Husband brought heavy cold home a week before Christmas

[Tapasita]

He’s now in bed, coughing, sneezing, grumbling because he hasn’t slept. And I’m now thinking great, this is just the beginning; next it’ll move onto the kids and then it’ll take me down just in time for Christmas. Same happened last year. He brought the flu home, spent the week in bed really poorly and then we were all fucked for Christmas.

I know I’m being unreasonable, because anyone can get ill, especially in winter. But what pisses me off is I think he’s picked it up from an evening football match which I advised him not to go to (as it would be freezing and he’d bring a heavy cold/flu) home. Ditto last year. Yes, he may have caught it elsewhere but it just seems every time he goes to night games near Christmas he brings a bug home, which he then shares generously with all of us. It’s selfish!!! But who cares anyway, as long as he gets to go
to his games that’s what matters. 😡😡😡

Also, I don’t have time to be ill. But I’m more worried about the kids now getting it - I really wanted us to have a nice virus-free Christmas this year after the hellish experience last year and now it looks like it’s on repeat. I am seriously pissed off. He wants tea, and sympathy and to be quite honest, I’m really stressed now - I’ve got
the kids to look after and I don’t need this

Covid is doing the rounds at work at the moment (we have to test). I'm grateful not to have contracted it yet, but i have to work and be out and about. My dh is retired, he feels similarly aggrieved when i bring germs home but he's sensible, he knows I've not done it intentionally.

How on earth do you know where he picked it up from did you stick the cold in the naughty corner and question it?

Well I'm feeling really discombobulated. I actually feel sorry for a husband on here for once!!

If you're this stressed about colds are you taking vitamin c and d to help your immunity?

I've used first defence with a lot of success this year - it seems to have kept a couple of colds at bay.

Just avoid him and wash your hands loads. And if you can't manage sympathy at least don't have a go at the poor bloke!!

DH and I are ill every Christmas - we teach and without fail we fall ill the first day of the break. I am furious with every kid we teach for ruining our holiday each and every year!!!*

*obviously I’m not, just ridiculous to blame others for illness.

No, but when you are cold your immunity is lowered so you are more likely to get any viruses going around.

Imagine if a man posted that he was pissed off that his wife “brought in” a cold after he told her not to go out and now he was mad at her.

You have a very odd way of exerting control, OP.

I’m in bed with Covid. Caught from DH night out in London. Shit happens, just pleased we both appear to be recovering well and no long term effects. I like and love my DH, so clearly that helps me OP

YABU he could literally catch a cold/flu from anywhere, as could you. Schools and nurseries are germ factories at the best of times but it’s horrendous at this time of year.

Stock up on tissues, calpol, olbus oil, lemsip etc just incase and (try to) be nice to each other. My partner swears by Boots Dual Defence as well. Squirt it up your nostrils as soon as you feel even slightly sniffly. It does actually seem to work at least sometimes but I suppose it could be a placebo effect.

Get some first response for everyone and up vitamin intake

He obviously needs a new dressing gown of doom, Christmas edition 😆
You are being massively unreasonable here.

Take first defence to try and avoid catching it.

otherwise YABU you are less likely to catch something at an outdoor event. Colds are spread by virus not the weather. Everyone has bugs this time of year, it’s part and parcel of winter. You cannot blame someone for being unwell. Imagine if he did the same to you.

On my fourth cold since September. I don’t even watch football matches 🤷🏼‍♀️

Op title is funny..... 'heavy' cold.... heavy? A cold is a cold.

I have recently recovered from an awful heavy cold, I felt quite tearful for a week after as well. Being cold does not give you a cold. Fortunately no one else caught it which surprised me. DH had to travel in to London that same week on the train we fully expected him to bring home some sort of bug but he surprisingly didn’t it was me. The way our lives are means he is in contact with a much larger number of people than I am.

Try Vicks first defence. When the kids have got a cold I’ve used it and no cold or minimal symptoms. I might not have caught it anyway but I always have a bottle ready to go now!

I understand you not wanting everyone to be poorly for Christmas, it's miserable when it happens. However, yabu. People catch colds all the time, my OH has woken up today with a nasty cold, there's nothing he/I can do about it and I wouldn't expect him to stop his life in case he catches a bug from somewhere, it's unreasonable.

@Tapasita do you remember in Covid when we were only allowed to meet up outdoors? That’s because viral transmission is much less likely outdoors.

YABU

get some of the first response stuff you put up your nose to fight off the flu or a cold. dose up on vitamins.

You are being ridiculous. We are all ill and have been for weeks. No one is blaming anyone for the illness. My job puts me in contact with a shit ton of germs, my kids bring back coughs and colds from school, we’re all just getting on with it. Crack on and hopefully he’ll feel better soon.

Basically do you want to isolate for a month beforehand? If my husband told
me not to go to an evening football match in case I got a cold I’d tell him to bugger off!

A) That’s not how colds even work
B) The bloke’s ill. Where the fuck else do you expect him to go?
Have you got some kind of weird arrangement where you check into the Ritz every time the other one sneezes?

I’ve got very little empathy for my husband as his medical condition is chronic and life limiting and also, entirely self inflicted. But even I would have more sympathy than you.

Do you live in a fucking bubble then, where no germs ever come in or out? Maybe he got it from you or one of the kids.

I’m actually lost for words.

Also I think people are being a bit rude. We’ve been ill for the last 2 or 3 Christmasses so now I get anxious about not getting ill, my partner has a cold. Touch wood me and kids okay so far. Ds was really poorly last Christmas, the year before that we all had Covid and the year before that I had a tooth infection. I want a germ free Christmas too OP!

I actually totally get the irritation. I’m sure you’re being perfectly pleasant with DH just feeling stressed. If you all keep well out of his way you should avoid getting it. I do this wuth my DH - ie keep the children and myself away from him until he’s gone again. Obviously you can still be nice and look after him
a bit but don’t all hang out in the same room and don’t sleep in the same room. Also, you all need to take regular vitamin D

I hate it when my DH gets ill. I could have posted this, and I say that realising how completely irrational it is.

But today it’s my turn to be ill, I’m sick as a dog, temp 39, sweats, headache etc. My DH is taking over the day of birthday treats we had planned with our DD and her friends, and bringing the toddler along too, so I can completely rest all day.

Just hope I remember what a trooper he is for the next time the tables are turned.