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Would you find this offensive?

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Daisy995 · 12/12/2023 23:57

A guy I knew from school and from nights out recently messaged me on WhatsApp. Asking how I was doing etc. I’m 26 now and last time I saw him I was 21. We used to flirt quite a lot on nights out. His last message to me was ‘Can I ask you a silly question?’ I said ‘what question?’ And he’s put back ‘respectfully, are you still as attractive as you used to be when I last saw you?’ Aibu to think this is a rude question? I don’t get why someone would ask that?

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Waitingfordoggo · 12/12/2023 23:59

Well obviously he is trying to crack on to you (in a rather clumsy way!)

girljulian · 13/12/2023 00:00

Dickhead. Ignore or block!

kwarr24 · 13/12/2023 00:00

In all honesty I think he is probably asking for you to send him pictures or recent pictures, I wouldn't be surprised but yeah I would be a bit pissed off with that comment but I think he's trying to be cheeky/funny which he clearly isn't lol x

MarjorieDanvers · 13/12/2023 00:01

I don’t find it offensive but would reply ‘no’!

Precipice · 13/12/2023 00:01

Not offensive, just stupid.

Lifelessonstoremember · 13/12/2023 00:02

I think he was trying to compliment you and got it so wrong. I wouldn't give him a chance.

SweetFemaleAttitude · 13/12/2023 00:02

If he asks 'do you think I'd be able to carry you on my shoulders', then block 😂. Otherwise, I'd think he was saying he fancied you last time he seen you and that he is shit at flirting.

YouBelongWithMe · 13/12/2023 00:04

What shite patter!

LusaBatoosa · 13/12/2023 00:04

He thinks he’s flirting with you. 🤣

Original poster
Daisy995 · 13/12/2023 00:06

He said he’s just asking because he’s curious because I’m ‘older now’

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LusaBatoosa · 13/12/2023 00:07

Daisy995 · 13/12/2023 00:06

He said he’s just asking because he’s curious because I’m ‘older now’

Yeah, block this idiot.

Grimchmas · 13/12/2023 00:07

Sounds hideous to me, like some pornsick creep who loses interest in over 25 year old women because they're "MILF" age 🤮

allitdoesisrain · 13/12/2023 00:11

I wouldn't be offended but it would put me off. I'd probably just reply, "Why does it matter? Are you?" Or, "No, I'm horrible, you wouldn't recognise me now."

LuluBlakey1 · 13/12/2023 00:15

As you are now ancient at 26, I'd reply 'No, I have aged significantly of course and now have lots of wrinkles on my face and body, lizard like skin on my arms, my hair is almost white and I am quite stooped.'
Then block him.

LusaBatoosa · 13/12/2023 00:39

LuluBlakey1 · 13/12/2023 00:15

As you are now ancient at 26, I'd reply 'No, I have aged significantly of course and now have lots of wrinkles on my face and body, lizard like skin on my arms, my hair is almost white and I am quite stooped.'
Then block him.

I have no idea why ‘and I am quite stooped’ is making me laugh so much! 🤣

LongDarkTeatime · 13/12/2023 00:42

So it’s only worth communicating with you if you look like you did 5 years ago.
Bit of a waste having a personality and intelligence too isn’t it?
He’d probably be safer with a blowup doll, and repair kit.
Yes. Rude.

ImustLearn2Cook · 13/12/2023 00:47

I’d reply: ‘Wow, what happened to your social skills? I hope you don’t think that’s actually flirting, do you?’ Then block him.

ImustLearn2Cook · 13/12/2023 00:49

And yes, yanbu, it is rude. But, I wouldn’t waste my energy on being offended.

TomeTome · 13/12/2023 00:52

Just say no and ignore.

Mummyofthewildones · 13/12/2023 00:52

SweetFemaleAttitude · 13/12/2023 00:02

If he asks 'do you think I'd be able to carry you on my shoulders', then block 😂. Otherwise, I'd think he was saying he fancied you last time he seen you and that he is shit at flirting.

Love is Blind reference?! 🤣

EtiennePalmiere · 13/12/2023 00:53

Ugh. At least you know straightaway he's a pig and can block before you get involved. I wouldn't be offended no, but do think he's shallow and sexist.

JanglingJack · 13/12/2023 00:57

Did you not hear about my triplets? It's been 2 years, still exclusively breastfeeding all 3. Yep - still gorgeous!
Anyway why? Did you eat all the pies?

Blankspace4 · 13/12/2023 01:06

We all age at the same rate!

if you like him, continue the flirty banter. If you don’t. Don’t. Easy!

Avatartar · 13/12/2023 01:08

Reply - some of my wrinkles are deeper than your shallow mindset - then block

Diggerdriverless · 13/12/2023 01:09

"My beauty has increased as your intellect has shrunk"