AIBU to not want to continue to give my neighbour financial help?

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I live in a small flat in an old house converted into 7 flats. Another elderly neighbour and myself (she is 76; I am in my 60s), have left what small amounts of groceries we can for the gentleman in his late 40s who lives in the basement flat, who is unwell and far from his family in Sudan. Among the groceries I have given him were included some jars of molasses. Recently this gentleman has been knocking at my door asking me to get more molasses for him. I tried to explain that things were a bit difficult for me at the moment, but he insisted, so I ordered 3 more jars from Amazon (which I don't like using), for him, at a cost of £12.30. A week later he came to my door again telling me to get more molasses for him. He took rolls of £20 notes from his pockets, but did not repay the £12.30. He said he would repay this when I got him some more molasses. I said 'But then you'll still owe me another £12'. He just said 'Yeah' and went off back downstairs. I ' m not sure how to handle this - he really isn't very well - and would be very grateful for advice.

He's obviously dealing molasses and that would explain all the cash - he's getting all the local youth hooked on it. Be careful OP, you might be arrested as an accomplice.

In a perfect proof of Mumsnet's communal knowledge, the disappearance of molasses from Sainsbury's, Asda, Tesco and Morrisons nationwide has been explained!

And that's despite the fact that the Sudanese grifter probably uses it in his cooking and hot drinks.

@kirbykirby 😂

Type a message & Google translate to Sudanese saying I will order you some molasses but you need to pay what you owe and give me the money in advance.
Show it him in your phone.
Tell Him how much it is for a case of it

OP hasn't suggested that her neighbour doesn't speak English. He's been her neighbour for seven years.

I still want to know what he did with his rolls of 20s. Did he show you a magic trick?

Your comment about a non-existent 'hate speech' speaks volumes, doesn't it?

Come on Mumsnet get your act together with the reports about this Thread

Does anyone else read posts on here now and just pretty much wonder if the threads are for real?
I'm a sucker for being too trusting but I just don't know anymore.
What a sad state of affairs.

So you definitely need to harness the assertiveness and snark you are using on this thread and apply it to your interactions with this guy.

..But oh, so kind and caring with it....😆

The government have just announced an enquiry. Rishi has assured us that he will leave no jar unturned in attempts to get to the bottom of what is causing the shortage throughout the UK - and lessons will be learnt.

Mumsnet seems plagued by troll threads these days. They can be a bit slow to react sometimes, you can start to recognise them after a while.
It’s often the way OPs respond to questions which give them away, often refusing to acknowledge the advice given or respond to questions. Usually about a contentious topic - race, sexual abuse, toilet habits, Covid or politics.

Mumsnet seems plagued by troll threads these days. They can be a bit slow to react sometimes, you can start to recognise them after a while.
It’s often the way OPs respond to questions which give them away, often refusing to acknowledge the advice given or respond to questions. Usually about a contentious topic - race, sexual abuse, toilet habits, Covid or politics.

I agree. It just makes me question every single post. That's just a bit shit.

Thank you for your comment. This was a genuine post. I was honestly asking for advice. I was quite pleased that I 'd managed to do it, as I am not tech savvy. Unfortunately I feel so emotionally battered and bruised by some of the comments from a (very) few posters who have responded on this thread that I am closing my Mumsnet account and will not be accessing this site in future. Thank you to all the people who responded in the same good faith with which I opened this thread.

Oh blimey @ILoveMyCatButHesAPervert
I'd assumed there must be a language barrier or else he'd be ordering it himself!
In that case just tell him no you can't!

I feel so emotionally battered and bruised by some of the comments from a (very) few posters who have responded on this thread that I am closing my Mumsnet account and will not be accessing this site in future

Goodness me. What an extreme reaction You should see some of the genuinely bruising comments that get posted on here. You'd probably pass clean out!

Great example!

I think finding the appropriate translation for, 'I know what you're up to with the molasses, pal' accompanied by a hard stare might elicit a more animated response. And maybe a few 20s?

😂😂

I would call social services, adult social care. Explain that you're concerned about an elderly neighbour. Could someone have a chat with him, and see what support they can offer. He may be entitled to help that he needs. I did it for my father, and they were very nice.

@Beautiful3 the imaginary neighbour is in his late 40’s.

Yes, because there's no way that could turn bad.

Stuff like this is how women are murdered by unstable men.

😂😂

Maybe he likes molasses candy like in the song- little bird, fly through my window…..

the imaginary neighbour...

😂😂Now you see him, now you don't...