Irks me to see mums boasting about "childfree" nights out & "kid free weekends away"

[Bridgetjoneski]

I just find it very distasteful! I have one or two mum friends on insta & know them in real life. But at least every fortnight they have insta posts up about "kid free" night out with dh or "kid free weekend away". They are quite wealthy & both work full time, I just find it very unsavoury. Tag a dinner your hubby but no need to state the kids absense.
Is this a rising trend or just limited to the pair I know? The latest status tagging the latest dinner out was "not a child in sight"...

@pootlin not at all but I think it is distasteful to highlight the childfree part! Are their kids really that awful?

What is wrong with this exactly? It doesn't mean they don't love their children it's nice to have some childfree, leisure time.

I can't see what they've done wrong?

You are allowed time off as a parent…

Why is it distasteful? Are you assuming this means they don't like their kids?

Ah..: these women who are juggling full time work and parenthood. How dare they be delighted at getting some free time

Just stay off social media. Problem solved.

As a parent I believe it’s my duty to model healthy relationships and that includes with my husband, wider family, my friends and with myself. Childfree time is incredibly important in that. I don’t want my daughter growing up thinking to be a parent = martyrdom. I want her to know that you can be a bloody good mum and tight knit family whilst still prioritising other relationships and yourself as an individual. Because you know, it’s not 1950.

I find it odd that you’d think otherwise.

It has zero bearing on my love for my children. Childfree time simply has an undeniably different dynamic. If my kids look back on social media they’ll see me celebrating time with their dad/time with my friends and wellbeing time…but overwhelmingly all the love we poured into them as a family. Cus let’s be honest 95% of my life is as a mum and I can’t imagine them begrudging me the 5% I took for me.

It makes their kids sound disposable!

Won't somebody think of the children!

No it doesn't. Not to sane people anyway.

I suppose YANBU to be "irked" as different things affect different people

Personally I get irked at people talking about "hubby" but as has been pointed out to me, that's my issue

I love child free time. Lets me remember that I'm me and not just Mum

😂

Yes kids are tiring, challenging, testing, exhausting and so and and so on.

anyone who says otherwise is lying!

people have the right to enjoy time away from their children.

You have loads of child free time though by your own list.

Do you hate your kids and that's why you do so much without them?

The fact you don't mention your child free time on social media doesn't make you morally superior.

The fact you equate child free time with hating your kids (and have a while lot if child free time yourself) is concerning though.

Do you work, Op?

You have really cheered me up @Bridgetjoneski. My day is dull after a wonder CHILD FREE! weekend where my son had a whale of a time with his dad. Do I feel bad? No! I feel fabulous and able to take on the world again rather than being a worn out shell.

The fact you think I’m an awful parent for enjoying child free time makes me realise how lucky I am to not be such a bitter and miserable sod! You should try it sometime. It’s very freeing 😊

It's not them hun it's u

40hrs a week at work is not the same as a child free dinner on a Friday night

Do you work OP?

The fact you don't mention your child free time on social media doesn't make you morally superior

Perfectly put.

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Are you in a relationship @Bridgetjoneski ? If so, do you not like time away from them?

if not, K think that’s your problem and you are jealous or desperately need to get laid!

I think it's fine. I have dc 10 and 12 and I do the same. Two weekends a year I go away with friends to a local city and have a wonderful childfree time. You bet I am having a photo of me relaxing with a cocktail and posting it on Facebook!

At the same time, I spend tons of time with my kids day to day and often post about enjoying time with them. My dc know they are my world but that I also love my friends and time without them.

DD12 has ASD, we have no family help and DH and I can't have a night away without the kids so if I am away with friends for the weekend, or if DH and I manage a date day, it is a big deal and I can't imagine any of my friends judging me.

<hands OP a massive spoon>
that's for the next froth inducing bollocks you choose to post

Well I can't exactly sit in the classroom with them can I? 🙄 That's a snapshot of what I do while the dc are in school. But I don't go hashtagging I'm childfree during my mornings!