AIBU to not pick 4 year old DD from school?

[marshyrun]

DD2 is 4 and in reception. She’s had the usual on off cough / colds since starting in September and is just coming to the end of a bad cold, she went to school throughout with me just giving her calpol in the mornings.

She woke up today absolutely fine, had breakfast, in good spirits. Still a slight cough but had some calcough before leaving.

School have just called to say her teacher has said she’s not herself, they checked her temp (all fine), she doesn’t feel sick or anything, they’ve said she’s just being quiet and clingy and not enthusiastic about participating in some of the activities. They’ve asked me to come and collect her if she’s still being “clingy” after lunch.

AIBU to not pick her up unless she’s actually poorly? I’m the first one to drive to school if my child is poorly but this doesn’t seem to be the case today. She’s naturally shy and quiet anyway so her being reserved is not out of character at all!

She's 4 years old and feeling under the weather.

Go pick her up and let her have a sofa afternoon. It might do her the world of good.

Are you at home?

why gave you had her in school when she hadn't been well?

shes 4, she's not well, she's not feeling up to participating, what do you think she's getting out of being there?

Except possibly a high attendance certificate at the end of term???

They're asking you because they feel she shouldn't be there, so, yes, YABVU not collecting her.

And giving whatever she's got to everyone else @Pinkpinkpink15 . I'd pick up any age child of mine when school call.

Alternative thread from a different parent: should I complain to the headteacher that my 4 year old wasn't feeling well and they didn't call me to take her home from school? I'm furious!

You go and get them when the school call. Do you think they’re making it up?

If school ask you to then do it

I would pick a 4 year old up for those reasons. What do you think she is getting out of being there at the moment?

She's four ,it would pick her rather than staring a thread on here....

School must be concerned she is out of sorts enough to phone you. Pick her up and let her rest.

Besides, what are you going to say?

"No, sorry, I disagree with you and won't be coming to collect my child"?

Oh yes, YABU.

Your DD is so unwell school have phoned.

You need to go and get her.

She’s naturally shy and quiet anyway so her being reserved is not out of character at all!

But clearly this is more than just being shy and quiet, because the school have obviously noticed that something's wrong. They're not just sending her home for the fun of it. They've observed that she is behaving differently to how she usually behaves. They wouldn't have called you if she was being her usual self.

To be honest, if you've been sending her to school with a bad cold every day, and she's still coughing, she's probably absolutely drained and feeling knackered. You don't have to have a temperature to feel like shit, you know.

She's four years old and she's not well. Just pick her up.

I'd absolutely go and collect. Schools want high attendance, they don't call for no reason.

I wouldn't pick her up unless she's actually poorly.

I’m the first one to drive to school if my child is poorly

But you were fine for her to go to school throughout a bad cold, bad enough for her to need dosing up with Calpol every morning?

Yes you should go and get her. You know that.

How would you know she's not?

Viruses have a habit of appearing to be on the wane and then resurrecting themselves.

Are you in work op? I’m a private carer so there’s an absolute shit show every time I have to leave to pick up a poorly dc. You don’t sound like you care about your little girl much tbh. She shouldn’t have to be at deaths door to get a day off school.

I wouldn't even wait until after lunch if it were mine

What do they mean by clingy? Is she preventing the teacher / TA to effectively do their jobs as she won't leave them in which case you need to go and get her.

If you happen to get there just after lunch then she'll get her second mark if you are worried about attendance percentage is she's been off alot but really you should just go and get her. 4 is still tiny.

The school have rung you because she is poorly. They are just giving her some time to see if she perks up.
Schools really don't ring every parent whose child seems a bit quiet, for no reason.

I wouldn't pick her up unless she was unwell, being a bit clingy isn't being ill, and sets a bit of a percedent about how to get a duvet day. Having said that if school say pick her up you'll be hard pressed to say no!

I would pick her up. Especially if you’re at home anyway. School feel she needs to be collected as she’s not herself so I would collect.

She needs cuddles and 1:1

teacher xannot possibly give that

if she needs calpol she's not well enough for school, of course you should pick her up