Does anyone else just generally dislike other people?

[Inthebleakmidwinter764]

I do. They're either loud or annoying or they ask too many questions or they're rude or demanding or they don't have a concept of personal space. I could go on 🤣

Well said.

@Random30 I'm an introvert, who deliberately limits my interaction with some folk - I'm not stewing in my own bile though, I'm happily spending my time with a small circle, doing things I enjoy when I can, and feeling like I'm living in a way that makes me feel more alive. Others might need a much bigger circle than me, and that's perfectly fine too. We're all different.

Yes I dont like other people. I go shopping really early so I dont have to put up with them. I think its because a lot of people havnt any patience and full of thier own self- importance. I just like my DH and my Brothers and Sisters(big family and never really needed anyone else).

It makes sense that people that don't like actually being around other people spend more time online.

If you don’t like people why would you seek out their company on a chat website such as this?

I think OP is seeking opinions, not to extend her friend group in real life?

I think some might spend more time online, but I'm not sure it's true of all. I have a limited circle online. MN is slightly different because it's a bit more superficial (hiding behind user names etc) and is easy to dip in and out of.

Thank you

I do have my person (and our amazing DD) 17 years together and I seem to still look forward to spending time with him. I'm not sure how healthy it is so will be going on holiday to see a friend who is very similar to me soon. I just need to find someone closer and so I'm not always spending time with him as, like I say, is it healthy?!

I never been a people person, even as a very young child I would apparently avoid others. As I've got older, my tolerance for being around others has lessened greatly! Crowded places, and tasks like going shopping are my idea of hell. Chatty people are included in that! I have work colleagues that just talk at you, it's very draining. I need to shut down and reboot daily do de people

I recognise a lot of the annoyances the misanthropes on this thread feel. Often get irritated by things like slow walkers, families walking side-by-side taking up entire paths, people who don't realise they have to pay until they're at the till etc etc. Also get irritated by stupid received wisdom, social expectations etc.

However I'm not particularly proud of that trait in myself and I certainly don't lean all the way into it like a lot of posters on this thread. General dislike of other people seems like a very trying way to go through life and itself quite a stupid thing to say. If absolutely everyone got on my nerves I hope I'd have the self-awareness to realise that I might be the problem.

Crucially I also love enough people - not just my own family - and I observe enough acts of decency as well as acts of stupidity from strangers that I can give my head a wobble, in the MN parlance, whenever I'm feeling overly misanthropic.

Sorry, I meant 'person' as in a good friend (or 'people' as in friend group) - I realise, looking back, that it probably reads like your 'life partner' type 'person' though.
Sorry for the confusion.
(I'm glad you've found that partner type person too though)

I meant your reasoning as why you think you are more adjusted, but never mind.

I find it really strange that people complaining about the self importance of EV ERYONE else don't realise they might be self- important too, and equally disliked.

But as OP says, she doesn't care if anyone likes her. In that case, why should anyone care if she dislikes everyone? Everybody gets annoyed by other people at times. But only on MN do people make it their entire personality.

I'm introvert but like most people I meet. Being an introvert means liking alone time a lot but I don't think it has anything to do with disliking other humans.

I think it might be that they are people who have high social anxiety, who are constantly imagining what other people may be thinking about them, and usually imagining that is negative.

MN with its endless ability to name change. And hence constantly start over afresh, with all past social interactions wiped away, suits them.

They’d be better off seeking assistance with their thinking patterns though.

Not what I said but ok

I also wonder how anyone is expected to tell if people want to be spoken to or not. Because there are also the endless posters complaining that no one talks to then at the school gate, and all the other mums are in a " click".

I'm not looking for people's company on here. People on the Internet wouldn't keep me company. I was looking for people's opinions

I think it’s because some people intone it in the way OP has, of ‘generally disliking other people’.

i.e. framing it as other people are dislikable, rather than your own preference to be alone.

If someone is told there are of a group of ‘dislikeable’ people, it will tend to get their back up.

Me too. I like people generally (especially my friends), but as an introvert I need space to recharge.

Plenty of bitter and broken people in this thread who gravitate to an anonymous forum where you can pretend to be anyone you choose.

Ahh so this is your first post/interaction on here, you don’t usually comment on threads? Then I apologise 😙

Yes, this. Me too. It’s a ‘me’ issue, not a ‘them’ issue.

Yes!
Especially makes me cringe inside when I see people being fake. Then when they are away from that person they'll happily gossip about them. Notice a lot with other female colleagues that claim they are 'friends'.

Quite a few people on MN seem to not like people. Don't answer the phone or the door. Quite a few people on Mumsnet also complain about having no friends and being lonely...

OK, so explain more what you (think you) were saying?