To feel like this about ex's lottery win?

[SpeedbirdSquawker]

My ex has always been lucky with wins on the lottery. A few hundred here, a thousand there.

I have been blocked for a long time but a few days back he unblocked me, we've exchanged pleasantries and he told me he's won the lottery. We're talking a life changing amount here. He can give up work and live off this money with lots to spare for a very luxury lifestyle. I have asked why he unblocked me to get back in contact and he avoids the question entirely. The thing is, I feel utterly bitter about his win. The things I could only dream about with that amount!

AIBU to feel this way and how do I get over it?

I struggle to believe him, nobody wins big money on the lottery that often.

Block him again and move on x

Years ago someone I know won 6 million on the lottery. He took his mates on a fishing trip to Ireland and while he was there won 800k on the Irish lottery. Some people are just lucky that way. My brother is the same, money just seems to come to him, constantly winning big amounts one way or another

He must have a very sad life, if he needs to contact you to gloat about winning the money.
Admit it, if you won life changing money the last thing on your mind would be to having a texting slang match with an ex.
He knows your happier than he is.
Just write .... that's nice.....
In future and work for your own life dreams.

I agree.

Looks like he’s saying ‘See what you’re missing?’

May be true and he's gloating or he may be telling lies. Easy to find out. Doesnt it saybin website the area a person lives when they won...like the winner lives in xxx etc?
Either way block and move on ir keep him whatever he's on and post photos of yourself having a great time. He's a knob but I know how you'd feel. I often think if I split up with my H he'd prob win the euro millions

OP all that eating out and drinking your ex does, he'll probably get gout, be overweight, unhealthy, coupled with blowing the money on gambling or rubbish investments like so many do when the come into big money, so he's no loss to you now just like he wasn't when you separated, and as others have already stated if, and it's a big if, he has indeed won then what a shallow life he is leading deliberately contacting you to rub your nose in it. You are so much wealthier than him, perhaps not financially but in lots of other ways, focus on you and enjoy your life maybe one day you will get to live out your dream in Spain and if you do it won't be with a knob head like your ex hanging around.

Maybe he can't contain his excitement? Maybe he's testing you for a reaction? Maybe he's testing all the girls he knows.
Wish him well, stay polite and assume its not even real.
In a way its not real is it? Money isn't a very tangible item anymore. Even bank notes are just a promise to pay.

he did it to get under your skin.... deffinatly worked aswell. wouldnt have worked on me. i know a lot of well off people and it doesnt impress me. i would have said thats nice enjoy your winnings. and literally never thought about it again. other peoples finances have never concerned me. my husband knows he will inherit some money one day as his father called a meeting about the will.... i was invited i declined the invitation and said i couldnt face it and my husband could talk to me about anything i needed to know... for example the childrens position if they are under 18 etc. i didnt want to talk inheritence with people still alive it feels morbid and i had just lost my dad and brother and was rather raw from that.
just try and forget it. thinking what you could do with the money wont do you any good..... its not your money

What a horrible man. If he wanted to share some of his fortune with you, that would be great but just to get in touch to tell you about it is just vile.

I can't understand posters who have turned this around on you, eg accusing you of being "unreasonable and bitter". Yes, people do win things but this was a spiteful thing for her ex to do.

It will probably all go horribly wrong for him because he sounds like quite an emotionally unhealthy person. Big wins like that can often be a lot of pressure and come with awful consequences for your interpersonal relationships unless they are very solid. I know money does solve some problems for people but past a certain point it also starts creating them. Dont envy this man. Im sure you've had luck in your life in other ways. Its a nice fantasy to dream of winning the lottery especially if you are currently struggling but often its better left as a fantasy... it can ruin lives to win millions. It sets off all the pressure points in a person's life. They've done studies on it and its actually up there with traumatic events in its effects.
I think past the amount it would take to buy a house, it starts having a darker side. Not many people really need or can really psychologically cope with having that much money suddenly appear.
I mean hes already being a cunt about it by trying to show off to you... do you really think he's going to be someone who this life changing event ends up having positive consequences for long term? Doubtful.

has he actually won? very odd behaviour

Hear, hear!

We all dream of winning the lottery and a big win would change most of our lives. He won it so up to him how he spends it. If you don’t want to know about it then block him but tbh you are coming across as a bit entitled. You seem to feel that you deserve it more because you believe you would spend it better and that is just not the case. If it were then families with sick children would be winning it all the time do they could pay for best treatment.

Totally agree 💯

He unblocked you just to rub it in - what a knob.

Nah, actually I'd do the exact same thing to my ex if I won the lottery (can't stand the guy) as I would LOVE to rub in his face what he gave up!

OP, you say it is unfair that he won and not you... why is it unfair? I understand why you wish it was you of course- I wish it was me too - but is it really unfair?

It's perfectly normal to feel this way.

He has significantly more money now, which will likely enhance his life with better cars, properties, investments, and possibly even a rockstar lifestyle. He will probably find a new Instagram-famous girlfriend and showcase his new life from beautiful locations all over social media.

However, don't let his newfound celebrity lifestyle affect you.

Be content with what you have and enjoy your own life. Remember, most people around the world don't live like he does.

@SpeedbirdSquawker

I dream of a life away from here!

What steps did you take to improve your life and leave that place behind?

He doesn't sound happy.
Sounds like he's stewing.
He's a twat and you are free of him.
Remember that!
No money is worth being with a twat.