To find this a bit boastful?

[Sandstorm33]

I have a friend with an 18 month old daughter with her husband. They often post photos of her/them all as a family on social media, and I rarely seem to see this friend anymore but I know they have bought a new build home and her husband is in quite a senior position at work.
They posted a picture of their daughter yesterday and wrote a caption: "We are so blessed with our jobs to be in a position to provide you with absolutely everything you need and so much more!"
I just think it's a bit showy-off, yes it's not a big deal but it's kind of boasting that they earn well, and that it's only monetary things that matter/mean you can provide.

What about the married couple on my FB who wife wrote “thank you to my darling husband for my £500 Gucci handbag xxxx” 🤢🤮

£500? Sounds more like a Gucci wallet.

Bork, that’d be an unfollow from me!

You can see them in the comments on brand pages - “lucky me, look at my haul from my hubz this year!”

Bork, bork I say!!!

Piffle. People can (mostly) write what they want on their own SM. If OP doesn't want to see it, she has options.

But nobody needs to depend their time thinking "wow better not post x - some people have less money than me"

How to get your house robbed in one easy step.

Not something I would post, personally. But I'm also of the opinion that people should feel free to post what they like on their own SM feed. Just as others are free to scroll past updates they don't like.

YABU for even being bothered by what someone (who you rarely see) posted on their social media.
However I do agree it does sound braggy

Definitely parents who feel guilt at lack of time spent with the child and make up for it with things.

Totally tone deaf and braggy. Standby for the Christmas Eve pile of presents picture.....

They're unhappy.

Something about that post makes me feel sad. Maybe one of the parents didn't have much when they were growing up so they put greater emphasis on material items? 🤔

Absolutely.

They really must be completely self centred and oblivious to others who might not be as lucky.
Despite the public "acknowledgement" of their luck.
I'd hate friends to be like that.
Crass.

Very distasteful

Oh, no. How gauche. Cringing for them. In fairness, though, those types of posts, in my experience, usually come from people whose parents struggled to provide for them, and for them it signifies relief and pride that it's not the same for their children. Of course it could also signify that everything's on credit but they want to APPEAR like they can provide everything. Either way, folk who are financially comfortable and whose parents were financially comfortable don't tend to feel the need to signal this to everyone by posting eg piles of presents on Christmas and birthdays as if to say "look what I've done for my kids". Generally I find those sort of people usually more aware of their privileged position to NOT flaunt it in others' faces.

In all likelihood they probably didn’t think about it that deeply, and just posted about something they’re happy and proud about. Like most people who use social media. Why does it matter if it’s boastful? Don’t follow them if you dislike it. I know anything American is generally considered to be a very bad thing, but I personally do prefer the American attitude of celebrating the good in your life, over the po faced and Protestant alternative.

I’m not sure why they’re being ripped apart for their post. They may actually be happy, and good for them if they are. The wishful thinking that they’re secretly in debt and or miserable is hilarious though, and tbh I would rather be the couple in question than any of those gleefully ripping them, complete strangers, to shreds. As if that isn’t miserable.

In fairness, though, those types of posts, in my experience, usually come from people whose parents struggled to provide for them, and for them it signifies relief and pride that it's not the same for their children

not my experience at all, I grew up poor, now would be considered affluent, I would never post such a thing as anyone who grew up poor understands the many in that situation and never boast it to their friends, and neither would any one I know.

it’s people who don’t know poverty but aren’t wealthy either, the faux understanding of the col crisis for many.

Well, most people are decent and do care about others which is why 80% agree with me and not you.

A couple of mentions upthread of MLM crass SM posts. Apart from the 6 figure boss babe posts which are almost always a lie (99.6% of people involved in MLM lose money), the ones that get me are the stealth recruitment posts trying to guilt women (mainly).

“I love how I can be with my kids and not miss their important milestones”, “I love how I’ve got totally flexibility and a supportive team AND huge earning potential”.

They’re lying and being encouraged to do by shitty MLM companies. These MLM posts account for a lot of the shite on SM.

These MLM posts account for a lot of the shite on SM. Maybe they do on YOUR social media. But my feed has none of that crap in it.

Somewhat missing the point.

People can post whatever they want.

And everyone reading it will think less of them if it’s crass.

@CurlyhairedAssassin well lucky you. My personal feed doesn’t either but it’s very clear that SM is a major hunting ground for these scams and the line between influencer, would be influencer and scammer increasingly blurred with lots of people doing the kind of post the OP describes to promote something that almost always damages people. Is stating that a problem for you?

I wouldn’t have any problem with that.

I hope I’ll feel the same way with my children (currently pregnant with the first one) but I’m actually quite frugal so I doubt I’ll shower them with stuff (who knows though!).

I think those of us that grew up with very little, really aspire for their kids to have more. I’m not sure I’d be boasting about it on SM but I did post when I paid back my student loan and I’m sure some people took it as boasting. Even though the reason I managed to pay back my loan was that I got No maintenance loan/grant and had to work pretty much full time while studying.

I think what I’m trying to say in a very windy way is that there might be back stories behind many things. It’s hard but I try not to be judgemental

But nobody needs to depend their time thinking "wow better not post x - some people have less money than me"

interesting concept that. -- no one needs to spend their time thinking about how their actions might affect or impact other people, in particular people less fortunate than they are. Kind of the opposite of what I taught my children or my parents taught me. But clearly a very popular concept with a lot of people.

Yes, because people have to follow those on social media whose lives makes them feel bad.

And they don’t have the consider that someone else’s instagram doesn’t have to appeal to them, but they do get to demand to be pandered to: “WHY doesn’t your social media centre ME?”. Because that isn’t self absorbed at all.

If you don’t like it then don’t follow it.

It’s not “kind of boasting”. It is boasting, wrapped up in some faux humility. The classic humble brag.

Its revolting. They are revolting. I’d block them.