To be disappointed partner booked "holiday" ?

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So me and partner have 2 holidays booked this year.
Greece in September and a ski holiday in December.
I'm more than happy with this
He has now told me he has booked us 3 nights in Gran Canaria in 4 weeks
I questioned the 3 nights thing and he said they were really cheap flights (under £20 ) so he thought why not
Aibu to be a bit annoyed
It's a long way to go for 3 nights
We land on the Sunday at 10.30 am
We fly back on the Wednesday at 11.30 am

Would you be annoyed going all that way for 3 nights ?

It's terrible. It's "this is what I've decided you're doing with your time"

It’s a bit silly to think a taxi is any less likely to turn up at 3am than at 3pm.

Taxi companies are 24 hour businesses that specialise in moving people from A to B when other transport is not available. Ones that offer airport transfer are used to taking people for early flights, it is their bread and butter. Their offices are manned all night. There is hardly any traffic on the roads at 3 am so the taxi is less likely to get stuck in traffic in its way to you.

Obviously you pre book with a reputable company and don’t just rely on calling an Uber at 3am. But it’s really not something to worry about.

I don’t like the Canaries so I’d be annoyed about that but a 4 hour flight is nothing. A train from London - Edinburgh is longer.

I would be delighted 😀

A 3 day trip when they have a week off is hardly an "executive decision". It's a bit of spontaneous fun

The extra hotels would annoy me, are there not early taxis? When would you need to arrive at the airport by? I'd just get the train home the same day personally.

I'd be wondering how cheap the flights really were after factoring in all that versus local airport both ways and no trains and extra hotels.

Nothing wrong with going away but telling someone that's what you're doing is controlling. They have no chance to say er no.

LTB

Exactly. It's like deciding what someone wears or eats. It's abusive.

I’d love it as long as it was a nice hotel

Did some people prekids not have fun stuff to do most weekends?

I'm thinking pre kids me an dhs weekends would have been filled with our hobbies (sports) and at least one night of Friday or Saturday seeing friends.

So a city break weekend would have been doable, and we did it often, but not without discussion and thought.

To be able to do these things on a whim on a Friday night must mean that you would have nothing on and you would need to be sure your partner had nothing on.
So, for those that go/went prekids in spontaneous weekends away deciding on a Friday; do you otherwise do nothing with your weekends?

You've time off booked. You obviously like travelling abroad if you have two other trips booked. He seems to have worked out logistics. Unless you were going to Leeds to see a specific event or friends then maybe just look forward to the sunshine.

I know right? I'd be fuming and say go yourself.

Mouseychick, by that definition any surprise is controlling

I've done gran canaria for 3 nights.
It'll be a lovely little break!

"Nothing wrong with going away but telling someone that's what you're doing is controlling. They have no chance to say er no."

@mouseychick what if your partner booked a meal out as a surprise? Would them picking the restaurant be controlling??

They can book what they want for themselves

Your '99%' would love a spontaneous holiday without any consultation whatsoever is falling apart a bit @HarrietStyles. I think there's you and one other on this thread so far who are happy for others to decide what you do with your weekends.

Jesus wept, I’m obviously doing this life thing all wrong! I haven’t been abroad for over 6 years and you’re moaning about your parter booking a spontaneous trip away!! Get a grip.

I wouldn't be happy either.

Flights are cheap but all the other costs add up and I hate getting up early. Ruins the whole holiday.

Yes.

If theyed said "ill book us a surprise" and I said "I'm down for that" that would be fine. Turning up at my office and saying "I've booked dinner at a steak place" isn't

I was thinking of doing exactly the same thing for my DH - 3 days and 4 nights in the Canaries for less than the cost of a weekend away in the UK. I didn't realise I'd be seen as being a control freak! I thought it would be a nice little break, some much needed Vitamin D and some time to be together.

I think you are being ungrateful and looking for the negatives.

I would be very annoyed that he had booked it anyway however long it was

It's fine just ask him first!

Oh for goodness sake no it’s not

And if that’s the level of paranoia you have in your life then I am sorry for you but it’s not normal in a healthy relationship

Healthy relationships involve spontaneity and doing surprises for each other. This is the second thread in as many days where OP is unhappy about where their partner has booked for their holiday which is a gift and wanting it changed.