Does anyone else just generally dislike other people?

[Inthebleakmidwinter764]

I do. They're either loud or annoying or they ask too many questions or they're rude or demanding or they don't have a concept of personal space. I could go on 🤣

I'd love to live on a desert island

The thing is, you are the kind of person people are talking about when they say they don’t like people.

I prefer my own company tbh.
People can be very draining.
I do make the effort with people who I find genuine/real/ not overly dramatic for no reason.

9 times out of 10 when people say things like this, it’s very much the other way round…

What a silly comment.
You have no idea whether someone is an introvert or not.

They’re right, I reckon.

I feel like they're far from correct, but then you already knew that when you replied to my comment. People telling introverts they're not introverts because they don't fit a person's (often wrong) ideas of what an introvert should be like are very common.
Of course introverts can have other issues going on, just as anyone can.

So agree.

Misanthrope - Hates humans on a societal level and avoids taking part.

Antisocial - someone who breaks societal rules and gets into legal troubles.

Introvert - someone who gets energised by being alone.
Extrovert - someone who gets energised by being with people.

Now.

A condition or disorder that not.many people know, some do, is known as 'Schizoid Personality Disorder'

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What Is Schizoid Personality Disorder?
A lack of interest in people and relationships is the central feature of schizoid personality disorder. If you have this disorder, others may see you as aloof, distant, and unemotional. You probably prefer to spend time alone.

How common is schizoid personality disorder?

Different studies find different numbers, with some researchers reporting that fewer than 1 in 100 people have this disorder and others finding it in nearly 5 out of 100 people. Pinpointing the numbers can be hard because so few people with the disorder seek treatment.

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I have SPD. 😁

‘Misanthrope: a person who dislikes humankind and avoids human society.’

Can you remind me of the thread title please?

But then there are also the many posts by people who want to return to the 50s with a greater sense of community or are craving a village to help them rear their DC. I guess they aren't the same people who dislike all people.

See my post above. Fully accept lots or most people won't like me, not bothered in the slightest!

Hell is other people.

People never fail to disappoint me.

Yes, this is worth bearing in mind, even though my instinct is to agree with the OP! This is a good perspective which helps me when I feel overwhelmed by other people ( as I often do).

You seem confused.
At no point did I say misanthropes don't exist, I simply disagreed that it's not logical to imply that most introverts are actually just misanthropes, as a PP suggested.

I want to like people, I do like some people (and go out of my way to be supportive and kind), but I also find them draining. I definitely prefer my own company over the company of some folk, and I need alone time to recharge.

I'm introverted.
I'm not a misanthrope.

Nooooo I LOVE people! As an extrovert I get all my energy from being around others. I could be with people all day long 24/7 non stop chatting 🤣

Noooo they’re not, they’re much better, and cleverer as well. Deep and introverted, so they don’t waste time on the basic people they are unfairly surrounded by.

You seem confused. The poster wasn’t talking about people who like others but find socialising draining. They were talking about people who seem allergic to social interaction almost entirely.

Why does it bother you, though? You don’t like ‘people like that’ so it’s not like you’d be wanting to socialise with them anyway.

It’s really weird to take someone else’s social preferences so personally when they’re not your friends.

There are plenty of individual people that I like, but in general, I don’t want to be around people I have no interest in, or people who want to socialise for the sake of being sociable rather than because they specifically want to meet up with me. My sister is the most sociable person ever and has millions of not especially close friends with whom she doesn’t have much in common with. She just likes to have people around her, even if they’re people she only gets on with on a surface level - which is fine! That’s the way she is. Whereas I would find that really hard work, and hard work is not my idea of a fun way to spend my leisure time. So I would rather socialise only with people I’m very close to, or not at all. If I didn’t have a face to face conversation with another person for a month, I wouldn’t be lonely. That doesn’t mean I don’t have individuals in my life that I love to bits and enjoy seeing.

I can absolutely understand that some people are super sociable and don’t like being alone very much, even though that’s not me. And yet every time there’s a thread on the subject of socialising, there are always a few sociable people who are angry, judgemental and uncomprehending of the harmless fact that not everyone is the same. I just don’t understand why you’d take it so personally.

I live in quite a small community.
There are definite pluses and minuses!

Why are you here then? This is in itself social interaction....with people

Why are you being so horrible?

I sometimes wished I was an extrovert, because they always seemed so enthusiastic!
Once I got to understand a bit more about introversion/extroversion I realised that I am enthusiastic too - I just express it differently!
The main thing is that we are our real selves, and both introverts and extroverts can be genuinely lovely people.

I am unsociable, not antisocial. Sometimes my world is too peopley and I don't like it. But most people are nice. So no I dont generally dislike other people... even though I do not necessarily want to spend a lot of time with someone, or even a little time with a lot of others...