Husband brought heavy cold home a week before Christmas

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He’s now in bed, coughing, sneezing, grumbling because he hasn’t slept. And I’m now thinking great, this is just the beginning; next it’ll move onto the kids and then it’ll take me down just in time for Christmas. Same happened last year. He brought the flu home, spent the week in bed really poorly and then we were all fucked for Christmas.

I know I’m being unreasonable, because anyone can get ill, especially in winter. But what pisses me off is I think he’s picked it up from an evening football match which I advised him not to go to (as it would be freezing and he’d bring a heavy cold/flu) home. Ditto last year. Yes, he may have caught it elsewhere but it just seems every time he goes to night games near Christmas he brings a bug home, which he then shares generously with all of us. It’s selfish!!! But who cares anyway, as long as he gets to go
to his games that’s what matters. 😡😡😡

Also, I don’t have time to be ill. But I’m more worried about the kids now getting it - I really wanted us to have a nice virus-free Christmas this year after the hellish experience last year and now it looks like it’s on repeat. I am seriously pissed off. He wants tea, and sympathy and to be quite honest, I’m really stressed now - I’ve got
the kids to look after and I don’t need this

It's not fun having a cold, but it doesn't exactly ruin Christmas does it. Any of you could have caught a cold from anywhere. You sound weirdly controlling.

This.
The kids will remember their Mum being absolutely ridiculous, not their Dad catching a cold.

Exactly

Aww OP, I'm sure you know YABU, but no one can blame you for being stressed about getting sick at Christmas. When my youngest was at uni, every time she came home for Christmas - every single time - she brought a horrible cold bug with her. We called her Typhoid Mary 😄. Hope the lurgy doesn't spoil your Christmas too much.

Oh stop. He's not your employee.

You sound horrible OP

I have managed to avoid all colds this year, including 3 that my DH and children in my house suffered from with dietary changes. I don't eat any sugar or UPF and massively up whole food sources of vit c. Kiwi's are great as 1 contains 160% of the rda. When there is a cold in the house I eat 2 a day which seems to help.

Sounds like you don’t like him going to football matches, and are using him getting a cold as a stick to beat him about it. I agree it’s not nice getting a cold, particularly at Xmas, but I really think it can be picked up anywhere at this time of year as so many have one.

He was outdoors. The least likely place to pick up a virus. Have you forgotten the Covid guidance already? There's a reason we were told only to meet outdoors.

And you don't get a cold from being cold. That belief was debunked long ago.

Seriously, stop being so irrational and blaming him for something out of his control

This!

Your thread title is hilarious. As if DH deliberately walked out in search of a cold, took it by the hand, and brought it home 😂

I'll attribute your craziness to Christmas stress.

Dd13 has had it and now so do I. It's everywhere!!

How dare he go out in fresh air and enjoy himself! Shocking behaviour.

There are just so many bugs around at the moment, unless you sit at home doing nothing and seeing nobody, you will pick something up sooner or later. Unless he's actually been rubbing his nose along the escalator handrail on the tube YABU to blame him for having a cold.

And I thought I was being OTT, taking my daughter out of nursery a bit early next week 🙃 YABVU OP.

My mother constantly blamed illness on us because “you don’t eat enough fruit” but if she caught something it was never her fault – it was because we’d given it to her. So deluded

What an absolute idiot you’re making yourself sound. Get a grip.

You know you’re being ridiculous and yet you chose to rant about it on AIBU of all places. I understand the desire to have a rant, but make it lighthearted and put it in Chat surely?

Also, are all your immune systems terrible? If not, there’s no need to catastrophise. It could be a mild cold and you might not all get it?

Calm down.

We should all be living in bubbles, literal and metaphorical never living life just incase we catch something and pass it on.

Maybe the OP and family could move to a deserted island and go totally off grid, never coming into contact with anyone ever again, that would work.

I thought I was an unsympathetic wife until I read this 😂

You don’t actually know that anyone else will catch his cold, let alone it ruin Christmas. Dose him up with paracetamol and take some yourself at first sign of any headaches etc - basically go with the attitude it’s Christmas, if I get a cold I will take cold and flu remedies and get on with it!

Race to the divorce court if I was the DH.

Your DH is just as likely to have caught this from travelling to work or colleagues at work, or indeed from picking up your children from school.

I hate to say this, but he should test for Covid. The current strain seems to be presenting as like a bad head cold for quite a lot of people.

LTB.

Or maybe just realise that shit happens and stop being so precious.

Don’t be stupid.
You can’t make everyone isolate two weeks before Xmas to avoid bugs. They’re everywhere. Your DH deserves more sympathy. It’s life.

You don’t get a cold from being cold.

Do you and the children never leave the house, OP? Maybe you could have “brought home” this cold.

At least he's in bed!

My DP is insisting on hogging the living room and coughing and spluttering in there with no attempt to catch his coughs and sneezes. He won't open a window to get a flow of fresh air into the room - I feel he's holding us hostage to his bugs!