Husband brought heavy cold home a week before Christmas

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He’s now in bed, coughing, sneezing, grumbling because he hasn’t slept. And I’m now thinking great, this is just the beginning; next it’ll move onto the kids and then it’ll take me down just in time for Christmas. Same happened last year. He brought the flu home, spent the week in bed really poorly and then we were all fucked for Christmas.

I know I’m being unreasonable, because anyone can get ill, especially in winter. But what pisses me off is I think he’s picked it up from an evening football match which I advised him not to go to (as it would be freezing and he’d bring a heavy cold/flu) home. Ditto last year. Yes, he may have caught it elsewhere but it just seems every time he goes to night games near Christmas he brings a bug home, which he then shares generously with all of us. It’s selfish!!! But who cares anyway, as long as he gets to go
to his games that’s what matters. 😡😡😡

Also, I don’t have time to be ill. But I’m more worried about the kids now getting it - I really wanted us to have a nice virus-free Christmas this year after the hellish experience last year and now it looks like it’s on repeat. I am seriously pissed off. He wants tea, and sympathy and to be quite honest, I’m really stressed now - I’ve got
the kids to look after and I don’t need this

You don't get a virus from the cold. It is annoying though!

your children won’t remember dad having a cold

they will likely remember their mum being in a complete arse about it

You sound massively unpleasant in this post.

No one goes out with the intention of getting ill, and if your kids are nursery or school age then they are far more likely to be ill for Christmas than your husband going to a football match.

Although I really really sympathise, you know you're being completely unreasonable. He can't help catching a cold.

However since you and the kids don't want to get it is the perfect excuse to make him stay in bed, throw lemsip at him occasionally, and if you can sleep separately, do. No need to pamper him, he's an adult.

Oh fgs, trying to blame football and blaming him for going

You obviously have issues with him having a life!

You have less empathy than me and that's saying something 😮

i have to say - i agree

YABVU.

You can’t blame your husband for catching a cold! Outrageous. Your peculiar attitude is more likely to ruin Xmas than anything.

I've been sick for a week now. Bastarding thing doesn't let go. Got it in ASDA🤷 That was the only place I've been to in couple of days before it started

I’ve had a horrible cold for two weeks now. If my husband was angry at me for ‘bringing it home’ which implies I purposefully went out to collect it, I’d be really upset.

what do you expect him to do? Quarantine inside for the month leading up to Christmas?

viruses are everywhere: YABU to blame your H! My friend does this to her H and it’s wierd and embarrassing to witness!

You should start taking vit c and echinacea in Nov and get out in the fresh air.

My kids have had virus after bug after sore throat after cold. It’s end of term lurgy. They are run down and tired. Happens every year. Don’t think you can blame it on the footie OP.

You can't lock yourself away in case you get ill, bugs are everywhere. You just resent him going to the football for some reason.

I really don't think you only catch the cold at evening football matches.

No but you can easily succumb to a virus if you're chilled through and through. And he deliberately courted the exposure.

OP - separate bedrooms for a few days. No sneezing in shared rooms - if necessary he can mask up. And if you have a netipot or similar twice daily saline nasal rinses might be a good idea for you.

I would have thought being outside at a football match was one of the least likely places to catch a cold. Far more likely to come from a small child - we often pick things up from DS when he barely gets ill.

You don’t get a cold from being cold . In the fresh air you are less likely to catch anything . He could have caught it from anywhere, I doubt he did it on purpose .

Dh is in bed (in the spare room!) with man flu too. He hasn't been near a football match or any other public event.

I'm afraid that's life. Try to stay positive. It's just a cold so not sure why he's in bed to be honest. It's not guaranteed you'll all get it so I do think in the nicest way you're catastrophising this somewhat. What's done is done - in fairness you can't pinpoint where he picked it up from and it's not deliberate. Best for him not to wallow in it, get up and about.

I think you’re being unfair to expect him to not do something he enjoys just incase he brings a cold home. You don’t get a cold from being cold anyway, that’s a myth.

You have children so they’re much more likely to bring viruses home from school.

I do get that it’s frustrating this close to Christmas but unfortunately it’s just the time of year to catch all sorts. In the last five weeks we’ve all had Covid, my daughter had some horrible cough then just as she was getting rid of that cough she caught another virus and had tonsillitis. Now she has another cough which we’ve all caught. Hoping we’re all now nicely immune from any other viruses that are spreading around the school and will be all fresh and well for Christmas 😂 If not then it is what it is and just comes with having children/going anywhere at this time of year.

Whilst I definitely understand your frustration, it's not all your dh fault. Yes he could have avoided the game to try his best to keep well, but it's not always inevitable. I'm sure he feels miserable about being ill this time of year too.

You and dc might not catch it. I was seriously unwell a few weeks ago and ended up in hospital. No one else in my household was ill and it was a contagious illness.

he deliberately courted the exposure
Don’t be ridiculous 😆

Ffs.
I appreciate it's not a race to the bottom but turn the news on and maybe have a word with yourself?