Does anyone else just generally dislike other people?

[Inthebleakmidwinter764]

I do. They're either loud or annoying or they ask too many questions or they're rude or demanding or they don't have a concept of personal space. I could go on 🤣

Again, as you are the confused one, I was referring to a specific post (the one I quoted) - read back and you'll see.

OMG the sniffing. What is the matter with people??

I notice that when I'm feeling very insecure about myself, I like other people less. A bit like how bullies usually deal with their insecurities by picking on others, but on a lesser scale. So when I do notice that I have a general disdain for everyone, I try to examine myself first.

I agree somewhat. I like a lot of people & these people are the only ones I invest in.
I love my friends & I tend to be drawn to older people more too.

I don’t like a lot of ‘modern people’ generally, I find a lot of people vacuous, entitled & fake with uniqueness now in short supply.

I like who I like but I would rather be alone than with most others.

I love people but I'm struggling to find my people at the minute.

The people I've recently been seeing have been really self centred and bragging about themselves or clearly lying about a situation for no real reason. I don't know whether I am less tolerant or see things more clearly now but I mostly only deal in small doses.

I found it depends where I am/live/holidaying. Used to live in Surrey - fucking HATED it, rude people everywhere, always in a rush. Now I live in a relaxed coastal town, everyone is so lovely. My own home country is general really good too, as long as you follow the social rules.

I like some people. And these are people I have kept in my life for decades. Our relationship is reciprocal. They know how friendship and conversation works.

I find that many people who want to be my ‘friend’ are simply looking for an audience. They want someone to whom they can monologue and have no interest in me other than as a sounding board. I would rather be alone than around these people.

I didn't say it "bothered" me, or that I'm "angry".

I was making an observation.

@NewYearNewPyjamas I feel like I become more selective as I get older - I'd much rather have a small but honest and trustworthy circle than a big one. I hope you find your people (or even person).

There are people I love and never want to be without
People I adore
People I like very much
People who are nice and make the world better
People who are meh
People I tolerate
People I actively avoid.

A few people that qualify for more than one of the above depending on the day

Unfair.

Totally! Neither is right or wrong or better or worse! ❤️

Completely agree with this.

Me too. I want to be an extrovert in my next life.

I'm told you can't change from an introvert to an extravert or vice versa but I'm sure I have. I was definitely an extravert when I was younger. I loved being around gregarious, vivacious people, I was probably quite loud and annoying.

20 odd years later and, although I like the idea of this in theory, I just can't do it anymore. Various events beyond my control (and some within my control with unanticipated consequences) mean I'm quite solitary these days beyond very immediate family. I'm not sure it's my ideal but it's all I know how to do these days.

I went to a new years eve party this year. Lots of acquaintances, no real friends. It was bloody exhausting.

Reading this post has exhausted me...no offence @Jennyjojo5 ...so yes, I very much dislike most people too.

You genuinely sound delightful OP 😘

I'm not being sarcastic.

I'm not🤓

Your sarcasm meter is broken, mate.

I intentionally get my nails done at nail bars where I know the staff speak very little English so they won’t attempt to talk to me.

I got the sarcasm, mate, and I didn’t think it was very nice!

I love other people. I would describe talking to strangers as one of my hobbies. But I don't think I'm overpowering, looking for an audience or superficial.

I am lucky. Most people I meet are lovely and kind.

People are just too peopley

I often find places far too 'people-y'. I know I'm introverted; the very idea of having to chat to people in a social setting (especially a noisy one, like a pub) makes me want to just shut down. I can always feel the moment when I've had enough.

I dislike walking into the staffroom at work because I work with lots of extroverts and the wall of loudness in there saps my energy.

I am cynical and am distrusting of many, many people. I try not to give too much of myself away but, can get panicky in conversations and give TOO much away!

If addressed directly in conversation, I tend to get flustered and go bright red. Which adds to my dread of social situations.

I know lots of people can't be bothered with me and I'm forgettable. I don't know how to change that. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I try to be a nice, friendly person but, flipping heck, it's exhausting!

It's absolutely fine as long as you recognise when to back off and/or let the other person speak/change topic.
Random folk can be very interesting but we cannot force folk to interact (not suggesting you do that, especially not intentionally).