Husband brought heavy cold home a week before Christmas

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He’s now in bed, coughing, sneezing, grumbling because he hasn’t slept. And I’m now thinking great, this is just the beginning; next it’ll move onto the kids and then it’ll take me down just in time for Christmas. Same happened last year. He brought the flu home, spent the week in bed really poorly and then we were all fucked for Christmas.

I know I’m being unreasonable, because anyone can get ill, especially in winter. But what pisses me off is I think he’s picked it up from an evening football match which I advised him not to go to (as it would be freezing and he’d bring a heavy cold/flu) home. Ditto last year. Yes, he may have caught it elsewhere but it just seems every time he goes to night games near Christmas he brings a bug home, which he then shares generously with all of us. It’s selfish!!! But who cares anyway, as long as he gets to go
to his games that’s what matters. 😡😡😡

Also, I don’t have time to be ill. But I’m more worried about the kids now getting it - I really wanted us to have a nice virus-free Christmas this year after the hellish experience last year and now it looks like it’s on repeat. I am seriously pissed off. He wants tea, and sympathy and to be quite honest, I’m really stressed now - I’ve got
the kids to look after and I don’t need this

Why not just put up the real post ie. I don't want my DH to go to football matches.

You know that being outside doesn’t give you a cold, right?

Far more likely it was one of the children.

I’m a teacher. About 10-20% of most classes are currently off with ‘flu like’ symptoms, about 50% are in school but coughing, sneezing or both. The remaining 30% have already had it or will be bringing it home soon. If your kids are in school, in confined conditions with lots of others frequently, you definitely can’t be cross with your husband for going to a footie match, where he will have sat outside where the germs could disperse.

Take him a lemsip, throw open the windows and embrace the joy of Christmas.

A cold is a virus.

Why are people so prissy about getting colds these days? They are an entirely normal phenomenon, especially in the winter (because people are indoors more - outdoor contagion is much less likely).

They aren't fun admittedly but they do help build up your immune system. I had loads of colds as a child/teen/young adult but very rarely now, even though I certainly don't hide myself away (work in an office, commute on trains/tubes, go to the gym, go to church, go to pubs and parties, have the kids friends to stay etc).

The cold, not a cold.

Two different things.

My adult ds has caught a cold. I feel
sorry for him. I’m hoping I don’t catch it obviously as I’m hosting for 12 people.
Unfortunately people do get ill and I think the mild, damp weather is better bug breeding weather than cold weather.
Its just part of Winter.
Agree with pp about echinacea and fresh air.

Jesus wept. I caught Covid from going to work and having been feeling like shit this week.

If I was getting blamed for just attending a something because I brought a cold home I would be telling the person doing the blaming to piss right off.

He could have caught the cold anywhere. Do you expect the whole household to quarantine for weeks before Christmas every year?

I get it’s annoying when these thing happen. But they happen.

You’re beyond unreasonable.

I'm currently poorly. I didn't purposely catch something. I'm annoyed I feel this rough so close to Christmas.

If my family blamed me like you are, I'd be absolutely furious.

Methinks the real problem is the night football matches. I’ve some sympathy for the OP if this is the second year in a row he’s brought home a bug for Christmas. If the same thing happened after a night game last year, then possibly he should have considered his family a bit more and taken some precautions, but I agree with others here that you can’t stop living your life because you might catch a cold.

You didn’t read the sentence correctly.

Use some first defence, make everyone wash hands like mad, ask your husband to cough and sneeze into his elbow and try and keep him in a separate room if possible. Sometimes if you're irrationally pissed off, doing something practical can help

Your subject line makes it sound as if he went out shopping for it!
"Brought it home".

He probably had the cold virus brewing before he went to football.

He hasn't done this on purpose you know.

Like @caramac04 and @honeylulu said, I think people’s attitudes to colds has changed hugely. Whereas pre-covid, they would just be ‘part of winter’ and we’d all accept them and get on with things, covid (or responses to covid) conditioned us to avoid risk, stay apart, etc. We also trained our children that - even if they didn’t actually feel ill - they had to isolate. It’s had a huge impact on mindsets.

Air the rooms regularly, wash your hands like it's March 2020 and use anti-viral nasal spray like Lemsip First Action or Boots Dual Defence.

OP I am really neurotic about catching things
I take everything going, avoid things, disinfectant surfaces and scrub my hands. (Yes, pre Covid).

I think you are being astonishingly unreasonable and that's really saying something.

He probably didn't even catch it at football. And you saying "brought" and your general tone makes it sound like he brought it home in a gift bag, shouting "I've brought a lovely heavy cold to share".

I agree with pp , you don't catch a cold because you are cold.
I wish we could come up with another name for The Common Cold that would help people realise this.

It is miserable that uour DH has a cold but he won't of brought it home on purpose, its not like he went out shopping for it , he sls couldn't put it down and leave it at the front door like a empty milk bottle..

The one good thing from this post is I think mn history has been created, in just under 1 hr over 100 replies all defending the DH !

😂

This is hilarious. Are people this precious? Do you realize there is a war on in Gaza?

This is what I was thinking. And it’s a whole different conversation !!

Actually this is a myth about a myth. Its been proven that when it is cold, it can lower your body temperature and immunity making you more susceptible to bacteria and viruses.

You probably picked it up at the shops, are asymptomatic and now have given it to him.

Selfish

How the heck do 15% of people think OP is reasonable?

This is one of those rare posts where it’s actually the OP’s husband who needs to LTB