DH is on holiday for the next three weeks

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... and neither of us knows what he is going to do with his time! It's "forced" time off, his employer has insisted he takes paid holiday. He has no hobbies, turns down any suggestion I make if it doesn't involve walking our dogs. We have no family or friends close by. He has no interest in anything other than work or sport on TV. I am dreading the next few weeks.

Book a couple of solo citybreaks to have some time off from overbearing partner?

Swedish Death Cleaning!

Why does he have to do anything? If he’s happy to sit and watch tv for three weeks, as long as he’s not neglecting his family life and home chores let him get on with it!

Unlimited cinema pass

I cannot imagine my dp having no idea what to do with his time. I would personally find that really unattractive.

what would my dp be doing? Going to the gym, playing his guitar, baking, batch / Christmas cooking, reading, noodling about on his phone, doing jobs for his kids, doing jobs round the house, possibly teaching himself a new coding language, coming into town to meet me for a coffee, fixing his car, converting our old videos into digital files, all the other stuff he doesn’t get chance to do.

What would I do?

Go to the gym, practice my new hobby, noodle about on phone, visit friends, go to museums / galleries, go out for lunch by myself, go away to visit my mom and sister, watch football in the pub, nap, read.

all very simple things that I’m surprised a grown man can’t come up with by himself. He’s a workaholic right?

But it sounds like you're trying to micromanage him. He's an adult man, surely what he does with this holiday is up to him?!

If it was my husband, I’d be taking time off too and go away on holiday!

people giving lists of jobs to do around the house, it’s jobs my husband keeps on top of, evenings and weekends, so nothing ever needs doing in my house, so our time off is spent going away

I have loads of things to fill 3 weeks with
I never have enough time
anyway - I agree with @Lobelia123 ^

Equally, I hope you find the psychic you're looking for.

Are you working or at home too?

If you are working I'd leave him to it or ask him to Hoover/ change bedding etc

If you are home I would go about your day as normal including him if you want to but I wouldn't be his entertainment manager

This thread is making me PMSL

My DH likes:
-Play dates with friends often with refreshments
-Going to music group where he likes to bash instruments and make a noise
-definitely some messy play aka DIY
-Lego and building things

Equally, I hope you find the psychic you're looking for.

Indeed!

Presumably they will send it back after the 3 weeks are up.

What a stupid suggestion!

Days out together?NT visiting a nearby town .Long walks with doggies ,some Xmas shopping .3 weeks is not long . Also Christmas in the middle of course .Please NO puppy! 3 weeks will be gone before you turn round!

Well as of tomorrow I will be on 3 weeks leave too. Also forced due work shutdown.

Please do not give him a whole list of things to do. He is most likely forced to take all his leave now, as he has not had other time off all year. And this is more than likely it for a whole of the next year.

I have no plans to do anything specific, a few visits and days out here and there, but there is no set plan. I will take it as it comes. Because I am bloody exhausted and even thinking up a plan of things to do is just too exhausting right now.

Let the man rest. Let him do what he wants during the day. Are you more annoyed that he has time off and you don't?

I agree. If I want to slob out and do nothing for a holiday that's my right.

I've heard it all now! When did it become your job to sort out what he can do with his time off? Has he no ideas of his own? If he's got no hobbies or interests, perhaps he could develop some during the weeks off? Make sure he's got the letter R on one shoe, the letter L on the other so he knows which foot to put them on, and he'll be fine. Honestly, this has to be a wind-up.

Best to split sooner rather than later? If 3 weeks fills you with dread, imagine when he's retired and is NEVER going back to work!

I couldn't live with someone who wasn't up for grabbing life by the horns on occasions, 3 weeks is plenty of time to rest, relax, watch some TV AND go and be adventurous/travel/see people who aren't nearby... You know, LIVE LIFE

Well, OP flounced off after ooh, about 20 minutes 😁 (I suspect she's miffed that we aren't mind-readers).
Anyway, as you were, I'm loving the thread.

What exactly is the issue above what appears to be his woeful lack of imagination? Are you wfh? Will he bother you? If so then you need to put some boundaries in place.

If he’s not seriously bothering you then just let him piss the time away watching BBC news etc, it’s not your job to entertain him. But I’d probably lose a bit of respect for him unless there were other things in play (mental health, illness etc).

But bloody hell, what I wouldn’t do for 3 weeks paid leave especially at this time of the year, top of my list would be a mini break to Scotland to see the ullapool lobster pot Christmas tree and walk on some beaches, Christmas shopping in Edinburgh or Glasgow, seeing some family in the north, deep declutter of the whole house and putting the garden to bed properly for once. And yes more than happy to do all of these things alone! Instead I’ve got wall to wall nativities and Christ-min whilst still trying to hold a job down!

Weird thread. I don't understand why OP felt it was her job to find activities for her DH

This. It's his time off, let him spend it how he wants. No snark. But I wouldn't want to be dictated to about how to spend my down time.

I suspect she doesn’t work, I don’t know what she does all day, but I think this is she is dreading them both being home, which is not going to bode well for retirement.