Should I tell her he's been sleeping with me

[Damaged27]

Changed name for this as its really outing. My ex and I have been sleeping together since we broke up kind of a fwb situation. Where not together and free to do whatever with whoever. However iv just found out, not from him that he has been in a relationship with another woman for almost a year and she is a minimum of 12 weeks pregnant with his child. He has not said a word to me about this. Aibu to tell her or should I just walk away and let them have their little family.
Yabu. Don't tell her
Yanbu. Tell her what a cheating asshole she is with.

I dont think it's your place

No

Obviously tell her! She has a right to know.

Would you want to know. Its the fact he still hasn't even told me and I honestly don't know if or when he was planning on doing so

No good will come from telling her

Nope, just keep away from him now.

I did this - or, rather, he did. Protecting his new relationship wasn't my responsibility, neither of us was emotionally disrupted by the convenience sex we sometimes shared, and we knew we'd stop as soon as I'd completed on my new place.

I didn't tell her or anybody else she might have come into contact with. They've been married for 20 years now! I should imagine he still cheats, but either it doesn't bother her or (more likely) he covers it up better than he did when we were married.

This is the thing he clearly thinks it's OK what he's doing so if it's not me it will be someone else

How do you know the baby isn't yours?

What do you mean I'm female

Good god, he's even worse than my XH! In your place, I'd tell him I know about the pregnancy and ask him about his plans. Then, I'm sorry to say, I'd knock it on the head. It would be really horrible to be the OW when she's heavily pregnant or has a new baby.

Bit of a nuisance having to find a new FWB if you want one - but it was going to happen sooner or later.

😂😂😂

I’d let her know, for the sake of her sexual health if nothing else, even if she doesn’t thank you for it.

Knowing what you now know, are you still shagging him?

I'm gonna have to bring it up because he's clearly not going to.

Sisters before misters! Tell her before she adds his name to the child and the birth certificate

Oh, I agree. The thing is, if you tell her he's going to spin her a line about you being just desperate to break them up because you're possessive and want him back, or some such shit. Particularly now she's pregnant, she'll want to believe he's a great partner.

She'll find out in her own sweet time, probably. But I wouldn't want to be the woman he's found out with. In any case, you have got to sort your own shit out so may as well do that now.

I only found out yesterday and we haven't had sex in over a week as iv been recovering from an abortion (not his baby) so no not still shagging him

You are not FWB. You are the woman he is having an affair with.

Oof, hope you're feeling okay

I can hear him now: "@Damaged27 is upset because she had to have an abortion, now she's found out I'm having a baby with you, she's all hormonal and desperate! She was always jealous anyway, she's lying to split us up."

It’s none of your business what a FWB does in his own time.

BTW, did the bloke whose baby you just aborted know he wasn’t exclusive?

It's really hard because I know nothing about this woman she doesn't even live in my area so don't know how she will react. Iv done some Facebook stalking and she lives an hour away and already has a child who looks about 3/4 years old

I think there’s something quite soy and uncouth about him having sexual relations with you when he was supposedly committed to someone else and didn’t tell you

Do you have children together?

Do you think he was cheating on you too?

Not soy 🤣🤣 sly

Yeah he did. I'm single