Should I report my sister?

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Older sister, 10 years qualified as a social worker in mental health. Appears to be good at her job and has worked hard at it. However, takes cocaine and drinks herself into a stupor every single weekend. I find it disgustingly frustrating that she is managing to power through, but that's about it.

I know she does all she can but she has even admitted that going to a service users door on a Monday morning after being on in all weekend feels very contradictory.

Should I report her? Or suppprt her?

Such a pathetic 'mean girls' argument.
Reminds me of when I told my ex he couldn't take the kids overnight when he was doing cocaine and he said "OMG why are you so obsessed with me?" 😂🙄

how can you guarantee anything? are you in charge of all social work departments?!

@volunteersruz

Anyone who reports misconduct in any workplace needs evidence to back it up, otherwise you don’t have a leg to stand on,

In any work place work colleagues can behave in a malicious way towards each other so without evidence who’s to say you are not just trying to cause trouble for someone….you actually seem like the kind of person who would do this

I must be very old fashioned then, if you work in health and social care you are there to advocate and care for your clients not to enable a staff members addiction. If you are knowingly covering up for a colleague who is showing signs of addiction ( and yes, taking drugs every weekend is a sign of addiction) you are not acting ethically yourself.

@volunteersruz

Again, it needs to be said to you that taking drugs at the weekend is not in itself a clear sign of addiction, many people in all kinds of professions ( yes, including health care ) do it and they come into work on Monday morning fully capable of carrying out their work.

Support her. Maybe suggest visiting AA or NA together or a SMART recovery group?

I don't see that as any better, it's worse in some ways when people do it just for a bit of 'fun' and partake in something that wreaks havoc in society and act like it's harmless even though they know it's not.

@Panaa

Maybe, but that is irrelevant to OP’s situation and is the reality of what is going on it the world and has been for years and will continue for years to come,
For centuries people have sought to take mind altering substances of some sort, stating that it’s a morally incorrect thing to do is pretty pointless as it won’t change anything

@BlueGrey1
No way of knowing if it's relevant to the OPs situation because perhaps part of the reason she wants to report her is because she thinks that someone who does that for fun shouldn't be working with groups of people where a certain % will be likely to have issues due to the same thing.

No point in trying to tell kids or teenagers to avoid drugs so seeing as it's inevitable because it's gone on forever 🙄 Maybe adults should try setting a better example and stop making out cocaine is so harmless if it's only at the weekends 🙄

It won't get rid of it completely but making it less socially acceptable would stop some people from doing it. That's less social problems, less ruined families etc. but sure why bother?

So if I drink socially at the weekends I can't be in a job that MIGHT involve directing alcoholics towards recovery services?

To take this argument further into the extreme - should there be overweight doctors? I mean, how can one advise if one is unwilling/incapable to put the cookie down?

@Panaa

it would be a silly thing to report and no reasonable employer in any industry would take action unless it was proved that it was negatively affecting their work.

Regarding your comment about preaching to kids and teenagers you are straying away from the point of the post, this happens far too often on mumsnet, people seem to completely loose focus

@BlueGrey1
It wouldn't be 'silly' at all. Talk about minimising

And no it's not in any way straying from the point, it's completely in line with the point of the post and trying to claim I'm straying from the point is a total reach 😂

Fuck it, if it's fine for parents and social workers to do drugs at the weekend and party and it's pretty harmless then why bother to stop kids from doing it seeing as it's inevitable because all the adults around them are doing it!

@Panaa

I don’t think you have a very ordered mind.

As the saying goes, never argue with a fool…….You are straying off point

@BlueGrey1
I'm not in any way straying off point. You're talking pure nonsense and you know it 😂

FFS OP why on earth would reporting her even come into your head?!!

@Panaa

Darling, go to bed and get some sleep, you’re talking rubbish

@BlueGrey1
You're clearly triggered. Must be some cognitive dissonance kicking in because you know that parents and social workers who do drugs are a terrible example to kids but yet you don't want to admit it!

@Panaa

Wrong yet again, as I said previously stop talking rubbish and get some sleep, you clearly need it

@BlueGrey1
And you clearly need to lay off the coke 😂

@Panaa

What in earth are you talking about you daft woman

An extremely close friend of mine is a very very senior barrister . Does a gram of coke every Friday, has done for over 25 years.
Has never affected work, doesn't drink that much, works like a madman for his clients through the week.

Support her - it's not as big a deal as you think unless it affects her work or health or not paying her bills.

@beachcitygirl

But it could be affecting her health and she doesn't yet know it, that's the thing.
The first major sign that it's affecting peoples health can be when they have a heart attack.
I know a father this happened to, he was in his late 30s and had a heart attack and died in front of his kids.

Cocaine is illegal?

Do you hate your sister and want her to lose her livelihood?

@Panaa

In that case you would support her which is what @beachcitygirl has already suggested

This post is about getting opinions on whether to support or report