Should I report my sister?

[howdoihowdoi]

Older sister, 10 years qualified as a social worker in mental health. Appears to be good at her job and has worked hard at it. However, takes cocaine and drinks herself into a stupor every single weekend. I find it disgustingly frustrating that she is managing to power through, but that's about it.

I know she does all she can but she has even admitted that going to a service users door on a Monday morning after being on in all weekend feels very contradictory.

Should I report her? Or suppprt her?

Support her.

You’d probably be very surprised at the amount of doctors, lawyers, police officers etc who are regular alcohol or substance users.

Why would you report your own sister?

What do you you to achieve by reporting her?

Is it possible effecting her job?

Definitely support her. Has she asked for help?

How will you find time with all your halo polishing?
What's the real reason you want to 'report her'? Am assuming you're also on these alcohol/drug fuelled binges given your level of knowledge about them?

I've read this before

Yes, same here.

OP, your sister is in a stressful job and lets her hair down at the weekends. Leave her alone.

Support her

Unless she's doing something that actively is endangering her clients then you don't need to report her. I would be sitting her down and saying that you're worried and want to support her and asking her how you can help her get things under control and help her manage her stress better.

It depends if you want a relationship with your sister in the future as you may not have one once she finds out. Like the other posters have said support her and help her.

This post has been done before.
Or deja vu

What she does outwith her work has nothing to do with her service users.

not something I’d want my sister doing eg drugs but that’s her choice and as long as it doesn’t affect her work then mind your own business.

Please don’t.

she’s you sister
she does an incredibly difficult and emotionally challenging job
she needs an outlet
could you help her find a more positive one?
please help her

apart from anything else if we held everyone doing such jobs to your standards there would be no help for vulnerable people

I'm not sure doing cocaine is merely 'letting her hair down', she is clearly endangering herself by doing so. I would be seriously concerned about her and would be trying to get her the help she needs not to turn to drink and drugs.

Not a big deal unless she is under the influence at work. Which she isn't.

Mind your own business.

Bloody hell, OP! 😦

Absolutely abhorrent to want to get your sister fired. Just wow…

This! Can’t leave out pilots, nurses, consultants. It’s V common!

Who exactly do you think you would “report” her to? If you think your sister has a drug/alcohol dependency problem and you need to intervene in some way that’s one thing, but if she’s okay then her job is none of your business.

It'd be sensible for her to get a different outlet for her stress, but do you really imagine that reporting her means she'll be instantly able to lay off the drink and drugs?

How unfortunate to have you as a sister

Jesus no wonder she does coke with a sister like you…

I worked for an MD who took all the drug samples and had a drink problem.
One evening while having guests over for dinner, he appeared at our door falling down drunk — I drove him home and my husband followed in his car.
An actual Medical Doctor who had heart patients and performed surgery on people.
This doctor makes your sister look like a Sunday school teacher.
Support your sister, @howdoihowdoi— don’t betray her.

Wow. Report your own sister. Whats your motive? She’s good at her job and works hard. You report her, she loses her job, held life is fucked. And what? You feel good about this? I feel sorry for her with a sister like you

Should I report her? Or suppprt her?

Neither, just leave her alone.

If my sister considered trying to get me fired from my job, I'd consider her a snake and would want nothing from her.