Daughter's friend's mum love bombing my daughter and it feels so uncomfortable

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Has anyone else been in this situation? My older teenage daughter and the other girl have been friends for a few years. The mum of the friend has fostered a really close relationship with my daughter. She is overfamiliar with her, constantly hugs and compliments her almost like an older aunt or grandmother would do. She wants to have her over to stay all the time. It really makes me feel uncomfortable, especially because she doesn't seem to consider my feelings. She sort of railroads getting her own way.

I can relate to this with my daughters friend. She is such a lovely, kind girl. My daughter went through a horrific time in high school with nasty bullies. They did the same to my daughters friend. I was so worried at one point about the effect it was having on my child's mental health, she was doing GCSE'S. Anyway my daughter and her friend started talking after a seriously nasty bout of bullying and have been as close as sisters since. I wholeheartedly believe they saved each other and I'll always be grateful to her friend for the fact that mine is still here, healed and in a happy place. I've told both of them this. When the friend and her family go on holiday, I look after their house and pets for them. I think when your kids find a true friend in life, it's amazing, for our children, but also for peace of mind as a parent.

The only situation I've had similar is when some friends parents valued my spending time with them because for safety / companionship when parents had to work.
Maybe your daughter is giving valuable companionship. During challenging time.

Sounds totally weird tbh, if it makes you feel uncomfortable then there's something off about it. Sounds like she has problems with boundaries. I would just take some space from them so you and your daughter can have some time out.

We had this with my son, his friend and mum. She has encouraged my son to drink from the age of 14. She thinks I'm boring as I don't driwnk (medication). She's the fun, cool mum and I've done all the running my son around.

Very similar in that she didn't want her son to stay over with us but kept asking him to stay there. It all felt very peculiar.

Fortunately the problem went away when both boys went off to different unis and barely seen each other.

Hope it works out for you.