To be disappointed partner booked "holiday" ?

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So me and partner have 2 holidays booked this year.
Greece in September and a ski holiday in December.
I'm more than happy with this
He has now told me he has booked us 3 nights in Gran Canaria in 4 weeks
I questioned the 3 nights thing and he said they were really cheap flights (under £20 ) so he thought why not
Aibu to be a bit annoyed
It's a long way to go for 3 nights
We land on the Sunday at 10.30 am
We fly back on the Wednesday at 11.30 am

Would you be annoyed going all that way for 3 nights ?

Same here . I bring it up all the time that he never ever suggests anything “fun”, even a takeaway. At least he admits it nowadays. It genuinely would never occur to him to book a cheeky weekend away.

We are literally changing the climate so that it will no longer function as our life support system.

Re. PP about climate change, I appreciate that this is a concern but each persons situation is different.

I’m about balance - I don’t have dogs/pets, currently don’t have kids (although may well have in the future), and don’t own a car and don’t even take public transport much as I WFH. This all keeps my carbon footprint fairly low compared to many others who have all these things (Pets, kids, car) So I don’t feel bad catching a few flights each year.

So perhaps it’s more about each person considering their overall lifestyle and carbon footprint.

If you look at the amount of carbon emitted by air travel it’s incomparable to those things you mention.

If you compare your carbon footprint to the vast majority of the world, and in particular those that are being and will be hit first and worst by the climate emergency, yours will be massive in comparison.

There are no excuses I’m afraid. You either give a fuck about others or you don’t.

I do feel it’s just disingenuous when people single out air travel but try to downplay or ignore the effect of other luxuries or lifestyle choices (although I do appreciate for some in rural areas a car is hardly a luxury).

I genuinely don’t know the statistics of say pet ownership (or car ownership) vs flying (if anyone has any actual STATS feel free to share) but that doesn’t negate pet ownership for instance has a significant impact that’s often ignored.

https://www.independent.co.uk/climate-change/opinion/pets-uk-ownership-cats-dogs-carbon-environmental-impact-b1249610.html

https://amp.cnn.com/cnn/2022/09/15/us/pets-climate-impact-lbg-wellness/index.html

I would totally love that.

What on earth is the matter with you?? That sounds brilliant. I used to got to Dubai for the weekend! Grand Canaria isn’t that far at all!

Mybootsare You might not want to bring children into the world if everyone keeps going on "a few flights a year".

It’s like saying ‘I don’t slap my wife on a regular basis like others do, so I am allowed to punch once a year.’ It makes no sense. Flying on holiday is not necessary and a super easy way to cut our carbon footprint by a huge amount. It’s wrong. It’s so unfair on those that will suffer the most.

You either care or you don’t. There is no justification for knowingly spewing tonnes of carbon into the atmosphere, putting our children’s future in jeopardy and committing millions of people to death and suffering, because you fancy a holiday. If you don’t care then that’s up to you, but it’s morally wrong.

Just look up the carbon footprint of your flights each year.

I agree that pet ownership is a massive problem too. Fashion industry. Our general overconsumption and waste is dreadful. We are a greedy and selfish nation.

https://flightfree.co.uk/about_us/

Do you have children, and if so, how many?

Not at all. It’s really not that far. I would happily do it.

I know where I'd rather go and it wouldn't be bloody Leeds!! Christ if my Partner told me he'd booked us a few nights away, somewhere warm I'd be over the flipping moon. Not calling him controlling because he's done something nice for me.

Who are you to have 3 trips abroad this year? You can obviously afford to be as snipperty and whiney and complaining as you want to be. I'd give him hell for making you enjoy another break, for which he thinks he might derive pleasure or purpose. Just don't endure. Serve him divorce papers. If it's inconvenient to go, don't go. If you don't divorce, promptly inform him he has no right to decide where you go as a couple. You must take control here.

I'd be absolutely over the moon! Sounds fantastic.

Yes

How fucking ungrateful are you?! Three holidays this year (so far). What a tough life….

Poor you, how ever will you cope

I would find it too much of a faff packing, having to get up stupid early to get to the airport, I never sleep the first night on holiday, then having literally 1 full night, then on the 3rd night you’re up early again to get to the airport to come home… personally I’d rather have a weekend somewhere local… so I’m with you OP…

I’m also with you OP, but then I don’t really like the Canary Islands. I would also find it weird that DP didn’t even mention it to me before booking - surely it wouldn’t hurt to say ‘I found this really good deal, what do you think?’. That’s how normal relationships work…

Also it depends why you were going to Leeds - was it to visit friends or family who he’s now just decided he doesn’t care about seeing? Or were you just going there for the hell of it?

I'd love it! Can I have your DH?

Sounds great

I'm not sure annoyed would be the right word for me. I wouldn't like him booking something for me without asking and i wouldn't be too excited to travel all that way for 2.5 days. But of course I'd go!

YBVU I would LOVE to be going on one holiday let alone 3.
also you’ve got a good partner if he’s planning ahead and booking things he thinks you’d like.

Do you?