Should I report my sister?

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Older sister, 10 years qualified as a social worker in mental health. Appears to be good at her job and has worked hard at it. However, takes cocaine and drinks herself into a stupor every single weekend. I find it disgustingly frustrating that she is managing to power through, but that's about it.

I know she does all she can but she has even admitted that going to a service users door on a Monday morning after being on in all weekend feels very contradictory.

Should I report her? Or suppprt her?

@BlueGrey1

Saying the answer is to support is simply your opinion though.

Have you ever tried to get someone who 'parties at the weekend' to stop by 'supporting' them? I've personally never seen that working. So it is far too simplistic to say the answer is to support.

None of that mans family and friends (that I know of) gave up the partying after he died. Fairly sure there was plenty of coke going around at the funeral.

It should absolutely be the first port of call, but likely isn't going to make a difference.

I would imagine that it's already been discussed and the OP has expressed her concerns if her sister has already admitted that going to a service users door on a Monday morning after being on in all weekend feels very contradictory.

@Panaa

No Panaa, it is most definitely not a simplistic response, Supporting someone can encompass a wide range or things.

And again this post is about getting opinions on whether to support or report

@BlueGrey1

And again this post is about getting opinions on whether to support or report

Yes and she's getting them so I'm not sure why you keep saying that?
Have you never been on an internet forum before? People tend to give their opinions on the issue by discussing their various thoughts on the issue.

@Panaa

Because first of all you seemed to be on the side of reporting her then you changed tack and now seem to be on the side of supporting her, either way you have not been clear.

Long winded replies are often not necessary if you make a clear and concise point.

Would you support or report her?

@BlueGrey1
My first posts were responding to the general tone of the thread which seemed to be "keep out of it and mind your own business, you're clearly jealous" 😂

I would offer support first of all but in my experience it is highly unlikely to make a difference and from what the OP said I assumed she has already expressed her concerns to her sister and wasn't just saying nothing to her and planning on picking up the phone to report her!

Sometimes it's the families of drug users who end up needing social workers and support with their mental health and having witnessed the absolute bullshit that kids and parents (with exes who are drug users) have to put up with then I want the right people working to support them, so yes I would report if the behaviour continued.

I don't need instructions or tips on how to use an internet forum, If I want to write a few paragraphs I'll do so, if I want to write just a sentence I'll do so.

I would be worried about my sister's health in that situation. I wouldn't, however, imagine that she couldn't do her job on Monday because she was pissed at the weekend. There's no reason her fitness to practise as a social worker would be impaired.

Lots of healthcare/social work professionals drink, use recreational drugs, smoke, vape and lead generally unhealthy lifestyles. It's not ideal, for their sakes, but it's also absolutely not your business.