To be disappointed partner booked "holiday" ?

[closemydoormow]

So me and partner have 2 holidays booked this year.
Greece in September and a ski holiday in December.
I'm more than happy with this
He has now told me he has booked us 3 nights in Gran Canaria in 4 weeks
I questioned the 3 nights thing and he said they were really cheap flights (under £20 ) so he thought why not
Aibu to be a bit annoyed
It's a long way to go for 3 nights
We land on the Sunday at 10.30 am
We fly back on the Wednesday at 11.30 am

Would you be annoyed going all that way for 3 nights ?

No, it’s not that far.

Wow! Sunshine in 4 weeks time. What a lovely treat

I'd be delighted if my DH did that.

Did you not discuss this with him before hand? I'd be pissed off if my husband booked me a holiday and didn't even ask me.

Yes, it's not normal!

Well thats pretty normal for us. People don't bat an eyelid and there's whole packages based around 3 nights to the South Pacific & NZ (from Qld). Or fly to Perth for the weekend.

I'd be concerned at my husband organising it without asking, unless he knew it didn't cause issues with work or other plans. Then woo-hoo, let's pack!!

I'd be pissed off as I've got animals who I need to arrange care for, plus I need to check dates are ok with work. That aside I also wouldn't want to go away for 2.5days of actual holiday, I like a minimum of 4 nights, such a faff for minimal enjoyment. See if he'll take a mate instead?

YABU

I recently flew to Athens for two nights so I'd be showering him with all the kisses.

How lovely of him to surprise you with something nice.

Eh? Who would be mad about this? As long as there is financial and annual leave budget for it, what is the actual problem?

If you don't want to go away, don't, tell him to take a friend. But I cannot see the problem here.

You’re acting as if you’re flying to the other side of the world. It’s a 4 hour plane ride with is actually a short flight. I’d enjoy the surprise and the time together personally.

I don't get how your life works that one person could book and decide something for 3 nights for another adult without consultation. What about all your normal commitments you would ordinarily have over those 3 days?

This^
everything is jointly checked beforehand here.
However saying this, this trip wouldn’t bother me length wise if it’s a really good bargain and wouldn’t affect other plans.

I think it is not that normal for men to do it to women, but I know loads of women (not me personally) who will book a holiday with no prior discussion with their husbands/partners beyond general discussions about budget for the year.

I'll be honest, if this is all OP has to worry about she is pretty lucky.

I would hate it as I find the airport bit so stressful, it wouldn't feel worth it

It partly depends on where you live compared to the airport.

My parents live 15 minutes from a major airport. When they go on holiday they get a taxi and so are nicely dropped off at the airport departures. The route they take to the airport is highly unlikely to have bad traffic. They book the taxi for 2 hours 40 minutes before their take off time. Time between touching down at the U.K. airport and walking in their front door is rarely over an hour. (And on one occasion - which has been repeated to everyone they have ever met - it was 33 minutes.)

We live over 90 minutes from a major airport and the route involves a motorway that gets very busy. We also have to park in a car park and then get a bus to the airport. “Buses every ten minutes” is something that needs examining under the trades description act in my view!

So we have to leave the house at least 6 hours before the flight.

Big difference between these.

I'd be annoyed at being told something was booked for me with no consideration for annual leave or if there was anything else on those days that I was expecting to do. I do find it quite odd anyone would book a while trip without consulting the other person at all.

Airport is a 25 min taxi ride away but flight is 6 am so will need to book hotel
On way back the flight is to a airport 2 hours away from home
So he's booked a hotel for that night in that city then come home via train next day
It's a lot

I'd be happy my partner was so proactive!

I been known to text my husband and say finish early and meet me at the airport because I've found a deal to fly off somewhere for the weekend

I've flown to LA for 4 nights, so no, it's not too far. 2 films and you've landed.

That's incredibly controlling

Is it an environmental concern you have?

I’m guessing you don’t work or are self-employed? Otherwise how would he know you could take the time off?

Off topic but who are you flying with, I would love to book this!

I would completely fucked off if DH booked a holiday without discussing it with me first. I have a strong need to be in control of my life and very firm boundaries about other people deciding what I am doing though. If you want me to book me a holiday, have basic respect for me and ask.