AIBU to not want to continue to give my neighbour financial help?

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I live in a small flat in an old house converted into 7 flats. Another elderly neighbour and myself (she is 76; I am in my 60s), have left what small amounts of groceries we can for the gentleman in his late 40s who lives in the basement flat, who is unwell and far from his family in Sudan. Among the groceries I have given him were included some jars of molasses. Recently this gentleman has been knocking at my door asking me to get more molasses for him. I tried to explain that things were a bit difficult for me at the moment, but he insisted, so I ordered 3 more jars from Amazon (which I don't like using), for him, at a cost of £12.30. A week later he came to my door again telling me to get more molasses for him. He took rolls of £20 notes from his pockets, but did not repay the £12.30. He said he would repay this when I got him some more molasses. I said 'But then you'll still owe me another £12'. He just said 'Yeah' and went off back downstairs. I ' m not sure how to handle this - he really isn't very well - and would be very grateful for advice.

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I ' m not sure how to handle this - he really isn't very well - and would be very grateful for advice.

Sudanese people are lovely but blunt. You need to be as blunt as him and say money first, then molasses.

Stop buying it! Just stop! He cannot physically make you order it! When he knocks again explain, "I cannot order more because you owe me £12.50." Even if he pays you the money, don't ever buy any more. Just say, " I can't get any more, sorry. "

Are you daft? Don't answer the door to him, he's a rude scrounger.

“But he insisted” 🤨 just keep saying no, don’t give an explanation of why not, just no and shut the door. Do t worry about being rude when the other person is being rude first.

Stop being so soft and just say no, or don't answer the door to him.

You were kind once, which was lovely of you, but now he's taking advantage of your kindness.

Not your problem.

Just keep repeating no. You don't owe him anything. He, on the other hand, owes you £12.50.

YABU - you should do everything he demands and buy him everything he asks for out of your own money.

Dont answer the door. Youve done enough. If he needs to pay in cash, because he cant pay online, then Sainsburys sells them. You shouldn’t feel threatened in your own home. Be polite but hes taking the piss

Have you got a chain or the door? What about your neighbour?

Just say it's sold out so he will have to get his own and forget about the £12.50

Even as sarcasm, not really helping is it? OP, some people have a weird mind set on here then dress it up as ''only joking'.

He owes you money but you’re not going to get it back.
Niip it in the bud now. No more engagement. Tell him you can’t get. Any more.

Sorry you are unable to buy more groceries until he pays you what he owes. Could be a language problem. Give him a written note. Amount owing for x jars of molasses £X.

The poster is clearly joking though.

I think molasses can be used to brew beer. Not that he is necessarily doing that with it but it's the only reason I can think that anyone would want a load of molasses.

Just tell him where you bought them so he can order this own. Very odd

He sounds ungrateful and rude. Do no more for him.

This. Give him the link to Amazon if required and he can buy them himself.

I'd say just forget the 12.50 if you can afford it and then just politely say to him that treacle is the same as molasses and point him at the nearest shop.

I would just say you need ALL of the money upfront (including what he already owes) before you can order.

You sound lovely btw but don’t let him take you for granted.

Just say no

You've been very kind, he is taking the piss

This was my first (and only) thought. Very strange, if he's ill.

Why did you provide molasses in the first place?! Bit odd to provide that in a food parcel.