Does anyone else just generally dislike other people?

[Inthebleakmidwinter764]

I do. They're either loud or annoying or they ask too many questions or they're rude or demanding or they don't have a concept of personal space. I could go on 🤣

indeed. and they would probably enjoy it.

having said that, one day long ago when I was feeling very brave, I petted a massive owl called numpy. it was the most luxuriant experience I ever had. would reccommend a trip to an owl sanctuary if you like birds.

Oneupmanship*

Apart from grocery shopping, this is why I shop in the next big town 30 miles from mine . I don't want to bump into people and make small talk . As I've got older my circle has shrunk more and more . My Nan was right when she used to say 75% of people are not worth bothering with . I now understand whether she meant .

I relate to this and think i also may be ND. up until the last few years I've been extremely naive and struggled to see people's genuine intentions which has left me wide open to being using and abused. As my dad always used to tell me " you're too trusting". It was an alien concept that people didn't mean what they said or someone who called themselves a friend, didn't have my best interests at heart. I value loyalty and kindness above all else and I thought all my friends were the same - that we celebrated each others successes as if they were out own and would never betray a confidence or stab each other in the back. Unfortunately I've been let down and betrayed by So called best friends that I don't think I'll ever trust again. Any way sorry for wittering on and good luck with your diagnosis!

Yep!

I am happy to fully engage with a select few whom I've known for years BUT I'm quiet and am very much a "watcher" in social situations. I don't like attention. I can go to a party and have fun but then I'm all funned out for weeks. I am shy too. So I'm an odd sort of shy introvert?

Most people are awful yet I choose to work with the public 😂.

Noisy and extrovert people scare the sh** out of me.If a place is too noisy I go home.

Day to day I like spending time on my own.

This is totally illogical. There’s no correlation between sociableness and lack of civic-mindedness or general lack of consideration of others.

Absolutely illogical.

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Love Long And Prosper ..
I can't do the Vulcan hand thing 🖖
I can do other hand signs though. 😁

It’s not totally illogical. One solitary person is less trouble than a rowdy group.

There’s nothing particularly Vulcan-like about pointing out the lack of correlation between being a disruptive parker or a sweary playground parent or a heedless user of towpaths and being ‘asocial’.

You’re presumably far less likely to get into a group conversation in a supermarket aisle because you don’t do conversations, sure, but I assume it’s theoretically possible that your misanthropic ways lead to other forms of inconvenience for other shoppers as you lurk, like a ninja with a trolley, behind the special offer display, while trying to avoid the neighbours you’ve just spotted in frozen foods so you don’t have to say hello.

Only like people in small doses. Once it gets past a couple of hours, I’ve had enough of people and that includes partner and kids.

@KissTheRains has nowhere mentioned ‘rowdy groups’. She lists parking disruptively outside a school, swearing at other parents in playground or soft play, having a group conversation in a supermarket, walking several abreast on a towpath.

I mean you don't actaully dislike people do you? Those people keep your comfortable western life running - do you dislike them?

You are just lazy and what you actually dislike is the complex social dance required to make co operative human groups exist and thrive. We need each other so we work out codes and ways of being to co exist in coperative societies. That isn't fake it is survival.

Lucky for you the modern world has outsourced that daily need - you don't be to be polite and establish a relationship so Sainsbury's will let you know when some good groceries are available to buy, you don't need to make sure the local policeman cares enough about you to protect you if the village is invaded.

However humans do need humans, just because you don't see or speak to those humans who make your society function doesn't mean you should dismiss them so airly.

I can swear at people just as well on my own, as when I am with others.🙄I can also park badly when I am being asocial.

Quite. You don’t even have to be a rowdy group to get in the way.
It’s not illogical to think that people who avoid human interaction will take trouble to avoid provoking people and enduring the hostile interaction that follows.

I was only poking a little fun, don't be so serious, it's the internet and it's Wednesday.
Go out into the world and meet your people.
They're waiting in the Tin aisle of Asda, sling your range rover in two parking spots, it'll be fine. 😁🖖

It reads to me that you just don’t like rude people which there are many of.

I treat others as I wish to be treated- I find that almost always it is reciprocated, and it certainly makes my life more pleasant (Thank you Vasilli at Sixt for giving me the hire car from the terminal so I didn’t have to wait for the hire car bus!). Perhaps you also experience reciprocation in your interactions and haven’t yet made the link as to why people treat you in a way you find arseholish.

That in itself isn’t always good or should be reciprocated.

The way one wants to be treated could be entirely different to how someone else wants to be treated in a similar circumstance.

You are an evil woman, @KissTheRains.😀 I make a not-very good Vulcan salute at you.

(The only reason I’m still on here is because I live on top of a steep hill and need to walk down it, cross a bridge and walk up another hill to get to work, and the footpaths are like an ice rink still…)

Wouldn't the ice actually help?
Pop on some smooth sole shoes and you'll be at work in 5 seconds flat... Whoosh...
Torvill and Dean style. 🤣

Yes

Same, I can't stand most people, most of them are the cause of my life issues, met few genuine ppl but most are arseholes . I only ever get on with sincerely genuine people , who are socially aware, understanding, kind and non judgmental , soft and gentle. They are rare!

Wonder what they think of you?

Do you ever wonder?

Sorry, haven't read the full thread...But be careful what you wish for. My mum died just before Christmas (We lived next door to each other.) and I am agoraphobic. Sometimes I don't get to see or talk to people for days now.
I'm definitely not one for crowds or socialising, but I didn't realise it would be this hard.

🙌🏻 Exactly.

In fact I read your comment and wondered for a second if I'd forgotten that I'd commented already!