I’m leaving DH but kids don’t want to come with me

[Flabbymummy1]

I’m leaving DH through the night we have 3 dc’s together. I’m the main earner and because of this he has been the main caregiver. He has controlled my kids so much and turned them against me they hate me so much. He undermines me in front of them so they just think I’m a joke.

Do I just take 1 year old ds? the older two won’t come with me? He is saying I won’t see my kids ever again.

I’ve booked and Airbnb for a week then I will have to sort out some housing.

Read the thread, or at least OP's posts.
Why would you just launch in with your advice on such a sensitive thread?

Edit. I see that you got out. Good; now work on your relationship with your kids.

Yes, do this. You need to otherwise you could loose your daughter to him. He is likely to start on her once she stops being the malleable child she currently is.

Yes, do this. You need to otherwise you could loose your daughter to him. He is likely to start on her once she stops being the malleable child she currently is.

What makes you say she will lose her daughter? She is too young to make that decision herself.

Go to the school on Monday and collect your daughter at lunch time. I have done thus with women when I worked in Domestic Abusr. He won't be expecting it.

@Flabbymummy1

OP

Have you been in touch with the Duty Social Worker in your area over the weekend?

If not, do get in touch with them in the morning.

Reading OP's latest post I interpret that it could mean that she does have all 3 kids, that dd didn't want to go but is with her anyway. I hope I'm right...

@CharlotteBog I don't see what the problem is? She gave helpful advice. The OP doesn't just need tea and sympathy, she needs constructive advice.

But OP has already left.

She has, but refuges and women's aid can still support her

Hi, how are you doing now? Did you manage to get DD?