Irks me to see mums boasting about "childfree" nights out & "kid free weekends away"

[Bridgetjoneski]

I just find it very distasteful! I have one or two mum friends on insta & know them in real life. But at least every fortnight they have insta posts up about "kid free" night out with dh or "kid free weekend away". They are quite wealthy & both work full time, I just find it very unsavoury. Tag a dinner your hubby but no need to state the kids absense.
Is this a rising trend or just limited to the pair I know? The latest status tagging the latest dinner out was "not a child in sight"...

Get over yourself. You sound jealous.

It makes their kids sound disposable!
It really doesn't. What an odd way to view it.

It seems your issue is with the posting it on social media? But I think it's just a sort of "Look, we're childfree tonight, isn't that unusual/different/a novelty type thing" because when you become parents you don't have much childfree time together or with friends. It's not "Thank f*, we're childfree tonight, we hate our kids and want to get them adopted!"

#childfreelunchbrrak
#livingmysbestlife
#blessed
#whatiswithallthegoadyfuckersonherethesedays

I think you may need a job! You're obviously bored.

You think work is a break?

No it's the kidfree announcing on social media that I find inappropriate, the kidfree hashtags etc!

As a mother who never had a child free night or date nights with my DH as we had nobody to mind our children this wouldn't bother me. I would think "fair play to you and enjoy yourself". Parenting is hard and everybody needs a break. My children are teens now so myself and DH are finally getting our alone time together and it's wonderful. Definitely wouldn't begrudge other parents some child free time.

Good god! I have heard it all now.

Chances are that 50% of my kid free nights out are spent discussing kids or internally planning next week so they have a nice life! I don’t think anyone in their right minds would think that a kid free night means you’re pretending they don’t exist! Plus I am quite sure those kids will be delighted with some “parent free” nights out as soon as they can get one!

Plus who made you the ultimate arbiter of taste- personally I think it’s a bit non-U to be implying that people you know, allegedly friends, are bad parents or tasteless because they have the audacity to “enjoy” a 40hr week and a night out without their kids in tow on occasion 🤷‍♀️

Hmm you sound very jealous.
What different does it make to you?
My kids grandparents LOVE to have them stay over a few times a month and me and my husband make the most of our free time. The kids are very happy.
Why would this irk you?
We have the best times with our kids and worship them. That doesn't mean parents aren't allowed to enjoy time without them also.

Still not fully clear from your posts OP. Do you work?

These people are working while you're off at yoga and brunching.

So you get your days free when the kids are at school, but they shouldn't have time alone because they work?

Maybe get a full time job and spend every other waking hour doing stuff for your kids and see if you need a break for a few hours.

Dh & I have dinner out if his mum comes to stay. It's lovely to have time with dh but I would never go raising hell announcing "not a kid in sight"
Every few weeks I meet with friends for drinks again none of us would be the types to be tagging each other hash tagging childfree it's just a bit crass.

Surely it’s the opposite. If you’re committed, caring parents you’re 100% all in when you’re with them. Hence the need for a break. If you ignore them and put them on tablets, you probably need a break less.

As someone who is out the other side (grown up kids) I am really glad my marriage was a high priority in those years. We kept our relationship going and realised that parenting was only a part of our marriage. It was really important to have time together so we weren’t left sobbing over empty nests as indicated on other threads.

No I am a stay at home mum, my kids are at school & I was a full time mom prior to that.

Ah! So childfree time is not actually a novelty for you....

I do yoga, pilates, meet friends for brekkie or brunch, I swim, meet friends for a walk or coffee on the beach.. I certainly don't need to announce "not a child in sight" whole I'm getting on with my day

Tbh it sounds like you get quite a lot of child free leisure time. Presumably these women work FT plus look after their kids in the evening/weekend so a date night or whatever without the children is a big deal to them.

Personally I get bugger all child free leisure time so my problem with these sorts of posts is purely envy!

It makes their kids sound disposable!

I have no words

I would never go raising hell announcing "not a kid in sight"

Raising hell? Are you ok hun?

🙄🙄🙄 highlighting that they're having a childfree night is no different to someone posting on social media that they're having a girls night/trip away - it doesn't automatically mean you hate the rest of your family/partner/Husband. Even if you did this every fortnight - so be it!

So odd that you're irked by this.

People/mums/couples need their head showered, good on them for it! And posting about it! It's healthy and no child will feel neglected or unwanted as a result.

No I am a stay at home mum, my kids are at school & I was a full time mom prior to that.

A full time mum?

But my point is announcing "childfree" or "not a kid in sight" is quite crass. I don't consider my kids a burden or people I want to be free of. I think it's an odd statement to be making.

But you still won't explain why????

I think social media posts are a little banal but "yeah, dinner without the dc" doesn't infer "I hate my dc and wish I didn't have them".

Not enough eye rolls in the world..