Irks me to see mums boasting about "childfree" nights out & "kid free weekends away"

[Bridgetjoneski]

I just find it very distasteful! I have one or two mum friends on insta & know them in real life. But at least every fortnight they have insta posts up about "kid free" night out with dh or "kid free weekend away". They are quite wealthy & both work full time, I just find it very unsavoury. Tag a dinner your hubby but no need to state the kids absense.
Is this a rising trend or just limited to the pair I know? The latest status tagging the latest dinner out was "not a child in sight"...

Do people not teach their kids about self care and positive attitudes towards mental health? This applies to parents as well as kids. A break from the relentless nature of young children every so often makes a happier and more positive parent.

I don't thinks it's distasteful, I think the message that women have a life outside of their children is a positive one. Far better than trying to shame mums (always mums!) for not loving every second of childcare. I suppose it might grind your gears if you never get any opportunities to be child free. But thats SM isn't it? Always someone bragging about something, and if it's something you lack, whether it's childcare, a fabulous family holiday or a beautiful home, it can make you feel down if you pay it too much attention.

Hahahaa BINGO!!
What is life like being so simple minded?

So you are telling me OP that when your children are at school you don't enjoy that child free time? A bit of peace and quiet with a cup of tea?

I agree with you OP. If you’re so happy to be away from your children why bother having them.

There are 168 hours in the week. My kids spend 30 of those at school, and if I see a friend for a drink that might be another 5 hours away from me. So 133/168 hours they are with me - I’m not going to shed any tears over my utterly neglectful parenting.

@WithACatLikeTread I do yoga, pilates, meet friends for brekkie or brunch, I swim, meet friends for a walk or coffee on the beach.. I certainly don't need to announce "not a child in sight" whole I'm getting on with my day!

it’s not some awful crime to be happy and pleased that you’re spending time without children.

People who lose their identities when they have children and their personality just becomes that they are a parent and nothing else need to get a grip.

You have a lot of childfree activities!

Not surprised you don’t understand why some people celebrate a bit of time away from their responsibilities once in a while.

There's the difference.

You get roughly 30 hours a week to do as you please, when you please.

Child free time to yourself is the norm - therefore you won't feel the need to announce.

The thing is your judgey posts aren't clear, because you're swinging from one bosom hoik to another.

One minute you're judging parents for enjoying time away from their children, but then the 'problem' is they're posting about it on SM.

If you're getting that irked about SM, just keep away from it.

Oh dear OP. You might not announce on FB but you are ranting on here. Same thing really…

On another slant, my son loves a mummy free weekend as much as I do. The obvious answer is hide the feeds of the friends you are jealous of.

Whereas I only get a few hours in the evening and a couple of shifts a week which aren't proper breaks. I would be properly celebrating a bit of time to myself.

Report them hun - to who I don’t know but report report report.

Are your children all adults yet? Because if you've completed the task of raising them and can still say that all the way through that process you've never once wanted to be away from them, then you are very unusual indeed. Also, potentially a person who copes less well at empty nest time.

But the two women in question work 40 hours plus a week! They are "free" from the kids then..
This isn't a one off occurance it's every fortnight or so. Fair enough tagging DH & saying "enjoying dinner with dh" why the constant need to state the dc's a sense?

absense

Maybe you should stay off social media 😄

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It's braggy to post things like weekends away with dh on social media. However, the only thing that irks me about it is that I/we don't get the opportunity to do the same .
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You are clearly being deliberately provocative.

Working is not the same as being child free and you know it.

God you're having a busy morning with all your finger pointing and judging, what with this thread and the other where you're banging on about SAHMs 🤣🤣

Chill out, try to open your mind and you'll become a nicer, happier person all round.

Maybe they hate their kids
maybe their kids are little shits
maybe
just maybe
it has absolutely no impact on your life whatsoever other than giving you something to start goady threads on mumsnet about

I think I manage child free time about once every three months, for a couple of hours at most. Not complaining, just the stage of life I’m at. But yes, it does feel amazing so I might shout it from the rooftops 🤣😂 If I had child free time more regularly, I’m sure it would seem much less of a treat 🤣😂

There's a general unrelenting exhaustion that comes with parenting. It's unimaginable. There's a fuck ton of joy too, but yes, small periods of child free time really are like magic.

^ This.

So the issue is you resent other women also having child free time.

You need to stop being so resentful.