told my partner to tell his mum she can't go but he said she's entitled to and people don't owe me anything. He's now potentially taking the day off even though she had already agreed to the childcare first AIBU to be annoyed that they are prioritising this funeral over the childcare?

Of course you're being incredibly unreasonable - or do you think your mother in law should be insisting that the funeral is rearranged to fit in with her childcare duties?

Obviously YABU… you can’t dictate what someone else can do!

@Beenalongwinter

REALLY??? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

You are massively unreasonable.

Your husband is going to take the day off so you have childcare sorted.
And your MIL wants to go to a funeral. I am shocked you think it's ok to try and stop someone going to a funeral so they can look after your kids.

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Yab sooo unreasonable! Can’t you see that? I’ve read your responses, op, and it doesn’t appear that you can.

people do not die on schedule. It just kind of happens.

Time off from work - Actually that depends on the employer

Try acting like a human being with some compassion.
Yes it's annoying but some circumstances don't centre around you.

I attended a funeral last week for my mums best friend who I haven't seen for years - it didn't mean that it wasn't important that I attend, in fact it was hugely important. It was a PITA for me to go, lots of travel through terrible weather and I had to make childcare and work arrangements but it was important and meaningful to me and the bereaved family that I attend.

lol.

YABU, you can’t go to a funeral on another day

She's not employed though she's your MIL and yes many employers would give time off for a funeral and if not many people would book annual leave for a funeral.

I can't believe you think are being reasonable in this situation. It's really wtf

You can't be serious. YABVVVVVU!

Such a charmer

@tinatsarina just to add aswell, if she was employed there’s a very good chance she could have it off.. a lot of employers would offer to use holiday to cover that day..

Bloody inconvenient of the fmaily member to die and have a funeral when YOU have an important job interviews...

There is an ENTIRE thread telling the OP how horrible she is being and you agree with her and expect people to be ok with that?

honestly. You also need to sort yourself out.

Well said @FourFourOne this is gotta be a wind up surely!! So unreasonable

I presume the deceased wasn't aware of op's interviews or they would have held out a little longer.

This can't be real surely. It doesn't matter if she hasn't seen him for years or never even met him she is going to show her respects to her sil and her family .

Jeez, I hope you're not hoping to rely on her for childcare should you get the job with that attitude. You sound like an entitled brat, put them in a holiday club.

Even a paid nanny is entitled to take a day off for a funeral let alone a grandparent doing you a favour. Wtf

Wow two people on one thread that are totally selfish and unkind.

She can live steam it whilst watching the kids....... how disrespectful to everyone involved that wants to attend.

Having read OPs other posts, with drug taking partner, moaning about him being a dickhead blah blah, she clearly thinks disrespectful behaviour is appropriate. I presume you equaliy think it's the "norm"?

It's really not!

Aren't you a little madam!

She owes you nothing, if I was her I'd refuse to do any more child care for you. Awful spoilt attitude to have.

Sadly, having looked at IPs other posts, I think it might be.

Shocking. I know.

How did you think this thread was going to turn out, OP?