Does anyone else just generally dislike other people?

[Inthebleakmidwinter764]

I do. They're either loud or annoying or they ask too many questions or they're rude or demanding or they don't have a concept of personal space. I could go on 🤣

MN makes me feel so well-adjusted sometimes. I used to think I was a bit misanthropic and a bit socially awkward but I'm charm and confidence personified compared to threads like this.

@LyndaSnellsSniff I mean this in a kind way, but is it possible you have a little bit of social anxiety too?

I am Miss Congeniality.

Interested to hear your reasoning?

Oh absolutely! And getting worse as I get older and more menopausal.

Sorry, that was a reply to @Perhapsanorhertimewouldbebetter

Life is so much better if you make the effort to be nice.

You missed out asocial which defines me pretty well.

Solitary activities suit me best and I am far happier being left along to quietly do my own thing in my own time. Everyone else can get on with what they want to do but please don't try and draw me in.

I can't stand people. They're mostly OK on a personal level but in crowds or just being around when I'm out and about they make me want to live on an island of literally a few people.

Why does this make life better?

Whereas I quite enjoy people, my friends are very important to me and am always open to new ones, but I spent almost a year living very happily on an otherwise uninhabited island.

Exactly. It's not that simple, saying 'be nice' is like telling people to 'smile'. Just let people be who they feel comfortable being.

No I love other people.

Find this trend of 'being an introvert' tiresome - being with people/meeting people cheers me up and lockdown proved it.

Indeed! So many misanthropes

Me. I have maybe 5 people I actively like and 10 further I can tolerate.

Oddly enough at work I am always told how great I am with people.

It. Is. An. Act.

I fucking loathe humans, pretty much all of them, especially men. But I smile, and I do the things.

And I go home, and I stay the fuck away from most of them as much as possible.

Every now and again I worry I am a sociopath, but mostly I don't worry about that at all. I just roll with it.

@Inthebleakmidwinter764

It depends on if they are an Arsehole or if they are passive 🤔 🤷 aggressive

if they things that are not conducive to being sociable,

Agree the older i get my tolerance for detecting bullshit is much more higher and for tolerating it,

is so much more lower nowadays,

Just wish i had wised up a lot sooner,

I can socialise to a certain extant but need to have my own personal space as counter balance regularly

otherwise it starts to feel contrived a bit too overwhelming..

This is so true. So many people stewing in their own bile because people breathe.

It’s hilarious the way the number who have never considered the obvious common factor in why so so many of the interactions they have with others are poor quality.

If everything is shit- maybe it is actually you looking for fault and a reason to sneer.

Can you really not think it through?

I treat others as I wish to be treated- I find that almost always it is reciprocated, and it certainly makes my life more pleasant (Thank you Vasilli at Sixt for giving me the hire car from the terminal so I didn’t have to wait for the hire car bus!). Perhaps you also experience reciprocation in your interactions and haven’t yet made the link as to why people treat you in a way you find arseholish.

@Inthebleakmidwinter764 I find that being kind - even if I sometimes don't feel like it -makes me feel good in myself.
Can't remember who said it , or exact definition but the saying goes " true happiness is found in giving and expecting nothing in return "
On occasions when I have been off with someone - even if I think they deserve it 😂 - I feel crap.

Or both

I don't feel like this at all, but I think you're on good company on MN 😂

I have got less tolerant as I get older. In work, or other unavoidable situations, I just grin and bear it and do my best to get on with people. But, if I have a choice, I avoid social situations and anything which might involve the dreaded small talk...... utterly ghastly and pointless. Honestly, once I retire I might just become a recluse and never speak to anyone again 😂

I don't dislike people per se I just don't need the drama they bring at this juncture of my life

There is no 'trend of being an introvert' though, simply introverts embracing their personality traits/preferred way of living. Traditionally extroversion has often been seen as more 'normal' and introversion as odd, and most of us now realise that neither is right or wrong.
Introverts can be lovely or not so lovely people.
Extroverts can be lovely or not so lovely people.
Ambiverts can be lovely or not so lovely people.
What really IS tiresome is folk calling others tiresome became they don't understand something.

I don't have any issues with the way people treat me, I'm really happy for people to ignore or avoid me, that's my ideal situation. I don't feel the need to be fake nice to people or make pointless small talk so that they do the same in return, I just don't see the point at all. I don't ask about someone in the office's weekend because I don't care and I don't want them to ask me either because they don't care. It's just pointless meaningless interaction.