Should I report my sister?

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Older sister, 10 years qualified as a social worker in mental health. Appears to be good at her job and has worked hard at it. However, takes cocaine and drinks herself into a stupor every single weekend. I find it disgustingly frustrating that she is managing to power through, but that's about it.

I know she does all she can but she has even admitted that going to a service users door on a Monday morning after being on in all weekend feels very contradictory.

Should I report her? Or suppprt her?

I may be a bit past it and out of touch, but since when was cocaine a recreational drug? Are we really supposed to believe, according to Mumsnet, that thousands of child, health and social care professionals are using it every weekend to no lasting ill effect? It makes Fred Shipman's pethidine habit look quite quaint by comparison.

Well it would explain a lot! As far as my experiences go with social services anyway.

It is a recreational drug. Many people do a line or two of cocaine socially and are fine. If it is a daily habit, it's dangerous but occasionally does no harm. I've never done it and wouldn't, don't need such things, but do know people who do.

No I wouldn't. She's functioning at work and that sort of work is very intense.

this screams of jealousy of your older sister and the fact she actually has a decent career.
try look at yourself closer and see what's wrong with you other than what's wrong with her.

how she chooses to spend her weekends are none of your business. if it s been affecting her work i'm pretty sure her management team will be on her back a whole lot more than you getting her fired ever would. and btw good luck proving it, and also good luck having an estranged sister rest of your life.

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Absolutely agree with you. Just stating that both are known to use cocaine. It’s not uncommon amongst white collar workers.

In the pilot’s case, I actually knew a guy who did this. He said it was no big deal… nearly everyone did it.. (I didn’t know enough about him to report him).

I would because of the drug use. But I would speak to her about it first, give her a chance, warn her that you may report.

Drug use is a big deal. Especially cocaine.

for all those who think its ok, how can you think that someone with a drug addiction that means they engage in criminal behaviour to procure that drug, not be in breach of their professional standards?

Exactly

occasionally does no harm

Except to the people caught up in the drugs industry, like those who are victims of human trafficking, modern slavery, and forced labour.

But sure "no harm". 🙄

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taking cocaine once a week is not a drug addiction, if the authorities were to prosecute everyone in the country who too cocaine once a week they would get nothing else done.

You lady are a shit stirrer

Crikey you're a piece of work to even think of reporting her. She's got sister. You can be good at your job and have challenges outside too. Like anyone can. But there are so few decent social workers out there and its an incredibly difficult process to qualify in the first place.

Many social workers have 'lived experience' which is what draws them to the profession in the first place. This also means there are points where it is easier to understand a client and their challenges as a result.

The one social worker with no lived experience that I know is a total cow, narcissistic, superior and loves a victim so she can feel like the boss. She is vile and upsets everyone. But I bet she's tucked up in her pj's at 9pm so that's OK then!

occasionally does no harm

Except to the people caught up in the drugs industry, like those who are victims of human trafficking, modern slavery, and forced labour.

But sure "no harm". 🙄

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Had a row or jealous probably

Report her? Dear God....

Not sure how the two are related tbh

You think every professional never behaves naughty? Cocaine use is something I've really mostly encountered amongst people with "professional" jobs - nobody else can afford it

I don't like it, and think the risks with it are selfish but it's also pretty normalised in certain groups of people. If it's a real problem then she needs a drugs counsellor and confidential appointments not reporting for a job she's currently managing to keep hold of and presumably has managers who oversee her

You think every professional never behaves naughty? Cocaine use is something I've really mostly encountered amongst people with "professional" jobs - nobody else can afford it

It's far from just 'professionals' using it. Naughty? Is that how you describe illegal drug use.

I think some people need educating

@improb 😅 yes I used the word naughty to convey a broad term meaning it's not merely those people assume would use drugs or drink ... happen to do so and have issues with it

Perhaps educate yourself :)

Perhaps educate yourself on the impact of the illegal drug industry.

Naughty is ridiculous word to use.

@improb what will educating myself who's well aware thanks do to prevent professionals in stressful jobs from using?

Drugs are bad mmmkay has been tried for decades ... people KNOW the effects, know the chain beyond and harm on others and yet there's still consumers

outwith?

Report her for what exactly?

I assume she is not drinking or taking drugs during the week and/or at work?

What she does at the weekend is her business.

If you really want to help her, mention that you are a bit worried about her behaviour and ask what you can do to support her.

Honestly? you just sound like you are trying to cause her harm instead...I would have a good look at your motivations...

Talk about massively missing the point.

I have neither a hard life or a drug habit. I still wouldn't report my own sister, to potentially lose her job, just because she's a bit of a dick at the weekend.