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To be sad our friends gave away our pram?

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GotMooMilk · 26/11/2023 10:01

We have 2 kids age 7 and nearly 4. When DC2 was around 2.5 our friends were having a baby and asked if they could borrow our pram. I was about to sell it on (it was a nice pram and would have got £3/400 second hand) but we said they could have it for their DC and we could sell it when they were done.

Roll on 2.5 years later they’re having DC2 and have got a new pram. We asked about our one and turns out they gave it away a year ago. For reference they are v wealthy so wouldn’t have needed the money but I’m upset that they wouldn’t offer it back to us first. It’s sentimental value but also we could have sold it! And now they’re having another they’re buying a new pram it just seems a waste.

I think my emotions are just high and I get when you give something away you have no rights to it but my understanding was we were lending rather than giving. What do you think?

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Newnamesameoldlurker · 26/11/2023 10:02

That is out of order! Really rude of them, I would be cross too.

Greenissle · 26/11/2023 10:03

If you made it clear that you wanted it back to sell on then in order for you to move on you need to highlight this to them in a nice way if you must.

I would reply and just say. That's unfortunate that you passed it on I do remember asking for it back when you were done etc etc

Malificent1 · 26/11/2023 10:03

And what did they say when you reminded them that you were going to sell it after they were finished with it?

Tell them to get back.

friendsfiend · 26/11/2023 10:04

If you definitely said lend and that you'd want it back they should have returned it.
If you said have or whatever else then whilst they should have offered it to you before giving it away.

Why hadn't you asked for it back though?

TooOldForThisNonsense · 26/11/2023 10:04

YANBU

cheeky feckers

so what did they say when you told them it wasn’t theirs to sell?

Shinyandnew1 · 26/11/2023 10:04

Malificent1 · 26/11/2023 10:03

And what did they say when you reminded them that you were going to sell it after they were finished with it?

Tell them to get back.

This.

Say things are tight and you were going to sell it to help with finances a bit. They are really CF!

Catifly · 26/11/2023 10:06

I appreciate they were in the wrong but think you're overestimating what you'd have got. You presumably bought it around 7.5 years ago and it's an old style that's now had wear and tear from 3 kids. Even very expensive prams after one child's use drop massively in value.

DappledThings · 26/11/2023 10:08

Are you sure you were clear you were lending it? That's quite an ambiguous situation. I've sold sold some stuff and I've given some to my brother. An open-ended loan is open to misinterpretation.

Also agree with PP you were unlikely to get much for it.

CityCommuter · 26/11/2023 10:09

@GotMooMilk that is so rude of them! If they are so wealthy why did they ask to borrow your pram? They were obviously planning to have another child too so they could have bought a pram for first child... Also are you sure they didn't sell your pram and not give it away?

User0000009 · 26/11/2023 10:10

Pair of cheeky fucks

JellyMops · 26/11/2023 10:12

My friend did something similar. I leant her a pushchair I was going to sell, saying I'd sell it after she was done with it and she wrecked it and threw it away. She said I wouldn't have wanted it back as it was disgusting and covered in rotting food. she never offered me anything for it.

I have several similar stories about that 'friend'. In the end SHE ghosted ME!

PossumintheHouse · 26/11/2023 10:13

They didn’t give away your pram, OP. They sold it.

Bin them. They knew you wanted it back, and were doing them a favour. It doesn’t even sound like they’ve apologised.

EvilElsa · 26/11/2023 10:14

That's really rude and I would have to say something.

TeenLifeMum · 26/11/2023 10:16

£300 for a pram used 3 times over 7 years? That’s unlikely. You handed it to them and they’ve done the same.

Simonjt · 26/11/2023 10:17

Its an almost eight year old pram that has been used by multiple children, surely you would have got £40-50 at the very most, and thata before you spend time getting it clean enough to sell.

ColleenDonaghy · 26/11/2023 10:22

They were in the wrong if you were clear you wanted it back, but at the same time I wouldn't blame them if they forgot that.

IME passing on baby stuff is about a) it getting used again rather than going to waste in the attic and b) getting it out of the bloody house. I've passed on loads of my baby stuff - it did my babies, and then someone else's and if they can pass it on to someone else who gets use out of it then that's great.

Agree you probably wouldn't have gotten much for it after 7 years and 3 DC.

StillWantingADog · 26/11/2023 10:23

we said they could have it for their DC and we could sell it when they were done.

if this was explicitly clear then they were hugely unreasonable and you need to call them out on it

Flickersy · 26/11/2023 10:25

I think it's probably just a misunderstanding of what was agreed two and a half years ago. I'd just leave it and move on.

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GotMooMilk · 26/11/2023 10:26

I appreciate it wouldn’t be worth a lot now but it’s more the principle!

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GotMooMilk · 26/11/2023 10:27

I know I’m being unreasonable to an extent. I didn’t say anything when they told me as I was just a bit shocked and the conversation moved on. They’re good friends so I don’t want to cause an issue it just upset me.

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theduchessofspork · 26/11/2023 10:28

Were you really clear you wanted it back? If you were then yes they should have given it back, but it’s not worth going back over it,

I’m not sure you’d get much for a pram that’s been through 3 kids though.

Olika · 26/11/2023 10:28

That's so rude if you clearly told them you are lending it. I would tell them off tbh.

theduchessofspork · 26/11/2023 10:28

StillWantingADog · 26/11/2023 10:23

we said they could have it for their DC and we could sell it when they were done.

if this was explicitly clear then they were hugely unreasonable and you need to call them out on it

What for though?

They gave it away so the chances are they misunderstood.

ColleenDonaghy · 26/11/2023 10:29

If they're good friends then they won't have wanted to piss you off, they've just misremembered what was said 2.5 years ago. And a good friendship certainly isn't worth jeopardising over this tiny monetary amount.

Ffsnotaconference · 26/11/2023 10:29

If they are very wealthy why didn’t you just sell it to them in the first place?

I think once you gave it away or gave it to them to borrow, it was never going to worth anything anyway, by the time you got it back.

While they should have give it back, them giving it away hasn’t really changed anything

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