Does anyone else just generally dislike other people?

[Inthebleakmidwinter764]

I do. They're either loud or annoying or they ask too many questions or they're rude or demanding or they don't have a concept of personal space. I could go on 🤣

I'm glad it's not just me 😅

I wouldn't go that far, but I am happiest when alone.

I've found as I've got older my tolerance for other people has got much, much lower and there wasn't much of it in the first place 🤣
I particularly struggle with small talk these days, I just CBA.

I like a bit of social interactions but once I've had enough them just breathing gets on my nerves 🤣
I'm quite antisocial but other people seem to like me 🤷‍♀️

Yes to the small talk! Can't be arsed absolutely. I've found a new hair dresser who doesn't do small talk - Love it.

Loud breathing, loud sniffing (use a flipping tissue!!)

Fully accept lots of people probably don't like me but couldn't care less. Just wish I could fashion a life where I didn't have to interact with really anyone else 🤣

Yep

Totally get it, feels like every other person was put on this earth to annoy me, I am menopausal though 😬

Some individual persons are OK, but I really don't like people.

You are all ‘other people’.

I can dislike people really really easily, sometimes they dont even need to open their mouths for me to instantly dislike them

same here . It seems to have got worse since starting the menopause. I’m turning into a grumpy old cat lady 😂😂😂

This is Mn. It is overwhelmingly populated by people who loathe any contact with other people, regard an invitation, a visitor, a ring at the door for a delivery, or (God forbid!) a wedding invitation as a mortal insult.

Then they claim it’s because they’re ‘introverts’ when it has nothing to do with introversion. They’re just misanthropes.

I’m with you OP. I’m not keen on people either

I wonder if this is a normal life stage, and if it passes, and if so, how that feeds into the issue of loneliness among elderly people.

Like — maybe middle-aged people are in danger of getting a bit fed up with other humans and taking a step back from interaction in midlife, while they are still healthy, and it feels like a relief at the time but then leads to unexpected painful isolation later on.

No, I find most people are nice and pleasant to talk to.

I find when I am having a bad time myself, I am more likely to be upset or intolerant of other people. But I guess that's my alerted sense of threat causing me to be overly focussed on 'threatening' behaviour.

Yep, MN is stuffed full of antisocial grumpy bastards. It must be miserable but thankfully I never meet them because they're all sitting at home ignoring the doorbell and refusing their neighbours ' parcels 😂

But they obviously crave social contact and connection or they would not be on MN in the first place.

That’s a good point, actually. People often get sneery when other people say ‘Only on Mn!’ and point out that Mn is made up of actual people , but if the majority are as misanthropic as they portray themselves as being, it’s hardly surprising I never meet in RL people who regard friendships as ‘too much drama’, shudder at wedding invitations, are just ‘happy with my own little family’ and get into their pyjamas as soon as they get in from work, to signal that the part of the day that involves the dreaded human contact is officially over.

No, I mainly think well of other people, but I find most forms of social interaction absolutely draining and so avoid wherever I can. By absolutely draining I mean come home and have to go to bed. It also means I am often rather lonely as all my social 'energy' gets expended in basic polite day to day interactions or work and nothing is left over for people I care about

Spot on.

I like people, but only at a distance. Of about 10 miles.

People like that are only interested in social connection that doesn't involve any effort on their part.

My theory is that most people are at least ok when you get to know them, many are lovely and some are fantastic, but you have to get to that point to overlook all the initially annoying stuff and the problem is you never do with most people.

They remain an undifferentiated mass of annoying habits like talking too much/too loudly, having objectionable taste, standing too close to you, eating smelly food on the train, not listening and on and on. All things forgivable in a friend with wonderful qualities and things I’m increasingly intolerant of in strangers I encounter shopping, on holiday, on public transport, etc.

I genuinely fantasise about living on a private island.