To be disappointed partner booked "holiday" ?

[closemydoormow]

So me and partner have 2 holidays booked this year.
Greece in September and a ski holiday in December.
I'm more than happy with this
He has now told me he has booked us 3 nights in Gran Canaria in 4 weeks
I questioned the 3 nights thing and he said they were really cheap flights (under £20 ) so he thought why not
Aibu to be a bit annoyed
It's a long way to go for 3 nights
We land on the Sunday at 10.30 am
We fly back on the Wednesday at 11.30 am

Would you be annoyed going all that way for 3 nights ?

In theory, yes absolutely. In practice, I'd be very happy if DP told me we were going to grab canaria in 4 weeks for three days so long as he knew I had the annual leave and hadn't forgotten something important like who looks after the kid/dog.

I'd rather get up early and come home late than have extra time in hotels. But then I don't like sleeping elsewhere for the sake of it, I'd rather longer at the destination or else be at home in my own bed.

Same, I’m not even a massive control freak but I think he should’ve checked first -. although I accept he might have done it with the best of intentions.

But I’d be fine with 3 nights there as it’s not that far away.

I’m planning to go to Bali for a week this spring.

I don't have a partner.

If there was already a plan to go to a specific restaurant (Leeds) and this was unilaterally changed to a different one further away then yes, I'd also find that rude and frankly weird behaviour.

My sister does that, She lives in GC and will come to us annually for three nights. Sees the family, does some shopping, eats out and goes back. She doesn't arrive till something like 8pm and goes out on a morning flight.

@Theatrefan12

Healthy relationships involve spontaneity and doing surprises for each other.

Healthy relationships actually involve respect.

If you are the type of person who enjoys spontaneous stuff, great. But that's not the default position, default is respect.

My partner isn't controlling or abusive or anything like that
He is kind and just loves to be spontaneous with trips
If this was for longer duration I would probably be happy
I love GC and we only got back in November from Maspalomas

*Yes.

If theyed said "I'll book us a surprise" and I said "I'm down for that" that would be fine. Turning up at my office and saying "I've booked dinner at a steak place" isn't*

@mouseychick oh what fun you must be!!

So if a couple both like booking surprise meals/hotel stays etc for each other are both parties controlling?

What if your DP bought you a surprise for Christmas - is that them controlling you by telling you what you should like?

The only thing I'd be particularly annoyed at is the return to a different airport. For some reason that always feels more of a faf.

Would have been nice for him to suggest prior to booking, but as a one off I'd get on board and just mention that you'd like the heads up before changing plans.

I'll go 😋

You can drive to the airport the night before and get a stay and park deal.
I love leisurely getting up in an airport hotel, absolutely no motorway stress and a nice breakfast!!!

Coming back you know you don't have a long drive when you land.

My husband does this sort of thing as he knows I stress. I just turn up with a bag and everything is organised. I do t see this as him being controlling or taking over, I see it as thoughtful. You can go to Leeds on a train for shopping etc. another time. Why not go there in the summer?

You are lucky, enjoy your break!!!

Oh for goodness sake yes it is

Except the OP is coming back to a different airport so needs to taxi rather than drive.

Asking him kind of ruins the surprise part though

All this "oh I bet you're fun" it's tedious.

Just say do you want a surprise holiday?

Nope. I’d be delighted!

It’s Spain, not Australia. Short flight and a few days in the sun for next to nothing. Lovely.

So this answers a lot of the objections apps have posted:

OPs DP knows:

1. She can get the time off work (already booked)
2. Any practicalities (pets, dc etc if relevant) are sorted
3. She likes the Canary Islands - was there recently and loved it.

OP has also confirmed her DP is lovely, kind and non-controlling. Her only issue is the length of the holiday.

Struggling to see what reservations people have left other than feeling they have been "controlled" - even though OP has said she doesn't feel it's controlling

four hour flight for a few days- four hour train journey for a UK weekend away - what's the difference?

Awww - are your diamond shoes a bit too tight as well?

😂😂😂😂

Christ- don’t go then.

I literally would love to live a life where a surprise trip to a nice, warm, sunny place is the source of so much navel gazing and hand wringing 🤣🤣

You go to Leeds OP, and I’ll go to Gran Canaria in your place. Problem solved 😊😊

As someone who has been with her partner for 10 years and had to beg for him to arrange one night of babysitting, I would be over the moon if he came back with a holiday booked