To be upset the man I'm dating has just told me he's moving?

[Celia24]

I knew him for 1.5 years as an online friend and we grew to like each other a lot. Once he realised I was single recently he pursued and asked me out straight away.

Our two dates have been wonderful. Hours fly by, I feel happy, safe, respected, interesting and attractive when we're together.

He's the best man I've met for years & the first that has ticked all my boxes as a partner. Already we've talked about both wanting marriage & kids and the type of home/place we'd like to live. I'm 32, he's 30.

Anyway - this morning he tells me he has to move to a city 3 hours away in England by May (we're in Scotland now). He is a professor and 'needs' to go where the contracts send him.

I'm so surprised by the news I just don't know what to say. It would be typical for me to meet the potentially right guy and he's moving! In theory my job is mostly remote and moveable but it's too soon to talk about that.

I was surprised people were so suspicious at the start of this thread OP. My XH was an academic - we started dating when he was doing a Masters and he then stayed on to do a PhD. For the whole time it was long distance. But it didn't end there as getting an academic role is not easy - it took him a few more years after that to get a readership in London where I lived. I was never the trailing partner as my career was important too and not portable to the Midlands where he was based in different unis.

@Bouledeneige I know. Cynical mumsnet! It all checks out 100%.

So wow, you were long distance for the whole marriage? How did that work for you?

I have to say that my career as an author is more important to me than my day job. That requires some travel but again, quite moveable. I've gone out of my way to make my day job portable but luckily I'm in a field that lends itself to mostly remote working

On the face of it, I don't like the idea of being separate from my partner for a long period. But I'd still rather take the wait and see approach with how it works for us personally.

He has done nothing wrong.

It's 2 dates. Him moving changes nothing.

I say see how it goes

Have you seen him again Celia24? I notice it’s a while since you first posted…

Nope @Calliopespa he's in his home country for Xmas until new year. So we've agreed to meet when he's back.

Meantime he's been consistently staying in touch. It's nice but I'm really looking forward to seeing him again!